Hey!
If you're wondering about my user-name, it's actually the name of an awesome book, by the same author who wrote "Does my head look big in this?"
But the title seemed to apply to me, and I actually have a list of the 10 things I hate most about me, it's up on my Myspace if you're curious.
I've been giving advice to my friends and family for as long as I can remember, anything from telling my Dad to stop smoking when I was 3 (He finally stopped when I was 5) to helping out friends whose parents were splitting up.
I've found I have a talent for it, and I was recently awarded the title of "Empath" by one of my closer friends. Apparently this was because of my abilty to understand people and the way they think, and why they do things etc.
When I graduate I plan on getting a degree in pyschology at The University of Western Australia, and possibly moving to either England or the USA to work as a shrink.
Aside from giving advice, I'm into any kind of Rock/Alternative/Metal/Punk music, along with a bit of Hip Hop and R&B. I play acoustic guitar, dance, sing (very badly) and I'm into any form of art.
I'm the middle child in my family, with a younger and older brother who are 10 years apart, the elder being 17 and the younger 7.
So yeah, even though I'm new to this site, I have plenty of experience, so feel free to ask whatever, and I'll help you out to the best of my ability.
Website: My Myspace
E-mail: 10thingsihateaboutme@gmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Western Australia
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I'm 14/f and my friend is 14/f [Let's call her June] and my other friend is 15/f [Let's call her Jane].
So, June made a promise to me and Jane saying that she would not do drugs anymore. Well, just yesterday, June came to school high. She took 20 pills of some sort of drug and my other friend had to hold her up in order for her to stay standing up. It was really bad.
I really want to tell her parents or someone because I think she needs help with drug problems because this isn't the first time she's done it. I mean she took some pills last year DURING school. But Jane is really super good friends with June & so she's afraid that June is going to get expelled or suspended. I know that if Jane is a good friend, she'd want her friend to get help. But I can't convice her. I really want June to get help but I don't want Jane getting mad at me along with a few other people.
I'm accepting the fact that losing a friendship is better than to know that the friend is doing drugs and letting her ruin her life. But my other friends aren't and I'm kind of stuck...help? What should I do? (link)
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June does need help, you're right about that. Drugs aren't an easy thing to just give up on your own.
Kinda like chocolate. You promise yourself that you're not going to eat any....But then you decide a LITTLE bit couldn't hurt.
And then maybe just a LITTLE bit more...And then you think "What the heck, I might as well finish what I started" and you end up pigging out anyways.
But if you had a friend there, glaring at you and shaking their head, your guilt would be kicked into gear and chances are you wouldn't eat any.
If June really is your friend and respects your opinion, she's not going to want you to think lowly of her. Have a nice looooooooong chat with HER before going to your superiors.
Explain to her that you have her best interests at heart, and google a few disgusting facts about drugs to back you up.
Jane doesn't have to know about this talk. Usually I wouldn't support keeping secrets from friends, but June really does need help, and if Jane's getting in the way then the easiest thing to do is leave her in the dark.
And if your chat with June works out, then SHE can tell her parents, and ask for help herself instead of having it forced upon her.
But if it doesn't work out, then you'll have no choice but to tell someone who can do something about it. June and Jane and others may be angry with you at first, but (as over-used as it is) they WILL thank you in the long run.
Probably when June's married with 3 kids who WEREN'T born with mental disorders.
But suck it up, a little pain will be worth saving your friend from a lifetime of it.
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