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I'm a married mom and writer who enjoys life and who also enjoys helping others. I give helpful, compassionate and down to earth advice for things that I myself have experienced or learned about.
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OK, this is very weird & sorry, I had no idea what to put it under. Anyway, for some reason, when I eat a meal, I never ever eat the last bite. I mean I'm sure I could if I really tried, but, it usually just happens that there is that little last piece that I feel I can't eat! Everyones is like, "oh, you can't eat that last little bit?" But, I just don't do it. Any ideas on why this is so normal for me? (link)
Well, it could be a couple of reasons. You mention that you could if you "really tried", which suggests that you're already full enough by that time. So it's a good thing that you don't force yourself to eat that last piece, even if it is little, because it sounds like you know your limits when it comes to eating. That old-fashioned idea that some people have of a person having to clean their plate can actually set people up for over-eating. So, I guess what I'm saying is that you probably know when to say enough is enough when eating, which is good.

I also leave a little bit on my plate at the end of a meal and sometimes I do it because I feel self-conscious about eating everything on the plate, even though I know I shouldn't really feel that way; that could be another reason why you do it.

But as long as you're eating healthy I really wouldn't worry about it. :) Take care.


14/f

I'm just a really lonely person. all the time. I don't have siblings, and I don't have friends or a boyfriend. I can't make and keep a friend, unless THEY initiate it. I'm not really shy or anything but i just don't know what it is.

my life exists only on the internet.

What can I do to feel less lonely? (link)
It's normal for people of any age to feel lonely at times and the teenage years can be especially tough. But with a little work and patience I think you can start to feel better and less isolated.

First of all, the internet can be great but if you're on it too much it can keep you from interacting with people in "real" life. Try to limit your time onit and instead start finding things that are enjoyable to do around other people.

Depending on what you enjoy doing you can do things such as joining a reading group or book club at your local library, volunteering at an animal shelter, signing up for a class at your local YMCA,taking part in a community garden or anything that gets you involved in something that you enjoy and at the same time around other people.

Talk to your parents about your feelings of loneliness too, if you're comfortable doing that, and ask them for any input or ideas that they may have. When I was your age I had a tough time making friends too but my mom ended up signing me up for acting lessons and it was a lot of fun. If that's not something you like then you can try something else that may strike your interest such as dance classes or an arts & crafts class. The reason I'm suggesting these things is that this is a good way to meet people your age who have similar interests and in this way it's easier to talk with them and maybe start some friendships.

I know that it can be really tough feeling this lonely but the more you get out and around other people, the less isolated you'll feel. Just be sure to show an interest in others when you talk to them. Make eye contact and ask them questions about themselves to get things started, such as their interests, their family, etc.

Take care and I wish you all the best.




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