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Q: My boyfriend and I go to different schools. Before we started going out, we started talking about 2 months ago. Before either of us had feeling for each other, he told me he was going to prom with a girl from his school but they are 'just friends'. So last night, was his prom with that girl. I was wondering, was it wrong for him to take her when i'm his girlfriend? I know they are just friends but people have told me that he was being a jerk by taking her instead of me. So what do ya'll think?

There is nothing to worry about. Your boyfriend had already promised the other girl that he would take her to the prom 2 months ago and he insitis that they are just friends. It would have put the girl in an awful position if he had cancelled with her in such short notcie and she would have been devastated. Put yourself in her shoes- how would you feel if your friend cancelled on going to the prom with you even though you had planned it months in advance? Remember that your boyfriend is with YOU and he chose to be with YOU not the other girl so dont worry! Im sure they are genuinly friends.
As for the people who have told you that he is a jerk for not taking you, they are simply saying that because they think that is what you want to hear and are trying to make you feel better in their own way.

If its playing on your mind alot then talk to your boyfriend about it and just express that you are not mad at him but cant help but feel a little jealous. Im sure he will understand and put your mind at ease.

Hope i have helped,
Kerry x

Q: Hi, my name's Kylie. I'm a virgin and tomorrow is going to be my "big day" with my boyfriend. He's also a virgin too so we're both nervous a little bit. I'm only worried about two things though. I'm a really clean person but for some reason my vaginal area [vaginal lips, my inner thighs too] are like a brownish color! I don't even know how that happened! I'm so clean, I don't understand. Does anyone know how it's like that and will my boyfriend be grossed out by that at all? :/ Thank you.

hey well first of all gud look and have fun! Your bound to be nervous so just try and relax and enjoy it. Its also really good that your boyfriend is in the same position as you so you can go through it together. As for the brownish marks, dont worry its not because your unclean. Some girls have a darker pigmintation of skin in that area so its completely normal. Also, your boyfriend will think its completely normal as well and will be so happy to be with you that it wont matter.

Hope i have helped,
kerry x

p.s dont forget the rubber! :D

Q: my bf fingered me (barely)for the first time. he put two fingers in, but it was only like 1 inch. the following day i was bleeding, however i didn't feel any pain. is it still possible he popped my cherry?

yes he probably has 'poped your cherry'. Some girls bleed the first time they are penetrated but only a litle bit. If you are bleeding alot and you are not on your period then you should check where you are bleeding as he may have been too rough.
And about the barley fingered you, dont worry, it was probably his first time doin it and didnt wanna hurt u-he will get better. :D

Hope i have helped
kerry x

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Hi, my name is kerry and i am a student in college. I would love to pursue a career as an advice columnist as i love to listen to people's problems and advise them on what to do. I am not judgemental and i enjoy helping people, in fact my other possible career choice would be in psychiatry or pediatrics. The main reason i registered on this website is to gain experience of giving good advice and see if this career is for me, as well as helping those who i can :D