In life, we choose to believe what we want to believe, and choose to see what we want to see.
In my life, I chose to see logic with the highest regard to the moral north of everything.
And I have seen the world deciding to be blind through conformity, armoured with excuses and apologies, pretending that the truth can be subjective.
I have seen and observed the decline of humanity and the devolution of ethics.
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Okay so i don't know why people are so mean to me.. Like my parents too. I'm nice and sweet and I give my everything, but I guess that's not enough. I'm a female I'm 15 years old. Everyone says that I can't do anything and that I'm useless. I try not to care but its my parents telling me I don't even get told that at school like wtf. But I wanted to know why are my parents so mean to me? (link)
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My son and I had the same argument before. He confronted me one day and said "Look Dad, we have to talk." So we did. Let me share to you a summary of the conversation.
My son said I was always picking on him, nitpicking on everything he does and considered him unless making him feel really useless. He added that I don't understand his situation, and that the world has changed since the time I was 15. Mind you, my son just turned 16 this December.
When he was done blowing up on me - yes, I let my son blow off steam from time to time - I asked him if he had an open mind to my response. To this, he said, yes.
I told him that i honestly don't want to remind him everything that he does wrong. The task of reminding someone what to do day in and day out, every minute and every second does not benefit me and it was really tiring. To this, he said, I guess I do put myself in place where you can always remind me.
I nitpick on everything because he has to learn that in order for him to be respected by the world someday, the allowance for error should be really small, and consistency on his integrity is really important. To this he said, "That's the point dad, it is old fashioned and it does not work in the world anymore."
Which got me to the last part. The new world. I looked at him and said, "Look around, what do you see. You yourself can say that the world does not look highly on principles and integrity. It does nitpick on mistakes and condemn people for reasons they come up with. The wrong becomes right as long as the mistaken party can have his or her share of fun." And he said, "Well, yeah?"
Finally, I asked him, "Isn't that the definition of ugly?"
I will tell you what i told my son.
"We see things the way we want to see them. We don't ask what they mean, we just assume we know. We want to get what we want, and shrug the consequences that comes with them. We are reckless and we act on emotions. That is why we fail all the time."
Talk to them. Tell them how you feel. I am sure they will understand. Don't assume that they won't.
Good luck.
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