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Q: I got ur ans she is 24 and she does not live with me she actually started to do this from the age of i8 she force me to send her another state to go college on good faith i send her i put her 5 times college but she failed all those class the only reson she does not attend the class i did not stop paying the rent i was scare that she is girl and she will then go and do the bad things any time i ask her all wrong doing she gets arogent and tell me if i dont pay she will be hooker she is very pretty and i get worry i cant make any convarsation with she will not talk i know she is in denial i wish her turn around she is good person good student but dont understand what is her best intarest in life i dont know how to make it easy i am so worried i wish something miracle happen.
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What you do is...stop paying her rent! Lose contact with her until she gets her head together. She is old enough to know right from wrong and if she refuses to see the right and wants to put herself out like that...let her! That doesn't show if you're a good mother or not..it shows that she chose the wrong path. You have to let God do his work because you're out of options sweetie.
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Q: i have a daughter who is very much rebilious and arogent with us she does not listen any thing she lives on us and we r paying for everything still she does not appriciate anything and very spoiled i dont know what to do i am geting sick everyday and its my only child.
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Would be nice to know what age she is.
But, what you can do is not pay for whatever SHE owns personally. So of course it's up to you to pay rent/mortage, YOUR cell phone bill, your utilities, etc. But anything that is not directly connected to you...don't! yes it's tough love and she better learn how to love it. She has no respect for you and better late then never so show her who is the boss. Don't buy her anything, don't do anything "special" for her. Until she gets her crap together you are officially without a child.
Yes I know easier said then done but I have one of my own!
You have to stand up and be the boss even if it is the last thing you do!
This is where YOU tell her to grow the eff up and you don't do squat for her. Since she thinks she is so grown to talk down to people then she can be grown enough to take care of herself!
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Q: I know I have to do it to keep myself sane. Because of the situation I mentioned, I was uninvited to my godsons birthday(also my nephew) so I didn't go and neither did my dad. She didn't ask why my dad didn't go because he will tell her why and she wont like it. Yes i know she didn't deserve that phone call, but I;m a good hearted person. She owes my whole family an apolagie and to own up to her mistakes and show everyone that she's sorry and not to just say it because their just words. Its very hard to blame her actions on the booze, at the same time she remembers what goes on because she tells our mom.
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You can't let her get to you or get the best of you. Her keeping you away from your nephews birthday is something that just crosses the line. No matter what she feels for you that is not acceptable. But some people are like that. You have to realize sometimes there is no good in people. And if she can still recall what crap she said or what happened then no she wasn't that drunk and you can't excuse her problems. But she does have a problem that she needs to take care of before losing everybody. Let her stay miserable and you make your life something better!
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Q: Thank you do much for the advice, very helpful.
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Not a problem, I know how hard it is. But you have to do it, for you!
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Q: My sister is 8 years older than me, I am the youngest of 3. She has a drinking problem and kissed my fiance on the lips and said it wasn't sexual, and passed it off like it was nothing. I got upset and left her house, we haven't talked in a few months now, I called her to talk to her about what happened and said I dis-respected her by not cleaning up my step-kids plates( which in fact I did so)Basically, I think its just an excuse because I am right and she is wrong and is too suborn to apologize to me. She lies to my parents about my fiance putting words in his mouth that he talks bad about my parents, which they obviously don't believe her. We are getting married next year and well she really doesn't seem to care. Any advice on this situation?
Thanks
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As the person before me said, she seems to have a bigger problem than what you are aware of or anybody else. I think this is where you have to put everything else aside and stick with your family, as in your fiance and step kids. She doesn't seem like she cares much about anything besides herself. If she was big enough of a person she would have called you to talk about what SHE did. You did not owe her that phone call but you were mature enough to still call her. Just let her live her life and you live yours. You cannot keep trying to fix something that is obviously broken. She is your sister, sober or not, you don't kiss your sisters ANYTHING rather yet a fiance! Walk away before she makes you go nuts!
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Hi,
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Gender: Female Occupation: Medical Field Age: 22 Member Since: May 3, 2012 Answers: 43 Last Update: May 14, 2012 Visitors: 3388
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