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I just got out of 9th grade and my mother still will barely let me do anything. She won't let me go to the beach unless there's an adult there. I can't go anywhere with anyone unless she meets their parents first. She flips out when guys call. I wouldn't care so much but a lot of times a miss out on doing fun stuff because no one elses parents chaperone, they just drop their kids off places, and then I'm not allowed to go. Forget parties, because there are no parents she can confirm with that i'll be safe and not drinking or doing drugs. Does she expect me to never do anything in highschool? She doesn't trust my judgement, and doesn't understand that I won't make the same mistakes she did. I'm tempted to start lying 2 her and sneaking around so that I'm not stuck at home all weekend doing nothing. Soon my friends are going to be able to drive and she says I can't ride in their cars. I'm going to have a lot of boring weekends! How do I show her that I'm responsible so that I can go places? What can I say to her that will help her let go a little and not be so protective?
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sit down and talk to your mom.
tell her that you are not going to do anything she thinks is inappropriate.
tell her your not going to do drugs.
tell her your not going to have sex.
tell her your not going to get into trouble.
you're grown up now hun. you should be able to go out with your friends and party. i know how you feel because my parents were exactly like that when i was in 8th grade last year. you're in high school & if they keep you away from things that normal teenagers do, you wont get to live.
tell her that
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My dad gets mad REALLY easy. For an example, the other day i wanted to try out for travel softball and i asked him if he could bring me some clothes to try out in. then he said "what do you wanna try out for? the outfield?" so then he came to pick me up and he saw me playing for a little. When we were walking to the car he was like "do you WANT to try out?" and i said "no anymore.." because what he said to me sorta put me down. so then he said "YOU NKOW WHAT? YOU NEED AN ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT" and i said "I only said i didnt want to anymore i didnt even say anything" and then hes liek "THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO RITE NOW IS TO SHUT YOUR MOUTH!" and i dont know what to do because he gets mad so easy for no reason. HELP!
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sit down & tell him to be quiet and listen to you for 5 minutes. 5 minutes is all it will take. tell him not to interrupt and listen.
my dad does this to me all the time..
tell him how you are feeling. i know its kinda hard, & you might feel a little bit shy because he might get pissed, but its the best thing to do. tell your dad that you love him & he is really hurting your feelings. & if he doesn't understand how you are feeling, then talk to your mom about it, maybe she could talk to him. ive done that before and it helped quite a bit.
good luck dollface
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ok well me and my whole family always fight and they always blame me for everything and they make me feel like they dont love me and everything and i started to think does my family love me? and i think they dont so now i got the feeling that i shouldnt be living becuz i have no one that loves me so i think i should just kill myself i've always solved my problems by cutting myself becuz i think it makes the pain go away but now im starting to think i should kill myself or something what should i do i really need some help and quick becuz i might do osmething i might regret later on
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you are going exactly what i went through and sort of am still going through.
my family (parents 'n' 1 sis) and i have NEVER gotten along, and i mean never by, not even on family vacations,or during dinner at a resturaunt etc. i really started to hate my life and i felt like they didn't love me or care about me. so i started cutting myself and i went into depression. bad choice. it really caused my family a lot of grief and depression.
i told my family my reasons of cutting. so i had to go to the doctor, and they referred my family and myself to a counclier. she really helped me to get throught the problems i was having with my family and make it more enjoyable as i spent time with them. so maybe you can go to a family counclier? the counclier helped a lot, but not as much as i needed, so i had to make an effort to want a better relationship with them! and so far i have been happier with them, BUT occasionally we still get fight, but hey, what family doesn't??
btw ur family loves u even tho it doesn't seem like it :-p! take care.. and STOP cutting urself please, its not worth it, try to find other ways to cope with ur frustration! :-p
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