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My mom and I used to have a great relationship. This might be long. I'm sorry, but I need advice. 13/f.
I was never embarrased when she would come and have lunch with me, including hugging and kissing me in public. Now, over a period of time, I feel like we're slowly drifting apart. One minute, we can be laughing, the other, we'll be arguing over something like clothes. I'll give you a scenario. We're at the store and I like this shirt, so my mom buys it. A couple weeks later, I'm wearing an older shirt that I had before the new shirt to a restaurant, and my mom completely flips out and tells me that I should wear the new shirt that I bought. Now, I have two problems. I can be selfish at times, and I will say 'Mom, I don't want to wear this shirt to the restaurant'. And she'll complain every day and give me a lecture about how I never wear clothes that she buys me, and that she's afraid to buy me any other clothes because I will forget about them. Sometimes, I put on a fake smile and say that I love the shirt, but I'm putting an act for my mom, to save the arguments. It seems like we're fighting every day now because of a shirt that I don't want to wear. I hate myself for being so stubborn and ungrateful. Sometimes, I feel like I can't even talk to my mom. I talk to my stepdad about boys. I'm so scared that I'll get punished for even thinking about boys since I come from a strict Russian family. My 20 year old cousin doesn't even talk about boys around her family members, especially her mom, my second aunt, who will probably yell at her in Russian. I don't want us to drift apart and not even speak to each other when I'm older. I want us to remain close for as long as possible. I've tried talking to her and telling her that I appreciate what she's doing for me and how hard she works. I just don't know what to do now. (link)
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I think ALL teenage girls go through this stage. I went through it too. Dont be embarrassed by her she's your mother. Learn to appreciate everything she does do for you. If you dont like the shirt, then be honest with her. You dont have to be mean about it, just be honest and tell her that you would rather not spend money on it if you arent going to wear it. And another thing....save the arguing for things that seem more important than clothing because it's not worth it. You're lucky to have a mom that wants to do those things with you and wants to buy you clothes. Enjoy it and let her know every once in a while how much you appreciate it.
Hope that helped.
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hey.. i have a VERRRY bad situation. My mom and dad are getting a divorce and i dont know what to do! Is it my fault? What can i do (if possible) to get them back together? i love my mom and my dad but when they yell and scream its hard for me to love either one of them.... plz plz plz help!! Everytime i think about it it makes me cry!! (link)
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im sorry your parents are getting a divorce...i can only imagine how hard it is! but it is DEFENITELY not your fault! sometimes two people just dont get along and if thy are getting a divorce...it is there decision and if they arent happy together then believe me...you dont want them to be together! its okay to be angry when your parents fight...that is normal! just remeber that they have their differences and sometimes they just need to yell and scream for a while and then they'll be okay again! but i am so sorry you are going through a time like this...if you need someone to talk to you i am Always here.ill always be ready to talk!
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Ok sorry that this is long but please don't pass over it I really need help.
My parents aren't divorced but they both cheat on each other they basically both get with anything that moves of the opposite sex. My dad is always drunk and is very abusive. My mom isn't physically abusive but she just tells me that I'm a waste of life and that she wishes she never had me and that I'm such a huge mistake and bla, bla, bla but her boyfriend Tom hits me all the time and even rapes me sometimes. I've gone to the police before and they took my parents side because to everyone else they look like such nice people. But at night they're druggies and alcoholics. I even went to social sevices they put me in a home for a week where I started cutting and then they put me right back with them! Lately I met a guy who uses drugs and I've been going out with him. And we were using and did some things and now I'm pregnant and I don't know what to do. He was arrested for possesion so I can't go to him. I can't go to my parents. I really don't have any friends who aren't stoners and all they care about is how they're going to get their next fix. I don't know what to do. I've already tried killing myself and it didn't work. I'm soo scared I don't know what to do. I was going to run away but I know that I'll just end up somewhere where there's drugs and I'm really trying to stop. What can I do about all of this? Please help me (link)
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wow.....i am sooooo sorry that you have to go through all of this. it sounds like your parents dont realize what they're doing to you and you are in some tough stuff there. i think that you HAVE to find new friends and a new bf because drugs and cutting doesnt help ANYTHING! im sorry that you feel you have to do this but you dont....i have a lot to say to this so im me and i will talk to you and again i am soo sorry that you go through this all the time but you need to find help before everything gets worse...im me asap!
i hope i hear from you...
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