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I am a wife...a mother...a teacher...an artist...and a survivor of many of lifes pains, bumps and bruises. My advice is always well thought out but it's up to you as to which one of my personalities answers you. If you need that sweet mother love I got you. But if you're about to wreck your life over something stupid the StarChild may have to blast you. Either way, it's all from the bottom of my heart so I hope it helps.
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Age: 39
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julie75
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hey guys! my mom always calls me and my sister bad words on a daily basis. im so sad and tired of it and it makes me feel like she doesnt want us. shes alwas saying how me and my sis make everything miserable and just a couple minutes ago, me and my sister were going to sleep in our playroom in the basement but we came upstairs cause we saw a centipede and got scared. next thing we knew, my mom came running down the stairs and started screaming at us that my dad was trying to sleep and she kept calling us "little f**kers", "f*ck a** b**ches" and a ton of other nasty names. me and my sister tried 2 get upstairs as quietly as possible but the door squeaks and we were scared. i dont know but i think my mom was overreacting just as she did a few days ago wen she verbally AND physically attacked me. please tell me. is this abuse or just dicipline. p.s. dont bother giving me hotline numbers because i wont call. im too scared and i know i wont be happy. so just forget about that. and dont tell me to talk it out with her cause she will just tell me to shut the f*ck up an then offer up the number to child protection services knowing i wont call. i have tried everything to get her to love me. i have even tried collapsing to the floor but she says im acting like an a** and ground me. nothing works. i have nobody to confide in or turn to. no trustworthy friends or family. nobody. so i just need 2 know, is this abuse or what? kisses! -C (link)
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No it's not discipline it is definitely abuse but you made it very clear in your question that you're not gonna call for help or go seek help, so that makes it very hard to help you...because those are the thing you need to do. Otherwise you will be miserable and afraid. You don't deserve to live like that. Look beyond your fear...do you really want to live with her and continue going through this? Abusers don't stop until someone in authority stops them.
Be safe Love.
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My mom and I have always had a friend relationship and she has always left me for someother guy and doesn't ask to see me that much and she alway text me about her life and hardly asks about mine and just a few days ago me and her got in a fight and she cused at me calling me a B**** and that I was a spoild little brat and all I said is that I was made cus she left and has non of her kids and she still calls herself a mom and she always lied to me and tryed to play it off and i am feed up with it is it ok to hate your mom for all the shit she has put me in? Please help the more help I get the better.
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In this life you only get one mom. Other people can try to fill that role but the heart will always ache for the real thing. Do you have the right to hate her...yes. But because of who she is you have to respect her. Should she be calling you a bitch or anything else other than your name...hell no. She sounds like she has a lot to work out within HERSELF. And it's not your position to try to fix a grown @ss woman. Maybe she's dealing with some esteem issues of her own especially since so many men seem to be in and out of her life.
What kind of upbringing did your mom have? Was your grandmother there for her or did she have a good female roll model to show her how to be a parent? I didn't and because of that my kids suffered to some extinct.
Love her and respect her but it sounds like until she grows up herself, she can't give you what you need and deserve.
Hope that helps...
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