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so i like this guy [[shockerrrr]] im 16 female [[again shockkkerrr]] anyway i like alot since i met me we instantly clicked and got along and had a great time talking and laughing together it was like the best night ever. He said he had liked me to when i acually got the nerve to say something like a month later only thing is he had a fling with this girl [[not making up a name shes just her or girl]] well they dated and were together for two months untill she broke up with him for another guy. well he was super upset about it and i hate seeing him upset its like even if he doesnt act like it you know from his eyes what hes feeling or at least i can. He's an amazingly wonderful perfect guy. She had no right to play with him like she did and im pissed at her because she did. But it was like when they were together i was invisable he talked to me when she wasnt around mostly cuz i hated seeing them together because i wanted it to be me blah blah. After they were together [[FYI i was the reason they got together =[ bust or what?]] well it turned out she didnt even no his favorite color and didnt care one bit about him. NOWW there broken up and hes single and i realli like him but im not sure how to tell him. my friend told me just to tell him and see what happends but the last guy i liked kinda murdered my heart so its not realli up for being spontaneous atm. my friend told me i was beautiful and he would be stupid not to care and thats realli what he said im not being cocky. im just scared he wont care

help?? anyone.


[[sorrry its like freakishly long]]

As the old saying says, it takes one to know one.
You both have been broken-hearted. It's a part of life. Now what you need to do is just give it time a little bit. Build up a better relationship with him and when the perfect time comes you should confess to him. Who knows he might confess to you before you can even tell him anything. Just be his friend for now because the only thing he needs right now is a friend to lean on.
Hope everything goes well :)
♥kay

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Sexy [from a guys point of view], acceptable in society if they are bisexual, acceptable in society if they are straight, and/or just plain wrong?

haha its fine,
its not lesbian or bi.
♥kay

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So I was dating this guy, and we ended up breaking up. He said I changed, and that why we broke up because he liked who i used to be. Now I did change in drastic ways but he influenced that. I lost my virginity to him and i smoked pot for the first time with him. He says that now i am a poser because i would ocassionaly smoke and that i didnt need it or want it. So i know how i've changed in that bit, but the other bit he is saying my whole attitude is changed. He wanted to get back with me but how i used to be not who i am now. I liked who i used to be better, how do i go back to that?

ty for taking the time to read this

you cant change just because you want to,
it takes time and in no time you will change
automatically, maybe you should try to stop
smoking & if you wrote in diaries before read
them & learn from them :)
hope everything goes well.

♥kay

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i've had the best boyfriend in the world for almost 2 years. he's so sweet and affectionate, and he does the nicest things for me! the problem is my friends. most of them don't have a boyfriend, and they're jealous. for one thing, my boyfriend is really cute and i know some of my friends have crushes on him. besides that, they're just jealous that i've had a boyfriend for so long when they haven't had one at all. so they either wish they could go out with him, or wish they had a boyfriend like him. and its a problem, because sometimes i get the idea that my friends are trying to break us up. like they'll flirt with him a lot, or try to get him mad at me. or sometimes, like if he brings me flowers at school or gives me a hug, they'll act kind of mad at me for a while. and please don't say they aren't my true friends, because they ARE my best friends. i think they just cant help feeling jealous. i'd probably feel that way too. but it makes me mad and sad at the same time, and i dont know how to handle it. or is there even anything i can do???

sometimes you might just over think
about the whole situation, i am pretty
sure at times they get jealous, but if
they were your true friends then they
would feel happy for you, try to talk to
them in a nice way, & maybe hopefully in
the end, everyone wins :)

♥kay

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I like this boy, he is my neighbor, i go to his house and we hang out but just as friends, and we can talk hours on end on our cells. He recently asked me out and i said no. but he has a girlfriend and they aren't that close because i think he just got a girlfriend to get back at me. i think he likes me when he is taken because everytime i look at him he is already at me, he sits at the frint of the room in class and i sit all the way at the back and he turned around and asked me for a pencil when his best friend sits by him, and he always texts me calling me dork is he covering up his feelings. dont be afraid to tell me if i am going about this all wrong. i actually want to truth. thx bunches!!

oh goodness,
i hate these kind of boys,
they make me the maddest >:[
they are so annoying,
they wont stop bugging you until you say yes

but maybe that might not be the case so i think you should just simply ask him whats up & why hes acting like that when he has a gf & stuff

goodluck
♥kay

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for two years. I know he loves me, but I also know that he's thought about going out with other girls. He has plenty of opportunity, because a lot of girls like him. What can I do to keep him interested in me? Any suggestions?

aw babe,
first off, if you think he is interested
in other girls, you should just drop him,
unless you super duper like him,
think this through, but if you really do think so
then just tease him, be flirtatious, and tell
lots of corny jokes, trust me the last
one seems real corny, but guys think
its cute & i guess thats what keeps them
going haha, goodluck!
♥kay

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Alright, so i have problems opening up. I know my boyfriend gets frusterated sometimes because i'll be upset and not tell him whats wrong for a while. Its like i have a hard time saying whats on my mind while the time is right. I really do try and open up and communicate better but its something thats kind of hard for me, for some reason. Its like when I'm talking to him I dont tell him things that I should and then when I hang up I think of things I should have told him. Does anyone else have this problem or have any advice on how to work on communicating better? Thanks. (18/f)

hey babe,
i think you should try writing him letters or text him because then you can go back and erase & once you get comfortable w/ him you can probably open up easier, if you dont think you really could open up with him, maybe he isn't the guy because in a relationship its all about that & trust and maybe you just don't trust him.
hope everything works out better
♥kay

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16/f

This is a fairly ridiculous question, but it`s legitimate so please bare with me. I want a boyfriend. The whole idea of enjoying someone`s company and being close gives me butterflies.

I try so hard to be everything a guy would want. I dress attractively everyday, I always wear make-up and do my hair. I'm confident and flirt accordingly. I get straight A`s - I don`t want to be all looks. I try to be friends with guys and nice to their friends. I have everything other girls do - and more! Why isn`t this happening for me?

I'm 5'8 and between 115-120 lbs, I exercise a lot and love competitive sports. I looove going to hockey/football games and really getting into it and talking to guys. At amusement parks, I`m always the first one onto the most daring and adventurous rides. Every chance I get, I go to dances and parties. Aren`t those good places to meet a guy?

This all sounds like ridiculous bragging, but I`m trying to prove (to you and myself) that I have what it takes to be liked by guys. I love laughing and making people laugh, also. I want someone to have fun with, to spoil and to care for. Sometimes this 'want' for a boyfriend gets so uncontrollable that it takes over my emotions. Sometimes I think maybe I`m just not deserving of a decent (or any) boyfriend.

I must be missing something - what could it be? It`s been three years since I`ve last had a boyfriend.. everytime a guy and I get close, there`s always some excuse and fades away. I`m young, I don`t want to miss out on all of that pointless (yet cute) `puppy love`.

a. guys dont really like makeup
b. maybe you need to open up more with them
c. there is probably some shy guy liking you out there but you just dont know it yet.
d. the point of WANTING a bf is not good, you need to find someone you actually like, the idea is not the whole point, try to find someone that you think you like them and maybe you guys might click ;)
hope it works out fine
♥kay

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