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Hi I'm Bailee and I'm a cutter, I am 14. I have cut for..two years and I have recently stopped. I, for the longest time, cut heavily. My arms so badly scared that I can barley fine any unscared skin. I want to know if there is a way to get rid of them so I can wear short sleeved shirts. I do realize that I'm gonna have to live with them for the for the rest of my life. I don't want any bad talk or put downs.
Bailee~ (link)
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First of all, it sucks that you went through this, and I'm sorry. Secondly, the scars won't go fully, but you're going to have to learn to wear short sleeved shirts anyhow. it may be uncomfortable, but remember that people who judge you for your scars aren't worth trying to please.
Use bio oil. It's a little expensive, and it takes a while to work, you'll have to rub it consistently on your skin, but it will considerably help it to fade.
http://www.bio-oil.com/uses.html
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I just feel so alone. I feel lonely, depressed, empty, lost. I feel like I'm worthless. I feel like I have nothing to live for and that I'm not special to anybody. Even with my friends, I just feel so empty. It hurts so badly. I find myself staring into space with tears in my eyes and typing things like "i'm so alone" or "it hurts" into Google. I lost interest in things I usually love to do, like play videogames and draw and read. I'm blaming myself for things that I know aren't my fault. I have trouble sleeping. I wake up each day with nothing to look forward to. It's like I'm walking on a treadmill. I'm tired and exasperated. I feel like there's a demon clawing and scraping away every bit of dignity and peace I have. I want to scream. Could this be depression? If so, what are my options to get rid of it? It hurts a lot. :( (link)
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go to a doctor, and ask for a secodn opinion. i am pretty certain this is depression, but there are numerous causes and treatments for it, and unless you talk about it to a professional, you'll get the wrong treatment, you'll feel worse, and it won't solve anything.
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This is it. My depression this year has doubled (if that's even possible) and I really need to see my doctor about it, only that I don't like my doctor because I think that he is a dick. And most medications I've heard of requires you to be 18 and I'm only 16. I know that excercising is an alternatives but I don't have time to go out (and I'm not even loud to). I'm always busy with school work but when I'm out I tae alternatives like stairs, etc.
I don't know what I'm asking for, maybe on if you think I should talk to my doctor about it anyways. It's really hard for me to talk about because I start welling up and crying (like I am now), but I'm not talking. But if I had to, I don't think anything would come out.
And I want to keep it away from my parents but I don't know how because only they can take me to the doctors and the secretary would need to know what I need to see that doctor for. And that my parents are dumb because they think it's impossible for someone in our family to have depression and that they think that it would be something else. (link)
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hey. so coming form my own experiences, i can only tell you to do whats right. think about it logically. i have severe depression as well, and i find it clouds my judgement a lot. i try to do the things that scares me, which is a lot, because even goign to school scares me a lot. i know you're scared of what you're doctor will think, but think about it. what does it matter what he thinks? he's a medical profesional, and they have a job to do. trust me i know its scary. my doctor is my moms friend, because my moms a doctor as well. and i know you don't want your mom to know, but what i did was ask for a doctors appointment, but not tell her why. your parent should care enough to take you. and i know you think your parents think you can't have depression. i've tried to tell my mom but she refuses to believe it, even though she's a doctor. just think about it rationally. it REALLY DOES NOT MATTER WHAT THEY THINK. DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU, trust me, it will be so much worse if you do things for others, not for yourself. also, i've spend a lot of time doing pysch, and i know that there are types depression that don't seem ovbious. there's one called Smiling Depression, where the person may not evev realise, so it's less obvious to those around them. your doctor should be competent to realise that seeing you for a short amount of time 3 times a year isn't enough to tell whether your depressed. go for it.
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Okay, I want to get on some kind of antidepressants... But I want to do it behind my parents back.
I just don't want to tell my mother because she's going to ask me why I'm depressed, and I don't really know how to tell her. It's mostly because of her and Daddy... And a lot of other, screwed up shit.
