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ok, i "used" to be a cutter, please dont go on telling me how wrong it is.. i know and have heard it all before.. i have been cutting myself since i was 11-12 years old.. im 19 now.. and i have been really good lately with the whole cutting thing.. not doing it and having the will power to get over the feeling to do it.. but lately.. i feel so AAAHHHHH and just feel like i need to do it, i really dont want to.. i have been doing so well, and dont want to be that person anymore, but i just cant get it out of my head. i am fighting the urge to do it, and i just feel like i cant fight it anymore.. i dont know what to do.. most poeple dont know i do it, and those that know about it.. think im better.. so i really have no one i can go to.. without putting dissapointment on their faces.. i have no where to go, no one to turn to.. and i really want help, because i dont want to do it anymore.. but i dont know what to do.. everything is becoming a mess again in my life.. and i feel like i need it, and im afraid i cant fight the urge anymore..
and thoughts or ideas of how i can deal with this.. anything.. just any little thing you can think of? would be most gratey appreciated!!
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ok first off congrats on stopping!
thats the best thing you could do
and i know its' not easy.
now back to the question...
your not the only one who has the urges to start cutting again(including myself)...the average person relapses 7 times before becoming completely healthy.
confiding in a friend, family member
, or therapist is the best thing to do
get help about stopping the urges is the most important thing
or else it will go downhill from there.
keep yourself involved in stuff and surrounded by people...because i'm guessing you won't do it in front of someone.
good luck
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ok well im 14/f and live in small town USA I have been SI'ing for like 4-5 years now and i really wanna stop i am really wating to get closer to God ad this is just holdig me back from living the life i want to. See i started becuse it felt good it feel something other than emotions? idk how to word it but my father was abusive i was never touched but i saw what he did to my sisters and my brother and well i dont know if that has anything to contribute to it. Now that Im away from him and have been for a while i relized i want to change. I dont know how so I guess thats what im asking. HOW CAN I CHANGE AND STOP SELF INJURING???? That includes cutting and stuff like that anything that causes me pain.
Before you ask I never wanted attention and well am asking on here so i dont get the wrong type.
Allie (link)
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first off self-abuse is a common but unhealthy thing that many people (myself included) suffers from
the reason that many people hurt them selfs physically is because internally them are bleeding(non literal)
it's a way of pinpointing all emotional pain into a physical being that is in your control. Being able to control how you feel makes you happy but is really killing you.
to stop you might want to consider seeing a therapist(i know is sounds stupid and you don't think you need one..but they really help you with some issues you may had never known you had)
or even confiding in a close friend or family member and they can put you on the right step to getting healthy
with yous dad being abusive it definably plays a role, no questions asked. his abusiveness to your family has scared you image of yourself and others. you may not realize the horrific and emotional toll it is taking on you
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Sorry that I probably spelled that incorrectly. Long story short, I think too much. If something good happens, I think about it so much that I can turn it into a bad thing, and I think about bad things so much it eats me up inside and it's making me feel horrible, and not many people I know do this, or the ones that do, I'm not comfortable bearing it all to. I replay low moments in my life as long I have nothing way better to do. Basically, when I'm not talking, I'm mentally shooting down myself, I lower my self esteem about my personality and apperance and other things. Nowadays though, I don't have much of a life, so I can't really find other things to do to take my mind off bad things. All I have is my computer phone, and tv, because I'm 14, jobless, never have rides to go anywhere, so I can't even do clubs at school, I don't know many people. Sometimes even, what I do have makes me feel worse about my life, seeing people on t.v making something of themselves, or my friends passing me by, or complaining about their issues to me while I lend an ear and never complain about mine-untill now I suppose. There are so many things I want to do, plus size model, sing, dance, be a pageant queen, be an incredible gymnast, and all these things people believe if anyone in my family could do it, it would be me. Thing is, I tell myself theres no chance, and I'm not nearly as good at these things as I should be, and my parents probably wouldn't let me develop my skills as much as I would like to, because nobody else in my family has tried. Possibly during summer, but they would much rather have me study than take classes, or even go on vacation! So I forget my aspirations, tell myself I would fail if I tried, and go into some medical field, which I wouldn't mind, but I dont want to be a bad doctor, because my dad is a good doctor! Sorry if I went in circles a lot, but I need some help here! Thank you soo much. (link)
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i'll admit i'm the same way!
alot of times when i start to over analyze situations(good or bad) i try listening to music..it seems to take my mind off of my situation at hand.
it's hard making your self esteem drop to a low point, take a toll on all the other aspects of your life,,,witch makes things harder
try to make light of things or keep yourself active and involved to send your mind in another direction..it may help
being by yourself is when thought process through your head the most...it can sometimes be dangerous with the end result ending in sadness or depression about ones life
try talking to a friend about the situations so you are getting more than one persons perspective on the whole thing
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