Advice from a college student for high school students who want help from someone who's been to high school, done high school stuff, and... well, to complete the saying, 'got the t-shirt'. Mostly focused on interpersonal stuff, though I'm good for homework help too.
Website: words of wisdom from t3h ch1x0r
Gender: Female
Location: Fairfax County, VA (though I go to college at PSU in State College, PA)
Occupation: College Student
AIM: scarletdreams09
Member Since: August 23, 2005
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suddenly i feel so alone
my cat hasnt ben sleeping in my room
my dog hasnt been asking me to walk her
my birds havnt been whistleing
and my mom hasnt been home
my mom is going on vacation for her b-day with out me
my dad works in brooklyn and gets home at 1 in the morning and has to leave at 6 in the morning
my sister isnt ever home && she treats me like crap
my friends havnt been inviting me over
you know what i mean, why do i feel so alone?!!?!? can you help me how to get with people
PS people arent alowed here with out a adult (i like by a lake and yeah)
i cant get to their house
they live too far away for their parents to drive me
my mom and dad have a job
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my sister hates meso she doesntdrive me places
i am never able to tlak to my family! (link)
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My suggestion is - take some initiative and walk your dog, take some time to be around your dad, and invite your friends over with your friends' permission because then they'll invite you over.
Make sure you talk to your sister, too. Call your mom or dad while they're not at home and say hello or something. It's as easy as picking up the phone.
You just need to do your part in relating to these people.
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My brother's birthday is in a couple of days and I want to make this banner that spells out his name and with the letters of his name I want something to describe him.His name is Josh,18 years old,football player,popular,funny,(the girls seem to want him) So if anyone had any ideas Id appreciate it! (link)
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You could say,
"Josh is an
Outstanding and
Super-cool big brother!
Happy Birthday!" on your banner.
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I wanted to get Emancipated because I live with my dad and he constantly give me put downs, and so does his wife, linda my step mom. My moms an alcholic, and was abusive too me when I was a child now we have a realationship but I can't live with her. I need to get out, because this faily is driving me nuts, I feel so horrable at home I drive myself crazy... I have two jobs, enoguh money, live in VA, and have another place to live, with my retired boss, who's 61. She'd watch over me, and take care of me, untill im 21..
I work really hard im a great student and am well rounded. But I'm 15..Is there anyway I could get emanciapated? If so how, and etc. Thanks ! (link)
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Unfortunately, in the state of Virginia (where I live), you cannot become an emancipated minor until you are sixteen, even though you can support yourself on your own, because you have not yet reached the age of majority.
That said, I suggest you get in touch with your retired boss and ask her if she can help you obtain some counseling, because this is truly a sticky situation. I wish you luck.
Hope this helps.
~Kathy
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See I have this really awsome Dad. But I stopped seing him because him and my mom got in a fight. Like not physical. But like swearing. Then that went to court and I am not allowed to see him anymore. I havnt seen him in 5 years. And all my friends at school know him and get to see him and are always talking about how cool he is and I know he is cool but I miss him reallllyyy bad. And I cant wait until I am 18 to see him but I have to. Every night I cry and cry. What do I do? What do I do to stop being depressed. Everyone at school calls me bad names and a girl even sprained my pinky but the teachers dont really care. They just gave her lunch detention for one day. All my friends are like get over it. Dont care what people say. But ever since I strted public school (since 5th grade) people have been treating me like crap every day and it doesnt stop. Its not just the normal name calling, its worse and it has scarred me. I cant take it anymore. Its so annoying and I am a sensitive person but I act tough and just cry when I get home. I have tried to do something about it but they just blame it on me when I am kind to them even when their mean to me. I even got suspended once for no reasen. Well, the person blamed somthing on me and i got suspened for 4 days (in school suspension) plus week of detention. I dont know what to do. Plus my mom verbally fights with me a lot. I dont feel safe anywhere. What do I do? My mom even called me a loser and I suck and said my friends are losers and no1 likes me? HELP!I am a girl and I am 12. HELLLLLPPPPP! (link)
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This sounds like something you need to talk to your school counselor about. Make an appointment with him or her and bring up your concerns, because unlike your parents, counselors are PAID to lend a helping hand to you, and this is the job they CHOSE, so most likely, they like their job. Reaching out for help is a good first step.
Also, you do not 'suck'. Nobody in and of themselves 'sucks'. My parents are still together, but you remind me a little of how I got similarly abused in third, fourth, and fifth grade. It's not fun, but you can resolve your problem gradually.
That said, what I suggest you do about it is find some school activities to involve yourself in, and spend time finding your own interests. You'll soon learn that you don't need to be popular to be a worthwhile person, and that the people who will be your truest friends will like you for who you are. So it's okay to cry, but stand up to the people who are abusing you, and in the meantime, search for other people whom you haven't approached yet - try talking to and being around the shy people, the nerds, or even a popular person that you haven't approached yet. Once you make yourself approachable, people will come to appreciate your qualities, and THAT is how you gain friends. Good luck!
Hope this helps.
~Kathy
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My mom is really riding my case about getting a part time job since I am planning to wed next year. I would have a job if I didnt have 18 hours this semester. that is a lot of responsiblity. Its not like this will push the wedding back It would just get me more details on my big day. I want her to back off but she is my mom how do I tell her?22/f (link)
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Yes, you have eighteen credit hours this semester. You didn't say how many credit hours you were going to take in any following semesters.
That said, eighteen credit hours is a lot. However, this issue comes down to time management. Can you find a job through your school that can earn you money while still allowing you to have the class schedule that you have? Plan out your credit hours for subsequent semesters and then, if that isn't good enough, tell your mother that your education (I'll assume you're in some sort of graduate school, since you're twenty-two) is a higher priority than getting a part-time job right now, and that you can find a part-time job once you are married. Lots of graduate students work part-time and can manage a busy class schedule. Plan out your day, set aside time for schoolwork, make sure you can squish in your work between all your classes, and do your best!
Hope this helps.
~Kathy
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