Gender: Female
Location: Essex
Age: 16
Member Since: July 29, 2011
Answers: 4
Last Update: September 9, 2011
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hi, we've been dating a year. whenever we argue my boyfriend says to me,'you don't know me, you don't me at all?' what does he mean? does he want to break up or something? we both love each other a lot and we've just started to live together. guys help. thanks. (link)
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Well, it depends what you've been arguing about, I suppose. But most people when they say "you don't know me" generally mean that they think you don't understand them or what they'd do in a situation. It's easier to know what it means than to explain it... but just because he said it, it doesn't mean he wants to break up. He would have said so, otherwise. Maybe just ask him what he means when he says it. I'm sure he may just be saying it out of anger, though. Hope this helped even a tiny bit xx
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I dont know what to do. Im only 14 and ive been in a relationship with this boy for a year, on and off now, and he's been talking about us having a child. Ive been really thinking about this and I really feel like Im ready for something like this. I know its not exactly a walk in the park bringing up a child and that it isnt something i can just forget about if i get fed up of the responsibilities. I do want to have a child with him now but honestly im not sure if I should. I saw what you said to some girls question and just thought youd be able to help. Please reply, Im not sure who else to ask.
Thanks:) x (link)
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I'm just going to be blunt about this; you are too young.
For a start, you're 14, still in full time education and have a whole life ahead of you. What's the rush to have a child now? Also, this boy you've been on and off with for, who's to say you aren't going to split again? I don't mean to be horrible, but I know this from personal experience. I'm 15, and me and my ex used to talk all the time about having kids, growing up together, getting married etc. and it hurts when things start to change. Being teenagers, things tend to change pretty quickly; my ex went from being the loveliest lad I'd ever been with to being a cold-hearted ... I won't finish that sentence. We did end up getting back together recently for a while, but we split up soon after, and now I'm 10 weeks pregnant. You never really know the reality of everything until you're in the situation yourself, and you have to make all these mature decisions. Good on you if you have supportive parents and he supports you, but at the end of the day, it's you who has to go through the pregnancy, and giving birth and all that.
Think logically about this before you do anything - can you support this child? Will you have time for them? What about your education? How do you think this will affect your future?
Just remember, honey, you have plenty of time for kids when you're older. Now's the time to have fun and enjoy yourself! xx
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Ok, so I'm 13... I weigh 125 lbs... and I'm 5'3... I think I'm overweight.... my thighs are 31 inches around at the biggest part..... I have a very low self confidence because of my weight... so, what I want to know is.. by the time I'm 16 do you think I would look skinnier because I would grow into myself?? And is it possible that if I grow into myself.. would I lose inches off of my thighs?? I have really big hips and thighs.... I hate it!!! I just dont want to look like this my whole life... also... I have hair all over my stomache!! It is the Darkest around my bellyWbutton though... I have askd my mom if I could bleAch it but she says no all the time,and tells me to just shave it... but every time I shaVe it.. there is little black dots from where I couldn't get down far enough to shave the hair that is starting to grow back in undernEath.. any ideas on tht too?? Oh, and please dont try to comfort me and say stuff like "god made you for who you Are and just accept it" thanks!! (link)
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I'm sorry if this does end up one of those "love yourself" messages, I'll try my best.
For starters, you're only 13, and still developing. You shouldn't wish to look skinnier, especially this young. Your only concern should be whether your BMI is higher than it should be. There are many BMI calculators online which are easy to follow, but I can tell you, you're at a healthy weight. As long as you have a balanced diet and keep fit... Yeah, you learn this stuff in school.
You should not feel low about your weight. For your own sake, I recommend not looking at skinny models or whatever and aiming to be like them. You have plenty of time to do that when you're older- like I said, you're still developing. If you're ever feeling down, just pick out outfits that make you feel happy and comfortable whilst looking great. My mum always said "fake it 'til you make it" (which is weird. I don't like my mum using that language.:L) But she was right.
As for the hair on your stomach, if you find shaving isn't helping, you could always use a hair removal cream(: xx
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I have recently given my boyfriend head and hand for the first time (first time I have ever done both too). It was okay I guess (he seemed to of enjoyed it lol). But I'm not sure if I want to do it again. About 3 days after I gave head I got a few pimples around my mouth.. It can't of been herpes though because they looked like normal pimples and they went away after about 3-4 days. But is there a chance if it could be?
Also I am planning on losing my virginity when I am 18. (I am currently 15.) Does that seem a bit strange though? The reason is because I don't want to be a pregnant teenager. It scares me so much I don't want it to happen to me. But there are things that can stop pregnancy but sometimes it all doesn't work. I am really confused if I was too do it as a teenager I would wait until I am 16 (legal age). Could someone please help me?
Also it's annoying giving head and hand so... I am definitely not planning on doing it again any time soon. (link)
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For these strange "bumps", I don't think it's herpes. They'd probably look more like cold sores or blisters as opposed to pimples. Has your boyfriend had any previous partners? If so, I recommend you go to your GP/sexual health clinic, just to be safe.
As for losing your virginity, there is nothing wrong with losing it at 18. It's your body and you're the only one to say when you're ready. I know exactly what you mean about the whole pregnancy thing; I've had a few scares and now I'm 2 months pregnant. If you decide you are ready, make sure you're fully protected. Condoms protect against pregnancy and STI's, and as well as that you can also go on the pill, or get an implant or injection... Whatever suits you. But don't let anyone persuade you to lose your virginity before you're ready, and make sure you trust the guy.(: xx
P.S. Good on you for deciding not to carry on with something you don't want to do. I have to agree, it does get boring.:L
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