Hello there, my name is Kayla, my close friends call me Kaylo, but you may call me Kayla Jay. I'm here on Advicenators because I like helping people. I'm always willing give advice on any topic, but my favorite topics are on relationships. So send over any question at all and I'll be happy to help!
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My mom won't let me date till I'm 18 whicu basically is never cause once I'm 18 I can date anyways so its never I want to tell her 13 is a good age but I'm too scared of a NO and I just need advice on how to tell her and what I should tell her like reasons point and ideas please help I do not want to get my first bf and 30 or my first kiss at 28 please help me...
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I can see why you'd be frustrated about your mom not wanting you to date, but thirteen does seem a bit young to me. I would wait till you're fourteen, maybe even fifteen, till you start dating. If you start dating at too young of an age, you'll be bored with it by the time you reach sixteen, when all your friends have just begun dating. Then what will you do? I highly reccomend not dating just yet, and please don't fight your mother on the topic, it will just end badlly. Just hang out with guys, maybe be a little flirty, but dating is certainly worth the wait.
And in your defense, eighteen is a very long time to wait. I don't think you (or anyone for that matter) should have to wait that long.
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17/female my name is Rachel and my mom is driving me crazy.when my mom has these mood swings she takes it out on me and I can't take it anymore and I feel like moving,but I can't becouse iam to young.I want to move with my cousin michelle i've already asked her about it and she said of course she's 36 and she's getting a room ready for me right now,but I told her not to do it yet becouse I have to ask my mom first and I know my mom would go pysoco if I asked her becouse the last time I did mom trough a stool at me and luckily it missed is that child abuse what should I do and then my mom started pulling my hair what should I do? (link)
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I can relate. While my mom isn't abusive, she does have a tendency to have these crazy mood swings and get really angry with me for things that are totally out of my control. When I was younger it was worse, luckily my Nonie lived right across the street from me, so I always knew I had somewhere to run if things got out of hand. It sounds to me like you need to get away from your mother, she's causing you phusical and psychological harm, and there is never a good excuse for a parent to do that to their child.
Now, I'm not saying you should litterally wait around for another explosion from your mom, but try explaining to her how you feel about the way she treats you. With a little luck, she may see the error of her ways and try to change. If, however, things don't go so well, leave. Try leaveing early in the mroning, before she's awake, and leave a note explaining to her why you left. Let her know where you are, and as was advized before, it doesn't seem to me that the police or child services can touch you, as long as you tell them your side of the story.
So best of luck to you, I hope this was helpful to you.
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