So i'm an eighteen year old guy and if i could sum myself up in one word it would be 'confused'.Its always felt to me like the world is spinning too fast and finding my feet is a complicated task.I see life to be no more but a succession of unavoidable events and they seem to pass by with me hardly ever grasping its meaning.I'm not particularly religious but i'm still open-minded when it comes to that sort of thing.In all honesty,i'd have to say i'm a rather lonesome person too,but have learnt to make lemonade when given lemons.When it comes to my interest in advice,i'm not a very sympathetic person as honesty directs my advice.I enjoy listening to people and am fascinated by the amount of different personalities and have thus made it one of my lifelong dedications to understand people and the way their minds work.
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I get really paranoid & stressed out about the littlest things. How can I calm my nerves & get my mind off of things?. (link)
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You need to appreciate life more,life is a short adventure and if you don't grasp it it'll fly by before you know it.most things in life will mean nothing in the end either way,so what i suggest is that you try and enjoy life more,when you feel stressed out,try to just exclude yourself for a while and do something you enjoy whatever it may be, be it running,reading spending time with your family or whatever.point is,you need to stop taking life so seriously,it's not meant to be stressfull,try to be positive and rather than allow little things to stress you out,try to appreciate the little things in life,after all,the best things in life are all free,see life in its simplicity,and embrace it.life is a test for which you can't prepare,stressing about it wil bring you nothing but negativity
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I'm 17 & I've cut myself 4 different times I told my mom cause I wanted to cut again & I didn't want to Hirt myself cause I felt if I did it I won't make it .... So I told she cried & said she wil get me help it's Been 5 days & nothing ... I wish I never told so I can cut myselfvin peace cause my grandma told me I can't do she was crying tellin please don't do it again & I can't do that to her yet I wanna cut so bad I wish I never told !!!!!! Why am I like this ?? I know I shouldn't do this to myself & I know I should've like the fact I told but I hate it why ??????? What's wring with me ?????? (link)
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I understand where you're coming from as i am a cutter too,and i wouldn't say there is something wrong with you in that you feel the way you do about your having told your mom about your situation.But here's what i'd like to say: you should pat yourself on the back,you've taken the first step toward being healed from this condition we call depression.it's only normal that you feel the way you do because you have exposed yourself,people who care about you can now reach out to you.my advice-don't try and retreat back into that shadow,embrace this chance,there is no need for you to suffer anymore,talk to someone,see a psychologist but whatever you do be sure to move forward from here on out,going back is never the answer,
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So most people have a personal style, a look, etc.
I feel like I don't. On some days, I'll look I crawled out of the deepest depths of Hot Topic and on others my look will be more Forever 21. I like my band tees and I like being girly.
This is just one example. I can't help but feel like I am a clone of EVERYTHING that's out there. Everything that I see that looks really cool, I suddenly want to do.
For example, I like to draw a lot. I've been doing it since I was a kid. But my style is EXTREMELY influenced by my surroundings. For example, I was a big fan of one graphic novel for a while; my drawing style soon became very similar to the art in the book. The way I draw people heavily reflects what graphic novel I am reading at the time. And now, since I don't have any favorites at the moment, my art is kind of a mixture of my favorite elements from the art in books I have read.
But ti's not just how I draw that's influenced. If I'm on an art website and see a cool painting or drawing, my brain goes, "gee, that looks nice. I should do it." As a result, my art style is never consistent; it pulls heavily from techniques I've seen others do.
I saw some nice photography on the internet; I am now obsessed with photography.
I watch a lot of makeup tutorials on YouTube; I decided that I'm going to be a makeup guru as well (I changed my mind after I filmed my first video though; I'm not charismatic enough). But still, their makeup skills and all the makeup they own inspired me to own my own collection and do more with my eyes than the typical eyeliner & mascara deal.
The biggest influence, however, is on my career goals. I still dont' know what I want to do in the future and I'm already in college. I'd be an artist if I could, but that doesn't bring in enough money to live even comfortably. I've changed my major SO MANY TIMES because I can't decide. And each time, I've changed it to something, not because I was very interested in it, but because it seemed cool, I guess. For example, in my first term of freshman year I was gonna go into aerospace engineering, just because designing aircraft would be fun. I also considered architecture. And psychiatry. I even thought about going premed so I could be a surgeon. And now I'm majoring in computer science.
The problem is that I'm not a dumb kid that just hopelessly goes for dreams that won't come true. Truth is, I'm SMART and good at a lot of things. I'm amazing at math. I'm great at the sciences, if I study. I'm a good writer. I'm a great programmer. I'm good at putting on makeup, I'm good at photoshop, and I'm good at art. So I feel like I COULD be all those things that seem "cool" at the time. But the fact that I bounce around from idea to idea makes me feel like I don't raelly have a personality, like I'm just a summary of what's out there. And it's not that I'm a conformist-type, either. I don't really go with the flow, I don't follow trends that much, and I sure as hell don't buy into every commercial I watch on TV. It's just that when I see someone being successful at something they do, I feel the need to try and do what they're doing. And that makes me feel..sort of incomplete. Anyway, am I normal? Is it OKAY to feel this way? What am I doing wrong? (link)
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There is nothing wrong with you.Seems to me like you have an amazing capacity to learn,something that not many people have and for this you should be grateful.however,i do feel like i can relate to your confusion,it's difficult to find your passion in life especially with so many possibilities out there.but life is about making sacrifices and what i suggest is that you define what you want in life and where you want to end up.its one of those million dollar questions that you can't ignore and simply have to answer.life is short,one needs direction otherwise it will have meant nothing in the end.Money may be important in making your decision but the best things in life are all free,money will put you you in a fancy car and all that but it won't buy you happiness and i'm sure you've heard this before.just do whatever makes you feel complete,
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