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I'm Kevin or Ruminator! I took Ruminator from the word ruminate. One of it meanings is to go over in the mind repeatedly and often casually or slowly. I love helping people! I have learned not to give advice per say but listen and ask questions that opens awareness to possibly a bigger picture. I'm still a kid in spirit! I love life! I'm very active for a 41 year old with CP (Cerebral Palsy). In September 2007 I attempted to cycle from San Diego to Portland Oregon. I only got 600+ mile, hence the word attempted. I'm happy with the adventure so on to the next one! My next adventure this spring is a hydro-foil ride from Long Beach CA to Catalina and back! Stay tune for more on this!
As I said earlier, I love helping people. I've been teaching workshops on respect and understanding differences since 1992. I now want to do more one on one help so here I am. I will try my best to give food for thought and maybe we can both ruminate!
My approach is to ask questions so you'll find answers that really apply to you. I�ll also give you my opinion but I think the best advice come from within.
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I am a 17-year old girl about to go to college. I absolutely love my family. However, recently my dad has been acting harshly towards my mom, but not in an abusive way- he doesn't specify where he's going when he's going out, for example, and expects her to take it. They've been married 26 years, but he doesn't show her a lot of affection -and she has complained to me about it. Now I have proof that he is having an affair. The only problem is is that this proof is his text messages - things I shouldn't be looking at. I couldn't help myself, and I know it was wrong. However, now that I know should I do and/or say something? I am absolutely heartbroken and shocked, but more than that is the fact that my mom doesn't deserve this. Is there anything I can do? Please help me.
No one has said this yet but I think you should talk to your school counselor. Maybe they could give you some direction and support. I think there's to many factor to weigh for good direction. Some face to face counseling is my suggestion. Trust your heart!