I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
I am an author and have written three books, only one under this name, but it is not how I make my living. I am in business, working full time and I have a seasonal business in ponds, selling Koi, goldfish, water plants and supplies. I help people to plan and build ponds, as well as, maintenance if they need it.
I am not here for the ratings and could careless what you rate me. I will tell you things I know, I will tell you what you don't want to hear, but most of all, I will tell you things from my perspective. I have experienced a lot in my life, I have not lived with my head in the sand and I'm a realist, you want someone to blow smoke up your as*, don't read my writings, (I don't do fairy tales).
I am not so foolish as to think I am always right, I can only tell you what I know and give you something to think about. It is up to you to find out if I'm right or not.
Life is complicated, because people are complicated and one answer does not necessarily fit all, but that doesn't mean you should not consider what I say as a possibility.
Feel free to write me personally if you wish, there is only so much you can say in such a restrictive environment as this site is, it doesn't allow for proper conversation.
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I have always wondered exactly what religious/spiritual catagory I fall into. I believe in a higher being but I do not believe in organized religion. Where would I fall? (link)
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You can not be categorized with this simple statement, but then why would you want too? I know there is a higher power, but believe that all organized religions have been corrupted in one way or the other. I consider myself to be a spiritualist and I don't think that my god is as stupid as most religions seem to feel theirs is. I know my god would not continue to forgive my sins just because I went to church every Sunday and asked for forgiveness. Many people do this and then Monday go out and commit the same sin. But, as long as you go and continue to drop money in the collection plate, the preacher will continue to preach that you are forgiven.
Now don't get me wrong and start yelling at me, because you are not one of these people that do this and you attend your church faithfully for guidance. People need to believe what they believe to get through life, so if your church and your belief help you get through life, then more power to you.
As a spiritualist, I know your strength comes from the spirit with in. It is that spirit that connects us all to each other and to god, once you know that connection, you know god and you know that stupid is not one of gods traits.
You must find god your own way, you have the start, find the commonalities dear spirit, you'll get there, then what you call yourself wont matter.
Be well
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what religion is Obama, Clinton, and McCain?? thank you very much :) (link)
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Wow, as Christians, you last two really miss the boat. Jesus was Jewish and never condemned a soul, he only tried to invoke change in the way they thought. You would force them to believe as you and take away the biggest gift given us, free will. With out free will we are no different from any other animal and can not choose to serve god. Following blindly is proven to be the deadliest thing a people can do. You want to change the way people think, take your case to the people and let it stand or fall on it's own. You act like Christianity appeared over night and took hold in Jesus's life time, it did not and is still a fledgling religion, but you will not bring more people to it by force. It took his death and many hundreds of years to get Christianity recognized, you take it back hundreds with your lack of compassion, name calling and your hard line thinking.
Jesus stood up against the status quo of his day and what he thought was wrong and died for it. Now, it is some of his own supposed followers that need to be stood up to, are you going to be trading places in history with those who killed Jesus in order to maintain the status quo?
Be well and don't mistake my love for anger.
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i have been going to the same church for about 8 years, and my paretns work there. i am a core kid, but i have gotten "replaced" but some other girl. she has taken the spot of all the original core kids. so to speak. so the original core kids are getting burnt out of our current church and we havent been getting anything out of it, so we are going to a different church for the next few weeks, and my youth pastor isnt happy with that. he says im not being faithful. what should i do? (link)
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Spirituality is not about serving a church, it is about serving a purpose. If you think that a church no longer serves a purpose, or no longer helps you to serve a purpose, you may need to move on. Be Faithful to your god and yourself, not to the building that claims to house him. I know many of you will say, "Gilbert, what are you doing putting yourself next to god like that?" I would ask you, if you are not faithful to yourself, are you truthfully faithful to your god? All religion is a mater of level, that is why there is so much choice. Never allow someone to guilt you, bully you, or convince you to stop your spiritual growth. You serve god in many ways, others can not decide for you your best path to serving.
Be well, do well,
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Okay I know this is really weird and sick and all but this is a question that I reallllllyy have been searching for an answer for:
Your in love with this guy, head over heals love. and he feels the same way. Your with him ALL the time 24/7. But your not dating because there is a problem. Your both christians, and you also happen to be cousins, (4th to be exact). Should you still like one another or not. WWJD (what would jesus do? Would you got to hell for it, or what? I mean in the end we are all cousins right? (link)
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Legally, as 4th cousins you can marry, but personally, I've always thought that it makes you look somewhat desperate. On the other hand, love is love and only you and the spirits know your path. Search your spirit for your answers, when doubt is no longer present, you will have your answer.
