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Here's the story in a nutshell. I have a sister, brother-in-law and niece (8)/nephew (11). I have a husband and two sons, 4 and 8. My sister has had trouble with her oldest son. He was diagnosed with a learning disability and OCD, and is on low-dose med and moved into a special school system for more one-on-one teaching. I have had a couple occurences with him, when he has been visiting, one of children has been injured. Few months ago, my older son was on a trampoline with him. They were throwing balls on the trampoline (soft squishy balloon-type balls) and my son had hit him with one. My nephew has taken Mixed Martial Arts classes and put my son in a "lock" where he twisted his arm behind his back. My son's arm was swollen. We let that go and figured his parents would deal with him. My brother-in-law merely told him to apologize and stated that he did it because my son hit him with the ball. Next occurence, at my home. Children are all playing downstairs. My youngest son (4) comes up crying with a bleeding lip. I was told by the others that my nephew was wrestling with my 4 year old and threw him into the couch and he hurt his lip. Last occurence, all children are playing video games, my sons vs. my niece,nephew. My sons beat them and my nephew stated he would "kick the crap out of him". He gave a kick to my older son's shoulder, then my little guy charged at my nephew to stop him, but my nephew threw him into the wall. He then got my older son in a "headlock" where he lifted him up off the ground choking him. When his sister ran upstairs, he let him go and came up screaming, "he did nothing wrong". My husband, then BLEW UP!!! He kicked my kitchen garbage can and started screaming, "This kid is an F---ing animal, and he's gonna kill someone some day!" My sister and brother-in-law were immediately offended by my husband's outburst and have turned on us. They somehow twisted the story around to my other two sisters and painted a picture that my husband is an "out of control maniac" and a danger to be in the house with??? She told my other family members that my son was taunting her son and called him a "loser" for losing the game, and that's when he went after him. I know this isn't the story, as my older son, as well as my niece gave me the story as it happened, and their stories matched. I originally was made at my husband, once I made sure my son was ok, and could breathe, but as the day went on I became irate over the stories I was hearing about how my husband was so wrong. My family does not believe that my nephew would ever truly harm my son. I think otherwise. I know my son did not tease him, it's totally out of his character, my little one may have, but does that still justify trying to choke my older boy??? My family thinks I am completely over-reacting, and my husband is the wrong one for blowing up on a child. Please advise!

Well first off thats kids nuts. What you should do is say sorry to your sister and then have the kids play without you around. All the while have your camera or camcorder and record him. Then your sister will see the truth. Hope this helps let me kno if it does in my feedback! Xoxo, Farrah Gonzalez

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I'm 17 and so is my boyfriend. He has this cousin who's about 30 years old, maybe a little older. Well his cousin hasn't spoken to my bf in about a year and they live five minutes away from each other. Well suddenly his cousin decided to reconnect with my bf and they've been spending every day together for the past week and a half. I honestly wouldn't mind because its family but his cousin is so rude, annoying and racist. My bf quit smoking pot but if he smells it, it makes him want to smoke and his cousin always smokes pot around him. If we're in the car he'll smoke a cigarette and not bother to blow the smoke out the window. We live in an area where there's a large hasidic Jewish community during the summer and it makes the full time residents a little annoyed because it gets really busy and hectic...but most people will never say anything. Well one day my bf and I were driving with his cousin and he starts yelling racist comments out the window.I was so embarrsased! After that he whistled at two 16 year old girls that I used to go to school with..and remember this guy is about 30yrs old. One thing that drove me nuts happened a couple days ago. After being with him all day my bf was supposed to drive his cousin home but instead his cousin wanted to stop by a friends house. I thought we were going to be there for 10 minutes but instead we were in this run down, dirty apartment building for an hour and a half while his cousin got drunk with his friends and then we eventually drove him home after stopping for cigarettes that he saked my bf to pay for. This guy is driving me crazy. He always makes my bf drive him around and do favors for him and my bf just does it because he's too nice to say no. I don't want to tell my bf I hate the guy because that's his family and my bf always is willing to hang out with my family so I'd feel bad but I don't know what to do. I don't want my bf to be taken advantage of.

Sit your boyfriend down and tell him wat you think becuz honesty is the best policy. Its better to tell him becuz with that uncle of his he can get into serious trouble. Your just concerned for him so if he really does like you he will see that and i hope this helps!

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