I am a person who believes that negative criticism never does anything right and only demoralizes... I have been through a lot... but everytime I have fought back...There should be a certain way for making someone show the correct path...and I believe that it should be unbiased and free from personal grudges...this is what i am trying to do...where they will see me not as another columnist just trying to give advices rather see me as a friend whom they can rely upon blindly and be a support when they need a true friend...
But its a request not to use any abusive languages...
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So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I honestly can't cope with the way my parents tell me to live, I feel like I am trapped in my home and I can't do anything!
They have these rules that I cannot go on my iPad/phone until 8pm every night, even at weekends I'm not aloud to use them. They say I'm to antisocial and I need to get out more, I go almost everywhere with them! I do go to town with friends aswell. They won't let me out of my town, I live in Barnstaple, devon and I'm not even aloud to Exeter or Bristol to go on a shopping trip with friends which is only about 2 hours away. Also I'm not aloud to be friends with a few people I know, one of them because there is a rumour going around that her mum is a prostitute and the other one who is my best friend and I still hang out with her secretly because she said something rude on Facebook like 2 years ago! It annoys me how I can't be friends with who I want to be friends with. My parents won't let me go out after school and I always have to be back home at 4pm if I go anywhere, which means I can't go out in the evening or at night and have a laugh :(
They also won't let me use social networks other than Facebook and Twitter, I want to be able to use snapchat, Instagram and tumblr but I'm not aloud to have it on my phone, another thing is that my dad still reads my texts and my messages with friends online!!! I'm 14 and I literally have no privacy! It's really annoying I want to just tell him "no, I won't give you my phone" or just not tell him the lock to my phone but he always makes me! :(
This is really annoying me now how I feel like I am stuck with nothing to do and no privacy at all :(
Anyone know what I could do? (link)
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dad reads texts and messages...this is not done..but on the other hand.. they are trying to protect you from the evils of the world..so that you don not face any danger..But a person cannot learn to defend oneself until and unless she is left to explore..but again.. You are just 14 !! life is much big...it may also happen that once you are 2-3 yrs older they may let you venture out... So as far as now.. Its best to wait atleast for a year or two.. and if they dont open u until then then you have to start reasoning with them.. As for now sis, dont worry and be happy ..have a little more patience... Your parents are right in their own ways!!
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Please anybody help me how to die very hardly and wierdly.Because i hate my life and now death became my best dream friend.I just want to meet my best friend.Sorry GOD......... (link)
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There was a time when I seriously wanted to die.. I tried to search all sorts of painless ways to end my life.. but believe me there is no such way..one of my friends tried it.. and the next thing was that he became blind though he survived.. why dont you ..make a bucket list and start doing some challeging and weird things while you are alive..and then see life change
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me and my boyfriend were watching a movie at home together. my parents were supposed to take my 5 year old sister for ice cream so i could be alone with him but they never went.so he leaned in to kiss me so we did. my little sister saw it all and yelled that we were kissing and he asked to go and left. (link)
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This a situation which should come as a funny situation..whats embarassing about it? she's a baby and what else can you expect from her?If you had been at that situation when you were 5 yrs old, you have certainly done that.
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whenever my in laws come over i got to my room, the kids are either younger or older than me and I'm 17. Am I wrong for going to my room ? (link)
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You are running away from a situation..face it bravely..In life you have to face many grave situations..
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My dad hates me. He is ALWAYS trying to send me to foster care! He won't just send me because he doesn't want to make my mom leave him. He wants her to see me as a devil. Here's an example: I was with both of them the other day and my dad said "We're going to get pizza and you get none.' and after I told him I didn't want to go, he said "See?! This is why she needs to go to foster care!"
My mom now thinks of me as a bad person - He's ALWAYS trying to make me tell him to "Shut up" or "Shush" so then he'll have an excuse to hurt me and get me out of the room (I don't have a room anymore because he didn't let me. HE MAKES ME SLEEP ON THE FLOOR. )
I don't want to go somewhere else, though, because I want to stay with my family - Just without him here. He doesn't abuse me, but he sort of "comes after me" if you know what I mean. Whenever I call him abusive, he says it's a punishment! When I do NOTHING! So what should I do? Ignore him for good? He's so mean!! (link)
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My first question to you would be that Is he your real dad?? even if he is....how can your mom allow him to let you sleep at the floor? do have any bros or sis?anyways coming to your problem, you see life is very small..and you have to accept the fact that he will never change...the only thing you can do is to collect a lot of proofs against his abusive behaviour...like video recording, voice recording etc. and show them to your mom so that she can understand his real nature... even if that does not help you can take the help of any elder who is near to your mom...who can understand your problem and make your mom understand your problem...any random person wont do becoz she will den only believe her husband..but if still your mom doesnt see to the point I guess there's nothing you can do except try to keep your temper cool infront of your mom so that he wont be able to provoke you into saying nething bad...and one small piece of advice... concentrate on your studies and career... and make yourself an identity so that u can secure your future...becoz in d midst of all these if your career suffers, you will find ur self in utter misery... please let me know wat happens next...tc
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