my cousin is in my school, he made it so easy for me to fit in there and im soo happy for it..he has so much going for him and now he smokes pot like alotttt he didnt as much before..but i really want him to stop b.c my mom and sister are messed up like that and i dont want it to happen to him, hes an amazing soccer player and everything...how can i talk to him or get him to stop w.o sounding like a health freak?
why not take him out to catch a soccer match or something? do some stuff u he used to like to do when he was younger. like take him on a walk down memory-lane kinda thing? voice out to him that ur not the only one whos worried about him (during the walk) his family is probably just as worried about his health too. to stop sounding like a health freak, go easy on him. dun be too harsh on him when he starts acting weird and smoking pot again. besides it wouldnt take overnight to change him and stop him from smoking pot. maybe u can approach a family member to help ya along with it. hoped i helped a little, take care!
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Hi everyone,
I came to USA 4 years back because of job and now in the attempt of earning and saving more money, I am stuck up here. My family( My wife and my kids) was with me for last 2 years and they went back recently to my home country because of certain family problems. I am missing my family too much. I dont know, how american/european/russian/asian people feel if they undergo in the same situation. Let me know what and how you feel. Thanks. MACHADS
hey there, coming from an asian backgroud here it certainly is no different actually what ever background u come from. we all tend to miss our loved ones dearly when we dun get to see them everyday. why not call them up like once every week to check on them (or ure doing that already?) or how about get a webcam? of course ur wife's home should have a webcam too then u guys can see each other still! lol i know im not much of a help.. but i hope everything goes fine for ya.. take care!
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There's this little boy and he's 12 years old. His mom got in a freak car accident in which a lighting bolt struck a tree and it fell on her car a killed her. And if that wasn't bad enough his step-dad kicked him out. I really want to help him out because he's such a sweet kid and he doesn't deserve this. Any suggestions about what to do? Thanks for any help I'll try my best to give you good rates!
im sorry to hear about his late mother and the curelty of his step-dad, but sometimes life is simply not on our side. we didnt choose the way we want our life to be, its already predestined that this and that will happen. i'll show him all the love i have and shower him with warmth and comfort. hes still young and doesnt really know whats the outside world about, make sure he doesnt feel angry at his plight and doesnt self abuse(cutting) himself. hes probably going through a tough time right now. be there for him, stand by him and support his future dreams.
hoped i helped! -Rei
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OK When I was about 14 my mom told me that when I wanted to go on birth control that all I had to do was ask her about it. Well its been over a year and I dont know how to bring it up. We're not really that cloce. She meant when I'm 'in love' and I want to do it with that special person. Well thats kinda not the deal rite now I'm not in love at all. I dont even have a bf. But I want to go on it .. how do I ask her ? I cant just bring it up out of nowhere..
lol to be frank, being it up outta nowhere was actually my suggestion! it puts her at the spot and surprises her a little. but at least she knows how to answer the question.. =P -Rei
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the past year me and my mom have been fighting a lot and im sick of it! i always think that things will get better but they dont. yesterday she was supposed to go on a couple of erins but before me and my sister were fighting (which is normal i mean we were just getting annoyed by each other) so then she just stays home and a little later says that she wants us to come w/ her. so rite when we're about to leave my friend calls and asks if i can go swimming w/ her and i asked my mom and she said ok. then like 5 seconds after i hung up i asked her where my swim suit was and she starts screaming at me that i cant go and that shes late for what she wanted to do today so she was gonna leave me and my sister alone while she goes out and said i have to call my friend back up and say i cant go. i said that i couldnt do that cuz i just told her i could go so i started screaming to her how i hate the way shes always screaming at me and how she always changes her mind and that i hated my life. then she told me that i needed to go to a doctor but what i need is for her to stop all of this (which is never going to happen). then she starts watching tv and i said how come you aren't leaving and she said that she couldnt leave me alone the way i was acting and i told her that its not me or my sister's fault that she didnt go before cuz we told her that it was fine and we wouldnt fight before, but she just keeps saying how its our fault because we were fighting. finally she says that i can go so she wouldnt have to deal w/ me so as i was putting my swim suit on she starts screaming at me that i have to get downstairs in 10 seconds so when i was goin out the door she starts really really screaming at me w/ a mean glare that im grounded for everything. that nite when i got home she was a little bit better so i wanted to walk my dog but she wanted to come on a walk to so she was there but when we were on the driveway i asked if she was mad at me and she said yes so i went inside and didnt go on the walk. also that nite at dinner i asked if she hated me and she didnt answer. i really dont like her but i just wish she would stop all of this. this kind of thing happens like every day and i hate it! sorry this is so long, but id appreciate any advice.
i really would like to help ya grant that "wish" but somehow it looks impossible. shes ur mother, and somehow my mom is soooo like her sometimes. she gets on my nerves all the time. so when she acts like that, i usually try my best not to talk back or argue back with her (it always gets us nowhere), i try control back everything till im save outta her sight before letting it all out in my room or something. cry it out if u must. listen to music, draw, read, write poetry. do something that will get ur mind off ur arguement with mom. to end off, i would like to say that girl, HANG IN THERE! and be tolerant of ur mom. sometimes it takes loads of determination and strength raising a child. she deserves respect, just as much as you do. good luck and take care -Rei
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hi im a 15 year old girl and my mom hits me a lot. i was wondering what you think i should do to get her to stop?
at 15, a mother shouldnt be hitting ya anymore. tell her ur old enough. may i ask, why would she want to hit ya? were u naughty, thats why she hit ya? u could try talking to a counsellor on this. -Rei
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I need help! I love my sister to death but she is so annoying! I have no privacy and she always get's her way, I'm 13 she's 8. I really need help! Don't say talk to her, it didn't work.
little sisters are always like that. bear with her, she'll outgrow that "annoyingness" and she'll stop! it will take a matter of time, but at least it works ;)
ps, rate me please! thanx
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heyo i was hopin u could help me wit me prob. u see, me and my friends have contemplated isolating my (ex) best friend,since they were quite pissed at what she was doing. personally they can do whatever they like, cos i seriously think she deserves it. but where do i draw the line between a good lesson and plain meaness? i certainly dont wanna stoop to her level. -hikari
thankx for ur question hikari, as for what i feel towards a situation like this, a good lesson is only "good" when the person actually learns from it and changes for the better. plain meanness would be when...
A)She ends up crying/hurt, etc
or B)She doesnt learn her lesson and rebels back (one way or another)
hopefully i answered the question, lol -Rei
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Hey, a couple months ago me and my boyfriend got caught having sex. I'm 15 years old and my parents were not too happy with me. They had no idea that I was sexually active before. They grounded me and told me that I could never see my boyfriend again, but I talked them into letting me stay with him, thats all taken care of but how can I gain their trust back? please help..
put urself in ur parents shoes. What if one day u found your own daughter having sex with a boy you dont even know? how do u feel? think about it, cause thats how your parents must have felt.
dun worry about it so much, they cant get angry with you for the rest of ur life! as trust is easy to give but hard to gain back once lost, be responsible for ur mistake, prove to ur parents that ur worthy of their trust.
engage ur parents in conversations about school, friendships problems etc. tell them whats going on in school, outside school, etc. give them a sense of feeling that they also play a part in YOUR life. it may be hard to open up to ur parents at first, but at least give it a shot. it beats far better then not trying at all right? i hope this helps, and good luck to you. peace
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