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Q: My boyfriend makes comments about actresses and other females and it bugs me and I was wondering what do I do?

oOh mine does it ALL the time and it makes me mad .. i just say it about other hot guys. sometimes he gets the point and stops.. but other times he liek flips so yeuh lol. so what i do is just do it to him too... this prolly didnt help but yeuh ♥Alese

Q: yeahh its the person who just left that question lol .. and that seems like wicked good advise. i haven't had time to talk to him today and he wasn't online or anything .. so i might try calling him tomorrow or see if he's online. thanks a lot babe

Thnxzz ma!!! hah i try my best :) hehe. well good luck when you talk to him!! if you eva need anything uk whut to do ;D hahaa ♥

Q: you seem to get a lot of buisness haha .. yeah well anyways

theres this kid that i went out with a lot last year. we were really close .. so it was like best friends plus more. then on a week trip away from school .. he started to like this other girl .. who was sort of my friend but we weren't wicked tight. so he broke up with me (he told my other friend he was going to anyways .. and she told me .. so i saw it coming and confronted him about it .. yeah i'm all over it haha). then after that we sort of stopped talking a little .. and i guess i tried to move on by getting a new boyfriend. then he completely stopped talking to me. then school was over .. we didn't talk at all .. a few kids who did talk to him told me he like hated me and stuff (i had broken up with my other boyfriend by this point). i was just like .. whatever .. you know he hates me he hates me i'm not gunna get all worked up about it and beg him or whatever. it really did hurt though. then school came around .. he started talking to me alot more .. and we're pretty much acting like nothing happened over the summer and during school. and lately .. he's been telling me that he "loves me" and all that. then my friend calls me today and tells me that him and this girl jess (she's the girl he started to like when we were going out) were going out. i can't say i wasn't dissapointed .. but its not something to get all worked up about. i mean yeah i like him like him but i can't controll him or anything. but i don't know .. cause he was telling me he loved me and being all flirty and stuff .. so i don't know if it was just like an act or he really likes me and just wants a girlfriend or likes jess and me or doesn't like me anymore (which would be weird .. because last night he told me he loved me again). should i ask him about it and make him feel bad like oh i thought you liked me blah blah blah .. or just let it go .. be like yeah i heard your going out with her and just end it there. so i'm split between letting their relationship go on or tell him that i thought he liked me and possibly make him break up with her. i mean not that i want them to break up because its none of my buisness what they do and i'm not that type of person .. but blah i need help. what do you think i should do?

dayum shortay that musta taken liek forever to type hah. but anyways .. if you really like him, and you want take that chance of him breaking up with her to go out with you , then go for it. but there is always a posibility that even if he DOES break up with that other chick he still might not go out with you. What I would personally do is not make him feel bad .. but just shake him back to reality.. iwould be liek "Uhmm so im confused at what you are trying to do ;; you say you love me then go out with that chick... and last night you said you love me .. i dont want to get my heart broken so decide what you want to do".....or SOMETHiNG along those lines haha. well i hope i helped .. drop by the inbox to tell me how everything goes.

Q: Ok well i like this girl. im kinda friends with her. I got in a fight she was on my side.lol.of course i won.But she is in my grade and i dunno wuts right.To go out with her or not. The other problem is that i made up with the kid i beat up. I dunno if she liked that. If she didnt what do i do? If she doesnt care how do i get her to go out with me??????please i need to know!!!!!!!!
singed, Me

give her clues that you like her, cause you'll never kno, she might like you too! but uhm do liek nice things to her, flirt, that kinda stuff. but who cares if she cares that you made up with the kid you got in a fight with. but if you are worried about it just be like, look i dont wanna be on sum1's bad side ;; the kid is actually cool. but uhm yeuhh. idunno really whut else to say. hope i helped. mucho amor!! ♥

Q: i don't know where to start. beginnings always good .. right?

so theres this kid tom (i'm giving names so i don't have to be like "the first kid .. " or whatever) and i guess i like him alot. at the beginning of the year we were wicked good friends .. and then it started to seem like he liked me so we were together like all the time. then idk .. he started to pretty much avoid me .. and talk to his ex girlfriend, sam, alot .. which is my friend. (i never told anyone i liked him .. by the way) then today i found out that they were going back out! back out as in .. they went out before .. obvoisly. so i can understand then like going out and all and yeah i'm mad but she didn't know and nobody else did .. so i can't really say that she's a backstabber or anything. i just don't know what to do .. i mean in school when i see them i feel like crying and i did today .. i don't know if i should just try to get over him or like him without anyone knowing or ask sam if she would be mad that i liked him or what. i mean i don't want to say anything to sam without her being all "why would you do that you know we're going out" or whatever. so i really don't know what to do. please help?

