My name is Samantha
I'm married and also have a son.
Gender: Female
Location: Ma
Age: 28
Member Since: November 20, 2006
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I guess I'll start with some background information first. I'm 21, married, have two kids, working two jobs, and in college full time. I've been away from home and on my own for two years. My sister (I'll call Ann) is 25. She still lives with my parents. She doesn't go to college, and pays no bills.
So, why does my mom now so blatantly prefer Ann over me? I can have plans with my mom for weeks, but if Ann decideds wants mom for something, my plans will be canceled...even if I've put money into tickets or reservations.
I ignored it til today. I really need a new pair of shoes. The ones I'm wearing now are held together with tape, and my feet show through. I've been looking for new shoes for days, but I have funy-shaped feet and I can't find any. My mom promised me (now that I finally have extra money) that she would help me find shoes today. But, oops!, Ann wants ANOTHER purse and NEEDS my mom's opinion. I won't have time off again to find shoes until two weeks from now. Ann is free every morning (and knows I'm not).
Why does my mom always choose her over me? (link)
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By the sound of it you are pretty selfsuffient. You work hard and take care of your business on your own. I dont think that your mother prefers your sister over you I think your mother just thinks your sister is more needy especialy considering shes 25 and doesnt wrk and lives at home. I would confront your mother about canceling plans with you comstantly.
Explain to her that your free time is far and few between. You may fight and be prepared for that but she's your mom and it will pass. But the longer you let it build up the more resentment your going to have, not just for your mom but for your sister.. Trust me I've been there
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I have a brother who is in college. He is 3 years older than me. We used to be really close, but now he has a girlfriend and I barely get to see him anymore. We used to talk like all night but now all he wants to do is hang out with her. On my birthday we went on vacation and he didnt say happy birthday or anything but the first thing he did was buy his girlfriend a present. Now whenever I see them I just start acting really mean and stuff. I dont mean to, but I just get mad because I used to be able to talk to him so easily. I know im just jealous, but I really wish I could spend more time with him. Is there any way for me to get over my jealousy? Im worried his gf thinks im really rude and stuff. But I honestly dont mean to act that way. Please help!!! (link)
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Talk to the girlfriend,
When the three of you are together ask to talk to her for a second. when you get her alone explain to her that your really not the person that you have been pretending to be meaning rude ect. Tell her that you have no time with your brother anymore and ask her if you can tag along every once in a while. 10 to 1 she'll tell your bro and tell him how you feel and nothing is more attractive to a girl than a man being nice to his fam. The reason why they dont hang out with you could be because she thinks your her b-friends bratty little sister. I've been there only it was the other way around. I stopped hangin w/ my sister for the same reason. I didnt know she was jealous I thought she was just being a brat
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