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So I had been a Wiccan for months, and my dad had the bad idea of it. That every Wiccan was a witch. That witches are evil. That the Horned God is associated with Satan because he has horns/antlers. I have never felt comfortable in Christianity, but felt comfortable in Wicca, like I was 100% safe and nothing would ever hurt me. I'll be turning 18 in a few months. Should I just light candles in my room, try to tell the Horned God that I'm sorry and that I'll move in with my friend when I turn 18 and become a Wiccan again?

Your dad is trying to keep you safe, and he believes the path you are following will lead to unhappiness and immorality. He, along with the majority of society, sees "Wiccans" or witches as inherently evil, and their Horned God as the Devil. He is afraid that you are going down a path straight to Hell - which is a REALLY terrible place - eternal suffering? Um... no one wants that for their kids!!

He also still sees you as an impressionable young and innocent child, who just doesn't know any better. He thinks you've been misled and corrupted, and that it is his job as your father to help you find your way back to the right path. He will not listen to what you have to say on the subject because, quite simply, he believes you have been brainwashed, or corrupted, by this "Wiccan" group - which he thinks is inherently evil. He is afraid for you, and you are his baby - he is not going to be very reasonable - it's his emotional side talking, not his rational side.

Because he is your father, you should respect his wishes. You should also listen to everything he has to say - he might know something or have information that you don't, and it may affect how you feel about everything. Give his guidance a chance - he wants only the best for you.

If, after you have listened to him and truly thought about what he has to say, you still feel Wicca is the right path for you, the first thing I would do is try to find someone he will listen to, who does understand why you have chosen this path, and ask them to talk to him.

I would certainly adhere to his wishes. Don't practice the rituals or ceremonies in his home. He has the right to say what can or cannot be done under his roof. But he cannot dictate what you believe. If you prayer and keep the Wiccan beliefs in your heart, and live by them day by day, you have nothing to apologize for. If rituals are required, find somewhere else to enact them.

Try to remember that he is much, much older, and much wiser than you. He was your age once, and he had rebellious thoughts, and he learned - he has a lifetime of experiences he has learned from - and he really is wiser than you are. Times have changed, true, but people and the ways of the world never change - and he has learned a lot more than you probably can even imagine. So listen to what he has to say, and consider it very, very carefully.

I think if you show him that you ARE listening, and that your reasons for going with Wicca are well thought out and logical, and if he is shown what Wicca really is, he may lay off a bit. If not - well, like I said - he cannot make you believe something you don't.

If you don't know someone who is sympathetic to your choice who will talk to him, I would try to find some books or booklets or maybe a website on Wicca, and if you show him you are listening to him and considering what he is saying in a logical and thoughtful way - maybe he will be willing to take a look at the website and find out about what Wicca truly is all about.

Good luck, and remember - he is your father, and you owe him your respect and your consideration. He makes the rules in his house and you should follow them. But he nor anyone else can tell you what to believe - that has to be your choice.

Take care - I hope I have helped some. *smile*

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Okay, I'm 17/f and last night I had a dream. Im not too sure what the meaning behind it is, but it started out with my mom, my nana, and me. we was standing outside, and a bunch of little gnats came and swarm around a certain particular place in my dream, and where ever they would land, that area would set on fire. A bunch of poeple died in the fires, but for some reason- none of the people i was around did. My boyfriend was in the dream, along with a close friend of mine, and an ex of mine. Its like we all stuck together. We ended up in a room with a bunch of people, and I remember asking my mom if she noticed that majority of the people in the room with us were chrisitians. I remember in my dream I was talking to a man who was a really big christian, and I told him I was scared that I wasn't going to Heaven because of certain reasons. I told him I believe in god 100% and I pray to him sometimes, and I talk to him too, but different people have different beliefs on what you need to be accepted into Heaven.