But, it's becoming harder and harder to hide my depression, and I really need some help. So, if I can get on them, without my parents knowledge... That'd be fantastic.
I doubt this is possible, but if it is... please tell me how.
I'm so desperate.
15/f/AUSTRALIA (link)
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get your parents to organize a GP appoinment, about something else (use the excuse of periods etc...). your doctor has to keep your problems confidential. first check that he will do this, and if you feel like you are sure about anti depressants, then talk to her about it. however, he wont really prescribe any anti depressants unless he feels that you really need them. he will probably will refer you to a therapist as well. if you are seriously depressed then look up the clinical symptoms, and claim you have them. but from a personal opinion, i feel like you are avoiding a situation, and you shouldn't just turn to drugs. im just saying this, because i have depression and my gp made me take pills for it, and it annoys me that a lot of people think it will solve their problems. the fact that you said your mom will wanna know if you are unhappy, means she cares about you, and not everyone has that luxury of people caring about them, which is why drugs are used. don't take big meausure for small problems, okay? it may seem big now, but it will go away. plus for people under the age of 21, it has side effects, such as increased suicidal tendancies. if u are just depressed, there is no point of making your life worse. be sensible.
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I hate myself and want to die. There is no way out. There is no definite answer to anything so how can you ever be right? Why do my friends always want to know what i am thinking when they dont care, they dont listen so why ask. Counsellors get PAID to listen to you. no one will remember me a year from my death. Anti depressants leave you numb and emotionless. Doctors dont issue sleeping pills coz I am a depressant but I cant SLEEP all i do is stare into senseless nothing seeing nothing but black shadows. The only releif is a razor blade and salt. Nothing will ever get better i will have this hopeless feeling of nothingness and desperation for somekind of peace of mind which i wont get. Things will always be the same and then ill die anyway. Im a selfish ugly fat bitch and the only way out is death. nothing can help me. im searching for a solution to get past my pathetic problems asides from counsellors, therapy, rehab, cutting, not cutting, anti depressants the only thing i can think of to a solution is death. no will will ever be able to stop this drowning feeling (link)
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yeah, well counsellors are shit. wow you sound like me. um, well yeah. i don't have much advice really because i'm kinda living my life through films and tv. which isn't exactly healthy, but whatever, i'm still alive right? um, i was wondering about the razor blade and salt? salt? oh and if you cut, has anyone noticed because if someone noticed then you could talk to them, i guess. if youre not talking to someone who is being paid, it might be easier. and you can't be invisible because , well i'v never met you but peole aare responding to this because they care, right?
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prob. wrong categorie, idk..
15/f
basically, i hate myself.
i hate my life and everything about it therefor i hate myself.
i have absolutly NO real friends.
my family is so f**ked up its not even funny..
i mess up BAD with every nice, decent guy i meet, screw up every relationship i'm in..
my parents hate me, legit.
i dont wanna tell you my life story and all the reasons im like this.. and im not trying to be dramatic, i seriously do have a bad life. the only thing i can think good of about me is that i'm pretty. but it doesnt even matter because people dont think i'm pretty when they look at me, they think im a miserable, mental, bitch.
i dont mean to dump all this on you, but i clearly have some depression issues.. that have been diagnosed by my therapist.. and my mom 'doesnt believe in depression medicine' so i cant even take a friken prozac to make me happy. >:o
ive even tried turning to religion..
and i have no one to talk to..
idk what to do with myself anymore..
the other day i ran away from the school and went missing for 2 days.. clearly im going insane and need help. i have counceling.. doesnt work..
anyone know how i can make myself happy? im sick of being like this and crying 247.. someone be my friend..? (link)
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this aint advice, but jeez i know what you mean. i sat on my roof (on the corner so no one could see me) for 32 hours till my mom found me and dragged me inside. parents just don't give a SHIT. plus peole either blank eye me or get in my way. why cant they just choose one and stick to it? but yeah. i hope you et a firend cos im in desperate need of one. let me know if you do. jammy369@msn.com
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