okay well this is happened to me liek a million times b4. idunno just kinda deal with it and get over it ;; whut helped me feel a hundred times better was getting a diff. boyfriend ;; mayuun that helped so much. but idunno. you will forget it after awhile trust me ;; it takes time tho. so just hang in there!!!!

Q: i kno this is prolly gonna sound realli wierd...but i realli dont kno what to get my boyfriend for sweetest day! ...i mean i kno he likes cincinnati bengals..and baby blue and red and orange..and 3 musketters...but hes doing sumtin amazing for me..and i realli dont kno what to even get him..i had an idea...but idt that he wood realli like it...do u have any sugjestions?

*un-known*

heyy hunn. uhmm well sryy i dont kno whut sweetest day is so i dont really kno whut to do. sRy

Q: ok its me.
remember when i asked about my warts
well my bf found my warts once when
we were holding hands. he goes is that
a wart? i jerked my hands away and laughed
saying "nooo its a blister from inter-tubing
silly!" and didnt give him my hand back the rest of the night. now im afraid i have to admit to him their warts. what do i do? its soooo embarassing! omgggg..btw we had our first kiss the other day! thats the good news

heyy ma. well if you keep on lying about it hes adventually gunna find out. N0BODY iS PERFECT!! he will understand. im POSiTiVE he has flaws too. if he asks again just be liek yeuhh, but thats okay ... because i kno you love me =) or sumthing silly liek that after. haha

awuuhh!!!! congrats. on the first kiss w| him =)

Q: Ok...It ended up that Dvontae was lying bout what jake was saying and everything and jake didnt even know i exsisted so i'm of course upset at dvontae but like I liekd jake SO much and I can't let go...What can I do? bout this cause i cant forget or get over jake

x3 Kate

just dont talk to either of them for a lil while. maybe find a new guy to get your mind off him. you will adventually get over him. trust me.

Q: Ok so I like this guy (Jake) like ALOT lately hes all I think lol about but he goes to a diffrent school and the only reason how I talk to him is between my friend dvontae and i'm tired of it and I give him my number and sn and stuff but like he never IMs me and Texts me or anything but dvonatae said he liked me but he said he wanted to get to know me before we go out and like how can I get to know him better when "I" never talk to him?

x3 Kate!

well if he doenst iM you then you iM him.. show him youre intrested. ask him questions and stuff liek that. liek sports, family, friends, ect.. Idunno just make sure you dont liek ignore him or dont iM him or text him because then he will think you dont liek him

Q: how do you flirt i rate 5s

uhm just liek play around and joke around and stuff. idunno it just liek comes naturally to me i cant really explain it haha. sry i wasnt that much of a help. if you ever need anything else again just drop by the inbox again. ♥

Q: Um hi... well i have been on and off with my boyfriend for about a year now and he likes my bestestestest friend now but i still like him a lot... what should i do??

uhmm i dont really kno. it depends on if you wanna go out with him again, or if you just wanna stay good friends. it all depends on whut you wanna do. just go with your heart. sry i wasnt that much of a help.

Q: first off...your background reeks of beauty! lol dane cook is so effin hott...and secondly::my problem...

i really like my boyfriend we actually just recently started going out a few weeks ago. well ive never had my first kiss and he has. im afraid that if we kiss he will be like "wow you suck at kissing we're breaking up" what if that happens? im so worried im a bad kisser. also, i have a couple warts on my hands. its really embarassing and like ive had them removed before but they keep growing back. what if we hold hands and he feels one and is like omg nasty! i would die. help me alese!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :'(

heyy ma.

omg ik dane cook is liek my fucken lover ♥♥♥♥♥ hahaha

okay anywayssss. uhm really just dont be worried. just remember.....at one point he has had a first kiss and he was prolly thinking the same thing. so i REALLY DOUBT he will dump you cause of that ;D hah.