*A couple of weeks ago, my bestfriend Erica told me her mom saw on the news that God was going to come to Earth to take all the Christians on a Thursday*

I remember in my dream, I followed Chris (the ex) in the bathroom, and I told him what Erica told me, and I told him "Look at my phone, today is Thursday!" and he said wow, your right, and look at the date its "11.11.11"

But, I guess what IM trying to say, is why am I having these dreams?

Am I going to hell? I mean, some people say as long as you believe in the lord, you'll get accepted into his home, but some say if you have never been baptised than you will be rejected.
I've never be baptised, I have been saved though. I smoke ciggarettes, Ive had sex before marriage, but Im not a complete slut, I curse. I use to steal. But when I use to feel really bad, I use to pray to god to tell him to forgive me for my sinss. But idk?

My goodness I am so SO sorry I didn't answer sooner! I'm sorry to say my mother passed away a couple of weeks ago, and it's been a very rough time. Still, I feel horrible - for I truly want to always be here if anyone needs someone and no one else is there. I just pray I have not let you down. I hope you will forgive me.

To me, baptism is a promise, made to God, that you will do your best in this life to do whatever He wants you to. For some, that might mean preaching His word to others, or trying to save lives, or working with children. To others, it simply means living your life the way He wants you to. It may mean something different for every one of us. God didn't name us in the Bible (or anywhere else), telling us what He wanted each and every one of us to do specifically. We have to go with what we feel and what our conscious tells us.

You can make that promise without being baptised. God will know. If you never make that promise, but remain confused and unsure - God will still know what's in your heart. God will judge us by what we do. He gave us His rules - the Ten Commandments. While he knows we are not perfect and will break them, he knows what's in our heart, and if we're deserving of forgiveness he will give it. God simply wants us to love each other, and He does *not* want us to hurt each other.

If you always look at your behavior and ask yourself: "Am I hurting anyone?" If you think of all the ways that it may hurt someone - even yourself - and if no one will be hurt, than I don't believe God would think of it as a sin. Of course we make mistakes, we make bad decisions, and we do things we regret - in the end, the most important thing is what we hold in our heart.

No, I don't believe you will go to hell. You've described nothing very bad, and only in certain circumstances would the things you describe hurt anyone - of course, stealing is wrong, but you've stopped - if you stay stopped, you should be fine. :)

So again, my thought is - No, you do not need to worry about going to hell.

The dream you described is pretty interesting. There's some serious symbolism threaded into it - my initial thought is that there's some kind of painful or difficult change or move or choice you have to make, and it scares you and makes you feel guilty at the same time, because of something you've done that makes this choice or change or move especially difficult for you, and maybe impossibe for someone else - the one you feel guilty about.

It seems that whatever this change/choice/move you are waiting for is - it's either something you have to do yourself or something you're waiting for, but somehow you have a say in when it happens. There's someone that is not changing/moving/making the choice along with you, but they were supposed to. The reason they're not or can't is based on something you've done in the past, and that's why you feel guilty. The change/choice/move scares you, because you're leaving something behind - maybe the same person that can't do it, or maybe someone or something different. It's also something you've always known you would do, or something that was always expected of you, or something that everyone has to do - but it's something that you feel must be done and you can't get away from doing it eventually. And it makes you feel lonely or afraid about things. Your family may not be involved at all; I don't think they are, really. It seems like they were more symbolic somehow.

I cannot really do a lot with what you've told me on the dream - and keep in mind, it may just be that you were curious and felt strange while thinking of the second coming. :) Dreams are so changeable that it's very difficult to tell.

If there's more you can remember, I'd be happy to look again, if you send me whatever details you can think of!

