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Q: im 15/f nd i dont knoe my real dad...nd its like i wanna meet him so bad but then i dont bc he left my mom juss bc she was pregnant...nd then my mom met my step dad...nd it was all good up intill my dad started drinkin every nite...he would cum home drunk nd i would be sleepin upstairs in my room nd i would get woken up from my mom screamin bc my dad would abuse her...ok well i would walk downstairs nd juss stand there bawlin my eyes out...nd my dad juss wouldnt stop...nd this would happen everynite...for like a long time...nd one nite...my dad came home drunker then he ever was...nd it was so scary i went downstairs nd i seen him punch her in the face...nd i screamed at him nd told him to stop but he never did nd i pushed him away...nd he came nd punched me...nd i ran into the wall...nd he went to jail...nd i havent gotten over it...is it gonna scar me for life? please help...i dont knoe wut to do...bc i drink too...but i dont want to take after him...i dont want to hurt ppl...nd every1 says how bad there life is...nd everytime they talk bout tehre families nd say bad shit bout there dad...its like omfg they have a dad nd they think there life is horible bc there dad wont let them do nuttin well try havin no dad...try gettin abused for like 5 years!! please help!!

Thanks for asking me a question. Wish you didnt have to ask something like this though. Sorry about both of your fathers. Well i hate to say it but it might scar you for life. You might wanna start talking to someone about it so it wont hurt as bad. I no someone that had something kinda like this going on in there life. Now there kinda mean(but it dont seem like you are) and they have a problem with loving and trusting guys... Which is really sad. You might get over it and i hope thats what happens. And i hope you and your mom are doing good now. And its not your fault your dads in jail or that your other dad left. NEVER blaime yourself for something like that theres no need and you were just standing up for you mom when your dad hit you. Hope i helped you out and if you need to talk just write again or if you got AIM IM me on AshleyZ416

Love,
Ashley

Q: omfg...my mom will not let me wear what i want...shes very religious and i just wanna express my self.i know where 2 draw the line so how can i get her 2 letme wear wut i want...i just wanna b myself

e mail ur answer:zmgr89@yahoo.com

Thanks for asking me something. But Ok sorry hun i dont feel like emailing you right now. If i get time later ill email it but if you read my column heres my answer.

One day just walk down stairs with something on and if she hells about it talk to her about it tell her how you feel. You no let her no your not her and you dont wanna be here right now in life but she is a great person to look up to her. Or try it at a slow pace. Change your look alight at a time. Step by step. Hope i helped alittle. And if you have any more question on this or anything eles feel free to ask im up for anything..

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: My boyfriend and I gave our virginity to eachother ( im 14 he 16) and the way we slept together was we snuck out of the house. I got caught and now I am grounded until June 18 now we got caught on April 25 and ever since then he was acting really weird like he didnt like me anymore and everything else but before april 25 we did it 4 times before that. and he acted fine but the thing is he didnt even get in trouble for sneaking out and hes acting really really really weird. like I talked to him about how he's changing and he said he doesnt know whats going on. so i asked him if he's still interested and he said "i guess so" then the next day i asked him do you want to be with me and he didnt answer then we almost broke up but we didnt and then i said to him i need you to be more affectionate and he said no. and hes not going to change or even try to.

This is very confusing but for people who understand me tell me. Should I break up with him? and what is wrong with him!!

I WILL RATE 5'S!! JUST PLEASE HELP ME!!

Aws thats sad. Well he could be a jerk and got old of you and thinks your no fun and wants something eles. Or he could just not want to do anything cause he dont wanna get you in any more trouble. But i dont see why he would be mean about it. He could just be going through mood swings. You never no something could be wrong at home at his house in life and just dont no what to do and is taking it out on you. But i dont think you should dump him give him sometime to think things and see if he changes. Keep having talks with him to see if he opens up and make sure he noes he can tell you everything. Let me no how things go.

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: 13/f - Yesterday I think my mom walked in on me and my BFF watching porn on my computer. Im not positive if she saw EVERYTHING because we clicked out fast, but its been akward between us all morning! I dont know what to do/say or if im just being paranoid and she didnt see. What do i do here?! My friend just went home, but still my mom hasnt said a word about it. i feel SO AWKWARD! HELP ME PLEASE

lol sorry but thats funny. I would have felt like a dork if my mom walked in. Well jus tact like you always act dont let her think there something up just in case she didnt see it. And if she seen it beleive me i think she would have said something lol. I hope the porn was good!! Maybe next time like make sure she aint around to see.

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

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Hey!! How you all doing today? Well im ok i guess people. My names Ashley im 15. I go to the dumbest school ever Shenango!! I love to hang with my friends, partying, listening to music, riding my horses, talking on the phone, watching lifetime. Ohs i have black hair brown eyes 5'1 and a 1/2 cant forget that 1/5 115lbs(im fat i no) dont tell danielle i said that she'll kick my ass!!lol oh yeah im BI!!! I'm a freindly person and i love to meet new people and try new things. I'm a smart girl too but i have no commion sence!!Well i dont no what eles to say but ask my some great qestions plz im here to help when it comes to anything. Every one says im a great peron to talk to about problems. Well i love all of you Poop butts!!
*:.rate me !
.:*[a]ddiction: Boys
*:.[b]irthday: March 1
.:*[c]olor: light babi blue
*:.[d]ream: To have a great life someday(Nikki live with me)
.:*[e]yes: lots colors
*:.[f]riends: too many to name!
.:*[g]rade average: B+ ? lol
*:.[h]air color: Black with some red
.:*[i]nterests: Partying % hanging with friend
*:.[j]ob: barn cleaner
.:*[k]razy: KRAZY AINT EVEN THE WORD FOR ME!!
*:.[l]ocation: in a sucky place called New Castle
.:*[m]usic: Punk, Rap, Metal, Rock
*:.[n]ame: Skeeter
.:*[o]bsession: SEX
*:.[p]lace: Computer room
.:*[q]uotes: love quotes
*:.[r]ace: um..Indian
.:*[s]pecial talents: I can lick my boob
*:.[t]ell something about you: I love my girlsss
.:*[u]nbelievably embarressing moment: too many to name!!
*:.[v]ery best thing about me: My sexi body(Lisa you no you want this)
.:*[w]orst thing about me: I cry over everything
*:.[x]tremly daring stunts: I can hide boys
.:*[y]ummy food: Fruit
*:.[z]odiac sign: if only i new how to spell it LOL
.:*[1]love
*:.[2]Friends
.:*[3]Party
*:.[4]Drinking
.:*[5]Sex
*:.[6]Sexi boys
.:*[7]God(what god??)
*:.[8]peroids
.:*[9]Hair

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