and about the warts problem... if they are on just one hand, hold hands with your other one.. if they are on both then i dunno whut to tell you. he prolly wont even notice. if he does WHO CARES. i doubt he would care because guess whut... NOBODY is perfect. so yeuh. hope i helped!!! drop by the inbox nd tell me how every thing went! ♥ aleseeeeeeee xo

Q: hey hun .. how are you? well .. yeah i guess i better get to the point.

okay so theres this kid i like .. but he's one of my best friends ever. i don't know if he likes me too .. but he'll always look at me in class and stuff. i sit with him at lunch .. and he always sits next to me. he always tries to make me laugh too. and yeah it works :). but the thing about this is that like .. the 3rd day of school there was a rumor going around that i liked him .. but i didn't at the time. so people would ask if i did .. i'd say no. and theres another part .. he's my ex's like best friend. i broke up with him (jon) during the summer and now we like don't talk so yeah. and another thing .. the kid i like(tom) broke up with one of my good friends during the summer. i don't know if she still likes him .. but the situation just seems awkward to like an ex's friend and a friends ex. i don't know what to do .. i've told one girl that i trust that i like him .. but she didn't put very much input into it. so i don't know if i should just not tell anyone or if people still ask if i like him (from the rumor) if i should say yes or what. i mean i hate lying .. but i don't want everything to spread around in the matter of like 20 minutes .. if i tell someone.

idk what to do .. please help?

thanks babe.

hey maa.

well okayy.....just ask around .. see if he likes you too. and also ask your friend who went out with him if she cared if you liked him. i mean she cant hold on to him forever i guess. but uh yeuh. and who cares if its your ex'z best friend. haha. yeuh well im liek blanking out rite now so if i missed sumthin just get at me in tha inbox. hope i helped! alese xoxo

Q: hey so im a sophomore and this guy i like is a freshman. he likes me too and we are "dating" so like we're not bf/gf but we're dating. anyways hes like pretty cool and stuff and i really like him but like he always trys to make me feel guilty (ex. ok, i`ll go to the game w/ you if it makes you happy...) and pulls this sad face. i`m sick of it. why cant he just make his own decisions and stop being all whiney. i really like him though i just dont know how to deal w/ this stuff. and he's way to shy. i finally had to grab and hold his hand b/c he wouldnt do it. how annoying! so do you have any advice for my weird/unanswerable question!? thanks!

okay first of all i dont really get the whole "dating but not bf and gf" thing but okay.haha. but anyways.... i would just say talk to him. be liek well you dont have to go to the game if you dont want to and make HiM feel guilty. and maybe have your friends talk to him and have them say liek "dude you should grab HER hand. girls feel awkward when they have to grab the guys hand" or sumthing liek that idunno hahha. but yeuh i cant really think of anything else to say. really hope i helped. ♥ alese

Q: there is this super hott guy that i think is hott and it makes me so mad when all my friends are always saying.. o he is so ugly, u can do so much better... and it makes me so mad and idk what i should do.. i dont know if i should stop liking him or tell my friends that im gunna like him...and im 13

heyy girl. if you like him it wont matter whut your friends think. tell your friends that they have their own opinion on guys. dont stop liking him because of what your friends think of. hope i helped!!♥

Q: Is it okay to date several guys at once. i am 14 and i dont want to be serious with just ONE guy...i just like to hang out with them all!!!

uhm DATiNG more than one guy at a time is called Cheating and that is not a good thing. you will get a reputation as a whore and guys dont liek girls that cheat. its okay to hang out with a bunch of guys as friends but its kinda whorey to date more than one guy. sry if i sound liek a bitch.

Q: heyy this is the person who asked about the cutting.. um you helped a little bit but im sorry to say not enough. but n e wyas.. there is this guy and like all of my friends say that we were the cutest cuple in the world. and then we broke up.. and like he said he doesnt want a gf but like right now i want to go back out with him and like its killing me!! (literally) like everynight i will just like be in my room listening to music and then i will think of him and i will just out of no where burst into tears! then at a football game we were both at he was flirting with his other ex- gf right in front of me just to make me mad and like they went down to the playground behind the feil by themselves and like his arm was around her but he says they r not going out. i just really dont know what to do. on of my friends who has had this happen to her before says i should just give it time and try later b/c she talkd to him and says right now there is no chance but maybe later. what do i do?

