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Q: Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my sister moved in with my 4 year old niece and my 2 year old nephew and now they are sleeping in my room since we only have a 2 bedroom house and now iam sleeping on the couch and they are sleeping in my room and I don't think that is fair and when I talked to my mom about it she said I was being selfish am I being selfish?I have no privacy whatsoever and I think as a teenager I need all the privacy I can get and I have none how can I get more privacy?
please help me.
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I don't think you're selfish. It takes everybody a while to adjust. For whatever reason, your sister needs help, because she moved back into her parents house with her kids. I mean, from her perspective, how embarrassing is that? All she needs right now is extra pressure from you. If you really feel violated, talk to your sister and your mom calmly and maturely. Try bargaining with your sister-will she take the kids out on the weekend and leave your room to you if you babysit them on the weekdays? If the kids are getting in your stuff, make a bin full of things that they can play with. If they have access to some things, they won't be as tempted to mess with all of it. Sleep over at your friends houses more often, and be patient. When you need help in the future, your sister will remember how generous and sweet you were in her time of need. Good luck!
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Q: On December 16th, my cousin was raped by her neighbor/exboyfriend. She has been in deep depression ever since, she just told me two days ago that she was raped and thats why she's had depression. She promised me she would tell her parents, as long as I kept my mouth shut. Now she refuses to tell, and she told me she has though several times as to ending her life over it. I got scared and told my older brother, he hasn't told my parents yet, but I don't know what to do. I`m scared for her [ she lives across the country so theres nothing I can do about that] I swore to her I wouldn't tell, but I did. I just don't know what to do.
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I can imagine how scary this must be for you, and I understand how violated your cousin will feel if you tell. (I was miserable when my cousin told a guy I liked him, and your situation is much more dire. You need to tell an adult. All of the evidence is virtually gone (I'm going to assume that your cousin changed her clothes and showered since December 16th lol.) Seriously, though, tell your school guidance counselor, your parents, her parents, any responsible adult. I wouldn't recommend the police because you don't have all of the details, and you can help your cousin on a smaller scale. An adult can get your cousin the treatment she needs, and then the criminal can be caught. If you don't tell anybody, your cousin's rapist will still be living a normal life, and may hurt another person the way he hurt her. You have to do something, for your own sake and for your cousin's. Maybe you and your brother can approach your parents together. It will be hard, but I promise you'll be doing the right thing. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope I helped.
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Hey! I'm Elana. I'm 14 years old and I'm always available if you need anything. Even if you think it's a stupid question, feel free to ask...Hope to hear from you soon!!
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E-mail: Gender: Female Age: 14 AIM: Member Since: October 1, 2005 Answers: 49 Last Update: June 20, 2006 Visitors: 4240
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