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I'm Corey, and I'm here to help you! I will do everything I can, including sharing my own life experiences when necessary. I like to think I'm pretty good with tech/software questions, and relationship advice, so if you have any at all just go ahead and ask. I'm also pretty good in a lot of other categories. If I don't have an immediate answer, I'll go ahead and do a little research and then get back to you. Plus, I make a great person to just sit down and talk to. : ) I just want to help you!

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What are the perks of abusing Vicodin? I dont understand why people abuse it... Please let me in on the secret?

The main use of Vicodin is to suppress pain. Like the person above me mentioned, one could easily become addicted to it when they were only using it by prescription to begin with. Now.. The reason that people end up getting addicted to it to begin with is that it replaces that pain with a great feeling. Its hard to explain really.. In laments terms, "It makes you feel really good!" Its very similar to alcohol abuse. (I've never used drugs in my life, by the way). Anyway they become addicted to its effects, their body adapts to it, and they slowly begin to convince them self that they can't go through a day in life without that extra "feel good boost". I hope that helps.

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16/f

When I become hurt, it’s usually caused by the feeling that someone is leaving or abandoning me. It’s much like those feelings that come to you your first time lost in a store as a child. Those gut wrenching feelings that indicate to you that you’re alone and have nowhere to go. It’s this feeling, the feeling you feel when you’ve lost all hope and are left hopeless and defenseless, that overwhelms me. I become mute and regress back into a child; a child that can no longer decide for themselves and one which searchers eagerly for some sort of substance to rely upon.

It’s times like this where I make the wrong choices. I become so focused on finding some sort of release that I make rash decisions; decisions which do not normally reflect me and decisions which I then lament for days. It’s not a matter of morals. My morality and ethics lose all validity and in no way dictate the actions I take. (for example, i'll finally find someone but they'll have the wrong intentions but i become so emotional that i go with it.) I become numb.

This release I get, it’s like a drug. When I don’t have it, I fall into withdrawal. I lose all coherencies and break down into tears for hours. Many times I’ll cry until late in the morning.
During one of these rare withdrawal outbreaks I’ll normally attempt to drown myself out with music. I’ll lie in bed, listening to music and bawl.The pain I go through is agenizing. “Why does everyone keep leaving me?” I ask myself wanting to, simultaneously, to hurt my, self loathing, self pitying self, while grasping myself tightly in search of comfort. It's like as if I'm having a mental breakdown. I wonder what it is that I do that keeps driving people away. "They only reason they have to leave me is if I disappoint them or do something wrong."

I’ll continue this until my body becomes weak and it becomes difficult to continue on. The irrepressible rapidity of my breathing overwhelms me to the extent where I eventually pass out. When I awake, I’ll either continue on from where I last left off or sleep it off and learn to repress my ill feelings and move on begrudgingly though my daily routine, acting as if nothing had ever happened.

I went to a therapist not long ago and ended up bawling. She never aknowledged the fact that I might have abandonment issues being that I'm adopted but at the moment I feel extremely overwhelmed and need help.

Please some advice. thank you.

Well first I'd like to say that you seem to be a VERY intelligent young girl. Are you religious? I'm not personally, but if theres anything I've learned over time, its that god exists at least in the eyes of everyone who believes in him. Pick up a bible and read it. With god on your side, whether he exists or not, you'll never feel alone. If thats not really your style, reach out to your close personal friends and family. Let everyone know how you feel. I promise they'll all pamper you and take care of you. There are all sorts of social communities you can join for assistance. One last suggestion, I'd recommend a hobby. Maybe try learning guitar? A few strums on my squire usually brings my mind to rest. If you need anymore advice, please just keep posting, I will try my best to always answer you. Even if I don't, someone else with good intentions will. You're not alone. No matter what you do, there will always be someone waiting for you with open arms. I promise.

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Is it just me or do other girls feel guilty after sex? I feel really dirty and awful and sometimes I cry when I am alone later. Nobody is forcing me to have sex... I am the one going after the sex but when it is done i hate myself so much! Can girls feel guilty after having sex or am I the only one this ever happens to?

To be honest, I'm not sure you're giving enough context into your background for someone to actually be able to answer this question.. I'll try and answer this as broadly as I can.

My first theory is.. You grew up with a strong religious background that discouraged premarital sex. I want you to know.. No one in this freaking world can tell you whats right for you but yourself. I swear. You'll do well to remember that.

My second.. Maybe you're afraid you're giving off the wrong impression to your friends or family. I'm sure others have faced similar or this same problem themself. Either way.. You need to bare in mind, no one is here to judge you.

In conclusion.. You shouldn't EVER feel bad about having sex. This could cause some serious issues in your relationships later down the road.

I really don't want you feeling guilty.

Now.. If I'm right about that strong religious background.. Its just a thought.. But. Maybe try a confessional and tell him everything thats happened. There are also religious services available for "rebirthing a virgin".

If you'd explained your situation a bit better, I think I could help more. : S

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