:-/

heyy. im sry i wasnt much help last time.

but for thisz new problem i would just say wait. Getting a new bf might take your mind off of him. Sportsz usually helps too. cause the practices and games will take up your time instead of just sittin there thinking about him. if itsz really meant to be, then it will. it might not seem liek it now but it takes time. thatsz pretty much all i can say. sry if im not really that much of a help again. ♥alese

Q: HEY. okay. well, first thing...its pretty cool how you do this. it must make you feel good. haha. i think i might make one. well, theres this really cool guy in 10th grade. and hes my neighbor. and hes hot (just a plus, haha) and ive ALWAYS had like a thing for him. its not like a crush though...its ilke inbetween LIKING him and a crush. but more liking him. but see the thing is...he smokes pot. and cigerettes. and i wopuldnt be suprised if he smoked anything else. and he hangs out with like allll the wrong people. see, i HATE him for that. like seriously, I HATE THAT. hes not like goth or anything though. like when you look athim, you wouldnt thing "Oh, that guys a drugie". and like i dont think he likes me. because he relly doesnt notice me. but thennnnn theres this guy in my grade. im in 8th by the way. and he really likes me. im not bragging or anything. he just loves me. and i love him. idt i want to go out though...because idk. and i dont have time to have a comitment like that, im just saying it because i dont want to be a bag girlfriend. like if i was a girlfriend id want to in a long term relationship. and idk i flirt with alot of guys...im not a slut or anything, just like normal. and like nick (8th grader who loves me) put his arm around me at the movies. and says super nice things to me. hes really sweet. and hes SUPER good looking to...haha. yeah, well i know what the ovious thing is. i just felt i needed to tell someone who hasnt heard it before. and can tell me their opinion first hand. i mean i tell my friends everyhing...its just cool that you dont know me. kay well im excited to hear your comment back. =)

heyy girl =). well the older guy who somkesz...if you dont liek that..then i would say just kinda forget about him... im not saying hesz GUNNA, but he might be a bad influence(spelling? haha) on you...but i dont kno the kid so i cant really say that. The 8th grader seemsz liek a cool kid!! keep being good friendsz with him and when you are ready to date hesz always there.. well i dont really kno whut else to say so i hope i helped!!! drop by my inbox and tell me how thingsz went or if you ever need anything else =) ♥

Q: ok i have a problem-
im a girl, and im 14 yo!! 8i like this kid, and he likes me. and then theres this OTHER kid that i kinda like but not as much as the other kid. ok so they both like me, k? yea ok so i dont know which to pick because im really good friends with one kid and their liek best frinds so i have to make a big decistion.
can you help me?!
kthanksbye, frusterated

well i dont really kno whut to tell you.....but which ever one you liek better and the one you get along with most is prolly your best bet. and if they had past girlfriends.. ask them how they were..as bf'z that is. if they are liek yeuh he never called and stuff liek that..then i would choose the other one. but idunno. its really your choice. Hope i helped. ♥

Q: Heyy im tha one thats wants to sho more to her bf problem is we live in to diff towns and uhh we sorta just had this fite and he think im soo bored of him and crap and i love him soo much i noe im 13 but we've been togther for 4 months and we see eachother like every fri and sat he says he loves me and he just worried im soo bored of him how do i show him im not bored? and yea rite now i juhst found out there are alot of pretty gurls at his skewl and one just asked him out but he said no cuz he loves me.. im just so unhappy now

Heyy grl. awuh im sry that you got in a fite. Uhm well tell him liek every chance you get you love him. uhmm idunno when you hang out do sumthing different. liek instead of just liek goin to the movies or sumthing...go liek on a picnic or sumthing funn. Write him liek lil notes or poems nd stuff liek that. i dont really know whut else to say but Yeuh. hope i helped. And about the grl at his skool...dont worry about it cause he already turned her down. he loves ya grl dont forget it.♥

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heyy every1. my name is alese and im here to help with nethin i can. A lil bit about meee..
i am a compeition cheerleader for the DeMarco Stars♥I play Volleyball for my School♥I love to shop♥I hate when ppl call me a prep cause i wear Hollister and Abercrombie♥I love these hearts♥I have friends that are prolly better than yours♥I put bologna in my left pocket♥My cellfone is my baby♥thats pretty much it for nowww.♥so Im me on aol if you have any questions♥Love ya!