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Q: So basically, my mom's boyfriend who have been together since I was a little baby (I'm 15) has basically been my dad to me. I just started calling him my stepdad to people just because its just easier to say. a thought popped into my head one day and I thought about just calling him dad. But I feel like it would be completely awkward. I feel awkward just thinking about it. Like he was kind of on my bad side before last year for awhile because of his temper and him raising his voice and getting mad over the stupidest things. For instants, he yelled at me because I opened a drink, took a sip, didn't like it, put it back in the fridge saying I would get it back later, and he flipped because I just wasted something. I really hated him then. but now everything seems really okay, and he actually started to say 'i love you' to me. it felt kind of great but awkward. i told him the same back but I left. Would it be a good idea to call him 'dad'?
Its really on if you feel comfortable calling him that. ?you could also talk to your mom about the subject or him himself just to get some insight. But like I said before its really up 2 you if you feel comfortable saying that

Q: My sister is 15-years-old. We have had problems with her for years, she doesn't do anything anyone tells her, has screaming tantrums on a daily basis, steals from us and more recently has been kicked out of school.

Today I found out that she is pregnant by her boyfriend of six months. I am absolutely livid. This is my final year of school and I will be taking important exams around the time that the baby is due. It is also my 18th birthday next week, which is a pretty big deal as I live in the UK, and we were planning a big party with family and friends. Obviously this is now being completely overshadowed.

I know I'm being selfish for just thinking about myself but for years I have suffered as a result of her behaviour, baring the brunt of my parents' anger and finding it really difficult to stay at home as the constant noise and arguments are too much. This feels like the last straw. This year is so important for me and instead of fully supporting me, my parents are going to be preoccupied with this.

I know she might not even end up having the baby as it is very early days and she hasn't made any decisions yet, but I am furious with both her and my parents, who I partially blame for this. Ever since she got together with her boyfriend I told my parents I didn't think it was a good idea to let her stay at his house and that she wasn't using protection but no one listened to me. They are now angry with me for being upset. My sister and I had a bad relationship anyway but now I don't want her anywhere near me. As far as I'm concerned she has ruined what is going to be one of the most important years of my life.

What should I do? I honestly don't think I can bare being anywhere near her, let alone live with her, especially if she decides to keep the baby. I can hardly look at my parents because I'm so angry about their attitude and the way they're dealing with it.
First off let me say that I'm sorry your parents are letting you have the butt of everything and the anger is coming towards you. Your sister is a very trouble person and honeslty if you dont wanna stay in that house,dont, move in with a relative you trust and think will help you in order to achieve your goals this year. Like you said it is an important year for you and it is your year in a way. But like I said if its that bad I would say go live with a relative, explain to your parenst exactly why you want to do this, maybe they will understand why but its still your choice wether you want to do that or not..I hope it gets better for you:)

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Hey whats up! If you wanna know about me all you have to do is ask. I am very good at giving advice although sometimes I can be very harsh when it comes to the truth. But the truth hurts and if I am brutely honest I'm sorry. I listen to Dr. Laura so that could be why sometimes. I dont care what you say about her.. I like her deal with it but if you need advice just let me know and I'll do my best to help you out :)

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