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Well this boy I love Lany said that we where friends but he never talkes to me and the girl he likes Gianna but she will never go out with him.So ya my real problem is I am not sure if I should be friends with Lany or not or should I tell Him how i feel and than the whole friendship will be runed or is there anything else that I can do.Please help me I cant handle this.

well. I'm one for telling him.
or atleast bringing up, if it were to happen.
or ask him what he would think if you were developing feelings for him.
IF he won't still be friends with you afterwards, it's his loss.
of course, it may be awkward for a while, but just return to talking in a friendly way if he doesnt feel the same.
and things will be a friendship and you will know how he feels about it, and move on, or be with him.
:] either way in the end it'll be happier knowing.

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Ok well last April I think it was my Ex broke up with me we only went out for like 28 days or something like that but anyway he broke up with me for another girl and I like never talked to him really when we were going out or even before that I didnt really know him, But now he is broke up with his girlfriend and I like hang out with him all the time and I talk to him like non stop I really do like him but im not to sure if he feels the same way My friends say he does but I dont know, But the thing it that I really like him when he is just around me or with me and one or two of my friends but when he is with his friends he treats me like crap and says things to me that hurt my feelings and I dont think he realizes what hes doing... Sometimes I wanna be with him but other times I wish I didnt like him because he is like that what should I do??

Well the whole treating you like crap around his friends, is bull. But at the same time you have to keep in mind in this situation that He has a girlfriend. and chances are if he was the least bit nice to you around his friends, then of course people would then get dramatic and things would get switched around and somehow get back to his girlfriend that he was "Flirting" even if he was truely just being nice, with you.
Talk to him about it when you hang out alone.
I mean it's not the easiest thing to do. But atleast then you know.
and Once you know. If he doesn't feel that way, you can move on. and if he does, then there you go.

Either way, you won't be wondering anymore.
and don't let him give you the whole "well I don't know deal" cause he isn't worth being dragged along that's for sure.

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im in love with a guy who i know i cant never be with..even though we talk right now but i know i am waisting my time but somehow i cant get him outta my mind specially when we talk as soon as i come to forget about him he calls or doez something to make me want to stay in the game..i know for a fact there are other gurls in his life but still i cant have the courage to j cut him outta my life...wut should i do? how am i suppose to get over him wen everything i do reminds me of him???????????

first i'd need to know why exactly you can not ever be with him? :] then I can give you my opinion.

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my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 3 years and just now it went downhill like i had a bunch of family issues and have been depressed alot for no reason and i think hes gotten sick of it and ive been a total bitch and all i ever say i sorry i dunno what to do and we never talk anymore and we both agree we've both changed and we want it back the way we had it before when we were both happy with eachother. How can we do that ?

Sometimes you can't.
it all depends on if you both are willing to try,
or you could just accept the new changes, and help eachother through stuff.

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Okay well there is this boy that I am in love with.Also he liked me last year and we where really getting along and we where like best friends and I was loveing it.So when this new girl comes he starts likeing her and is being mean to me and acting really strange.But than summer came and I was getting over him untill the first day of school I fell for him again And I have no clue why its scareing me I really want to get over him and I want this girl gone.So please help me.

There's never going to be a real answer for this.
"You don't fall out of love with one, until you fall into it with another"
I love that quote, except for the fact, how're you ever going to love another if you don't let go of the first one to an extent of letting yourself even be with someone else, and feel right about it.
You could talk to him about it,
or make the move to put it in the past, and work on REALLY getting over him.
There's always going to be other options, even if you don't even really look at them as options at first.
It'll be hard. honestly.
and even though it feels like you can't. You can. it happens to everyone, and everytime it's going to feel worse. but that's all leading up to the good one, the keeper. :]
Just stay positive. Keep yourself busy, maybe you'll start thinking of him less.

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Okay, me and this guy, you could practically call him my boyfriend, we're not sexual or anything, we just care alot for eachother, and we both know about how the other feels, he goes to a different school. and we had a big argument, and everytime we fight i always go back to him, im afraid im gonna lose him to someone at his school, and this time i told him i was never gonna talk to him again, i want to know how i can have him come back to me??

I've gone through this oh so many times.
Honestly, Just watch when you say "never again" type stuff.
I'm not really sure how you'd get him back exactly,
Because by saying, "Never again" He probably just assumes, that's what you want and he should back off, even if it is hard for him.
Just try talking to him I suppose, as a friend or something.
and then maybe he will bring up still having feelings for you and what not.

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Hi, I asked you the question about that boy that I like in my new school. But, I was wondering what I should start to say to him. Like I said, I've never spoken to him before in my life. And, how do I say it? Like, do I go up to him and randomly start talking to him? Or, what do I even say?

Thanks...

well.
I mean, just say hey.
and how're you type deal at first.
and hopefully something should start up from there.
ask him what type of things he likes and such.

do you know anyone that he knows?
if so, you could ask if he's seen that person around or something cause you're looking for them.
and then continue with the how're you and such.
You're going to be super nervous, but don't let that get the best of you.

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Hi, I just moved and I really like this boy in my new school. He used to be in all my classes, but now he's only in 2. He's never talked 2 me before, except to say like "excuse me" in the hall or something. I really REALLY want to ask him out, but I just can't. Like today, I was going the same way as him in the hall, so I figured, what the heck I'll ask him out now, cuz nobody knows me anyways. So, I go to ask him, but I end up stepping on the back of his foot!=( I got so embarrassed I could barely say sorry. (But, noone else saw, it was just personal embarrassment) I REALLY want to ask him out, but I just can't, and I don't have many friends yet. PLEASE help me!
by the way, I've never asked a boy out before, or had a boyfriend before.

I went through this same situation. start off small I'd say. Example smiles and glances his way. it may be kind of awkward for him if you start off by asking him out, seeing as he doesn't know you. and work your way up to talking to him in a friendly yet subtle flirting manor. then you can work your way up to the big stuff of asking him out, or maybe he'll ask before you do. But make sure you get to it! good luck.

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started talking to rob two months ago. he moved an hour away but we manage to stay together, and hang on weekends. its ben rocky lately because hes extreely jealous. i was thinking about getting him a few nice sweatshirts or whatever. is it too soon, would he be weirded out?

thanks

Well.. if he's the jealous type, then he may possibly assume you did something wrong, and that you're just trying to kiss up and make up for what he doesn't know is going on. However, it doesn't seem like you are trying to buy something in order to make him feel better about his jealous, more so just a nice thing to do. I don't really know why buying him a shirt would freak him out, just don't buy him jewelry. haha.

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