Either way - I don't think you're going to hell from what you've said. :) I think you may be worrying yourself about it all when the thing you should do is try to live! You're young and the future is ahead of you - don't feel like you have to rush to experience everything. You have time. Even if God comes next year - He will take us to a place where you won't ever look back to your life on Earth and feel like you missed something - it just won't happen. Things that happened on Earth will be forgotton or will lose a lot of their meaning, so you absolutely won't miss a thing. :)

Good luck to you - I hope I've helped in some small way. Again, feel free to send a little more info on your dream, and I'll share my thoughts!! :):)

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So me and my bf are insane about eachother and we've been this way for a bit i guess... anyways, we always hook up behind the stage at our school and we make out only, because i myself have a purity necklace.. well i always wanted to get felt up idk why i just never saw it as bad because dr's touch boobs, i touch my own boobs, my friends joke around and grab my boobs, how would it be any different if my boyfriend did? anyways, as we were making out today he slid his hand up my shirt and under my bra, and he kept squeezing them. it felt amazing, but like, i feel soooo guilty. he's a senior in highschool and i am a sophomore. we get along great and he's like my best guy friend too not just a bf, so i can tell him anything, ya know? So, yeah i never thought i'd feel this guilty. Do you think getting felt up is a sin if it's the only limit i have until i'm married?? anyways.... one time when i was on the phone with him i told him if i was ready and we were dating for a long time, i'd do everything else EXCEPT sex... and now i really take back telling him that......... after being this guilty from just being felt i'd never want to do more-ever.. so yeahhhh, i think i'm gonna telll him. anyways, is being felt up against my purity necklace? i blessed it myself and when i put it on i made sure i promised that it'd only protect me from having SEX til i'm married. nothing else..... just sex..... i made sure with God that we were clear. if youw ere me, what would you do? is being felt up a sin? is everything but making out against my purity necklace? How am i supposed to feel? someone helpp me ): btw, i'm 15 years old, gonna be 16 this may. Easy five points

I think your purity necklace is *wonderful* and I commend you and admire you for making the pledge and for sticking to it!

No, it's not a sin. It's lust; and it's exploration.

You ask how you're supposed to feel - you are supposed to feel however you *do* feel. If you feel guilty, then I think probably, if you're really, really honest with yourself, you'll know that the reason you felt guilty is probably not that you let him do it, but because you liked it so much! It's amazing, isn't it? *smile*

There's a reason for that too, though, and the person who answered earlier is right, that when you start feeling that amazing feeling, you want MORE!! *smile* That wanting more is what might lead to sex. Imagine how good it felt for him to touch you there, and then multiply that by a THOUSAND, and that's how it's going to feel if you keep going and let him move his hands around to *other* certain areas of your body. That's when you completely forget the world - including your purity pledge... so be careful.

No, it's not a sin - but I would think really hard and be very honest with yourself about why you're feeling guilty - I think it's *probably* because you liked it so much, but only you really know.

I know you *want* to convince yourself, and you *want* someone to tell you, that it's ok to go as far as you want - as long as you don't have sex you'll be keeping your pledge. Well, that's true, technically. BUT - remember how good it felt, and think about why you felt guilty - and then think about, if you felt good in that way, but much MUCH MORE good, how easy it just might be to forget your pledge... then you would be breaking your pledge, and you would surely regret that.

If I were you I'd set very clear limits and stick to them very strictly. Explain to your boyfriend that you just don't know if you can trust yourself, and you thought it would be ok to mess around without having sex, but the temptation is just too much and you don't want to get carried away and end up breaking your pledge.

So in summary - No, if your pledge included only sex, being felt up doesn't go against it. No, it's not a sin. Only what you promised when you put your purity necklace on goes against the purity necklace. You are supposed to feel - the way you feel; it's completely normal.


And finally - if I were you, I would think very hard about *why* you felt guilty - be very honest with yourself about how far you might be able to go and still stay in control, then act accordingly.

Your body is going to WANT to break your pledge; you have to see that, admit it, and decide to control it. When you start letting him touch you, you are tempting your body, and your body starts wanting to go farther - it's normal, it's healthy, and its the way God made us. Still, God wants us to SAVE our bodies for sex in marraige. I don't know what you pledged exactly, but remember that your body and your mind are going to have two different ideas of what you want to do - and the more you give in to what your body tells you - the harder it gets to listen to what your mind tells you. *smile*

Good luck, stay strong, have fun, and above all - respect yourself.

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