I'm a very wise old soul. I know about and understand many things. My motto : Good judgement comes from experience...And a lot of that comes from bad judgement. If we learn something from the bad judgement, it was not a wasted experience.
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my mother and father fight a lot. This doesn't really bother me. It's the fact that she always takes her anger out on me. If idobt agree with her, I basically am discommunicated from the family for a few days, till I apologize. It's not fair. My brother will get in trouble for something, but then I end up getting grounded. My brothers are afraid of her, so yet always agree but I don't anymre, because she is usually wrong. She overreacts and always will start crying and will sy mean things to me. Like how I'm stupid or she hates me. I don't know what to do, or what to say anymore.
I really need some advice.. (link)
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Gently remind her who the MOTHER is and who the anger needs to be directed at. Don't do it in the heat of the moment, most situations like this only get worse if you pick the wrong time to talk, but when she's in a recpetive mood,(happy) or relaxed, speak to her with love and let her know your feelings and how much pain she is causing you with angry words. If it doesn't resolve the issue, consider removing yourself from her, she sounds toxic.
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Hi. My husband and I had a baby in 1998. She died at five days old and never made it home from the hospital (long story). We had another pregnancy in 2004, but he died at 5 months gestation. We aren't able to try again. The hospital took photos of our daughter after she died as a keepsake. They were very caring. We sent a photo later to my parents and in-laws and have one framed at home. My mother displays Katie's photo very prominently, and for some reason this doesn't feel right, especially after so many years. Katie's face is greyblue and it reminds me of her last day and our pain, and I just can't look at it. I keep my copy where I can look if I have the urge, but I just couldn't keep it out where I'd see it all the time. I think Mom has hers out as a tribute, but it feels like time to put it away and replace it with a photo of another, living grandchild. Should I ask her to remove it or do you think this is still appropriate in her home? Thanks! (link)
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If it makes you uncomfortable, it should be put somewhere else. Period. If it causes you pain, let her know.
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