I love helping people. I was a psychology major in college with a minor in family and child development. I love trying to problem solve and have a way of reading between the lines. I'm in a wonderful marriage (it has taken alot of work and alot of ups and downs) and have survived several family crises. I can often speak from experience. Ask me anything, I'm here to help.
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My twin sister and I argue about 40% of the day. I don't like fighting with her, and lately I've been getting so mad at her I get destructive. I used to cut myself- (embarrassing, but true)- and I can't help but think that may be problem- destruction makes me feel better. I'm not sure. Can anyone give me ideas on how to channel my anger differently? (link)
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First let me tell you that this is a serious problem. You shouldn't be embarassed at all! This is more common than people realize. My guess is after you cut yourself you feel some sort of release. You really need to talk to a professional about this.
As far as channeling your anger differently, you need to do some response stopping. When you BEGIN to get angry you need to stop everything and walk away. Go for a run, call a trusted friend and vent, write in a journal or anything else that can help you. You must stop yourself before you get to that "point of no return" Also talk to your sister. What are y'all fighting about? My guess is it's usually the same thing over and over again. That frustrates everyone. You and your twin need some seperation. Get your own identity.
But the cutting is a big deal. PLEASE tell someone about this. It's nothing to be ashamed of. And there are people that can help. In the meantime go to Google and look up "Self Mutilation". Just so you can understand it a little more.
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Me and my family have been spliting apart this past couple months, my mom left my dad and found someone else. Im not sure how to accept this because it seems like she left my dad to be with him.but here lately my dads been tryin to but all the pressure of his on me and trying to make me feel bad about it and it works i dont know what to do about it though. (link)
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You're dad doesn't need to pull you into this. This is a mess, but it is not your mess. He DESPERATELY needs to go to couseling and learn how to deal with this. Feel free to tell your Dad that this is all everybit as hard for you as it is for him and that him pressuring you is only making it worse.
I am so sorry that your mom found someone else. I know how horrible this must be for you! Does your dad have brothers or sisters? Find someone that can talk him into going to family counseling with you so that y'all learn how to work on this together.
Good luck..I'm so sorry.
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My mom and I spent the whole day together. That's not the point. We went somewhere to visit family and when we came home, I went in my room to get away, to relax. So she goes in the living room and sits down on her fat ass.. and conviniently starts ordering me to do things. I was sitting her, we had gotten home like 15 minutes prior to this. I told her I would do it in a bit but she proceeded to yell at me to do it. So the very last time she yelled at me, these were her words: "If you're not fucking out here in 5 damn minutes, I'm kicking your ass off the computer." So in return, I told her to shut up. Not even yelling, it was to myself, and she overhead. So she came to take my danm cellphone, the phone I bought with my money, and pay for with my money, and for some reason she believes she has owenership over because its in her name. BULLSHIT. I'm so pissed I'm hitting shit now.. I want to hit her. Please help. (link)
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Do you have an older brother or sister, father, or Aunt or uncle that you can turn to? You need someone you can talk to about this.
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