WWJD, Jesus never spoke against love.
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Heyy Everyone!
i keep getting a similar dream. it dosent happen if ive been sleeping soundly, just if i wake up and take a nap. ive gotten in twice in the same week.
the first time i woke up in the morning but i was still in bed. i was thinking about the boy ive beeen hanging out with lately and i realized i think im bored with him. i couldnt think of any fun moments together that we still had sparks. then i fell asleep. but i didnt know i was sleeping, i thought i was still awake. i felt like i couldnt move my body at all, and my heart started racing and it was hard to breathe. it felt like there was a thin wooden board going accross my whole room, starting from the edge of my bed and it was holding me down. i could only open one eye a tiny bit, and i could see my mom standing over me saying "i dont know if she can save herself. we may need to take her to the doctor." i got so scared then, my neck started to burn up. trying to break free i started wiggling my toes and stroking the wooden board until finally i woke up and could move. i jumped out of bed almost shaking i was so scared. this was twords the begining of the week.
yesterday (saturday) i had it again. (after i ended things with the boy.). i had woken up and gone into the other room to watch TV. i was all comfy under the blankets just resting. i didnt think i fell asleep. i felt like i couldnt move again. the back of my neck got hot and it was difficult to breathe. then i saw myself slipping from the bed, from lack of oxygen. then a horn sounded. while the horn was going, there was no air and i could get back in bed but when it stopped i started falling off again. then i hear my mom in the background telling my little brother to stop blowing the horn. finally i woke up.
i told my mom about these, and she said it was anxiety. she asked me what im anxious about. lately ive been thinking it could have been the boy ive been hanging out with. the second time i fell asleep, i was thinking about how sad he looked after i ended things between us.
so my questions are:
1. what does everything in the dream represent (in your opinion).
2. how do i know what im anxious about?
3. how do i fix this and make the dreams go away?
thanks so much!!
and help would be great, thanks! (link)
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This is referred to as Sleep Paralysis, it has been studied by many sleep clinics and doctors. It is a stage right before REM sleep and is quite common. Though disturbing, they have little or nothing to do with what has been suggested by your mother, or the previous poster. Your recollections of it are classic, right down to believing there is someone in the room, a lot of people mistake them for alien visitations. Do a search, Sleep Paralysis and while you are at it, look up Lucid Dreaming.
The Boy friend is another matter, while boredom is not a reason to do anything but go out and have some fun, (if your mother tossed her children out the door once she got bored with them, you would have been gone long ago). But the fact that you, as it seems to me, can speak so nonchalantly about breaking up with him, I'd say that answers that question.
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SORRY THIS IS LONG BUT IM FREAKED OUT!!
well in all my pictures i have a little white smudge. its usually by my head. and when people come over they are always like "whoa i just saw a flash out of the corner of my eye!" and i se it sometimes too, and i dont tell them about it so they cant know that i also see it. and it hasnt recently started. its been like that for as long as i can remember. and sometimes things move unexplained around me, like things laying on the floor with nothing around it, once my computer chair rolled back while i was sittingin it, that freaked me out alot. windows shut and open. could a spirit be attatched to me? im a skeptic just like many and ive resorted to thinking theres a spririt attatched to me. ive eliminated all other logical explanations, like camera faultiness, or wind blowing or things like that and most of the time it makes no sense.
this is scaring me, tell me what you all know!
thank you! (link)
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I would ask if it is always in the same exact place, or does it move or react to you. If it is in the same place, it is most likely a form of energy either coming from you or gathering to you for some reason.
If it is not in the same place every time and seems to react to you, (other then staying with you in the same place when you move), it could be a ghost, spirit or guardian, neither are normally anything to worry about.
Document this as best you can with pictures and words. Record, time, date, what you were doing, thinking and anything else you think important at the time it appeared. See if there is anything in common between appearances, also, find out what the make up of the ground soil is around the area that these appearances happen, minerals etc...
Also, your age and sex is important, strange things like this will happen to teenagers, girls in particular, (but not exclusively), during this time in their life.
Have fun with it, it will most likely be a fleeting thing and stop on it's own, but don't leave yourself open to being called a lier when you retell the story years from now. Document it.
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