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I consider myself to be a "normal" teenage girl. There really isn't anything outrageous that separates me from others so I consider myself to be painfully average. I can say that I do have a level head and I find it easier to give out advice than to come up with advice for myself. Hopefully I'll end up helping someone.

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My boyfriend kissed another girl. What should I do?

It wasn't a french kiss and it was on the lips.

The thing is, my friend saw this. He was at karate with one of his classmates.

And I think my friend isn't lying because she told me the ADDRESS of the building and the time he was there. I know the karate place and I know what time he goes. And my friend doesn't go to his school so it's not like they talk about what time he goes there and where. We all hung out like 2 times [movies] so no conversation, basically.


My boyfriend didn't tell me anything though..

So i'm not sure how to go about this..

My friend isn't known to be a liar. But I don't know about my boyfriend. :/

Well if your boyfriend kissed another girl you shouldn't let it slide. Not to mention the fact that he didn't say anything about it. I would ask him about it definitely make it clear that you're not going to let him walk all over you.

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ok im going to the movies w/ some friends tomorrow and the boy i like is going! does anyone know any hints or stuff i can do to let him know that i want to do stuff ( if you no what i mean.. not all the way) like while we are walkiing around and during the movie.!! so that he can make the first move!!!!

Try to sit by him in the theater and walk close to him. If you end up sitting by him share an arm rest and try to brush up against him. He should be able to take the hint if you're comfortable with being close to him, and hopefully it will encourage him to move things ahead.

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Okay I met this boy and he's straightedge and he said he doesn't date girls who drink,do drugs, or smoke. well when i first was with him I didn't do anything of the stuff and well I've fallen in love with him and I started doing drugs for about 4 months ago and i'm still doing them. i also drink sometimes. I want to be him so bad I'm afraid to lose him. I know he loves me and he still doesn't know that I've been doing drugs and I know he'd care but I don't want him to leave me. please don't tell me about how drugs are bad because really I don't need that.
If you were my boyfriend and i told you would you be mad or do you think he'd be really mad and just break up with me.

I've tried to stop a lot of times really I've tried so many times the hardest I could but really I can't stop at least not right now its really hard for me. i'm going to keep trying but even if I did stop I don't want to have that be a lie I want to actually let him know if its a good idea.

Please give me your full honest anwser it means a lot to me.
What should I do?

I can see his point of view as an edger myself, but love isn't just what someone does. Love is being able to stick with someone. If you want to get through it he should stay by your side and help you through whether or not he agrees with what you're doing. You shouldn't have to worry about losing him because you shouldn't have to question whether or not he'll stay by your side.

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There's this boy that I used to go out with, but broke up with him because I didn't like him like he liked me. But I happen to know that he still has feelings for me. Previously when I was talking to him and another one of my friends, he said he was tired of getting his heart broken, which really made me feel bad for breaking up with him. Now, there's this other boy who likes me, and asked me out. I turned him down because I didn't like him, and know he just keeps staring at me...which is really creepy. And now there is this other boy who likes me, but my ex doesn't know about, and I talk to him on a regular basis. And my friends keep telling me that he said that he wants to go out with me. I don't know if I should say yes because I don't want to hurt me ex-boyfriend's feelings again. If you can help me out, thank you so much!!! ~*Stephanie*~

Getting hurt is part of growing up. Eventually he'll have to learn that things can't stay the same forever, especially not based on feelings. Do what feels right for you and what is good for you. Your ex will move on in time, and it may help for him to realize that it's really over between you two.

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there is this emo rock goth boy that i no, and he is nice and funny but i dont fancy him.I had a dream that i snogged him and liked it
what does this mean?

Sometimes dreams have meaning to them like maybe there are underlying feelings, but for the most part a dream is a dream. Sometimes they're just strange or random. It doesn't necessarily mean anything. Don't look too far into it =]

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im 13 and i have never had a bf or my first kiss is this normal?

Believe it or not there are many people that wait longer than 13 to have a boyfriend and a first kiss. When you're becoming a teenager things are confusing and new to you and boys and kissing are much too complicated for that age. Even if people tell you otherwise you should know that 13 is the age where you're supposed to have fun being young while it lasts. The only way to be normal is to do what is right for you.

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there this guy and i have a huge crush on him, but he has a girlfriend. ive like had dreams about him and cant stop thinking about him its driving me crazyy!!! what can i do??

If you want him but can't have him the best thing to do is move along. You can move along or pursue him even though he has someone. If he felt the same way you did he wouldn't have a girlfriend to complicate things. Everyone's entitled to a crush but don't let it rule your life.

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Is it normal to wonder if a guy ever thinks about you or talks about you to his friends? Is there any way to find out what he says?

Like, without him knowing of course. :)

It's very normal. Every girl knows or at least suspects that guys are a little different when it comes to crushes. I don't have all of the answers myself but I've learned that usually the best way to figure out what he says is to pay attention to the things his friends do or say. They tend to let things slip.

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months and his birthday is coming up real soon. I'm all out of ideas on what to get him for a birthday gift. I want something sweet, but thoughtful. Something I could do myself, or make. I was wondering if anyone had any cute ideas? REALL cute ideas. Thanks in advance, guys!

This may be kind of cliche but you could always make a mix cd of your favorite songs or songs that remind you of him. I really like making collages so I tend to make collages with pictures of my friends' favorite celebrities or pictures of us that just bring back memories. It's a cute and easy idea and it's creative so that might be a good idea for you.

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14/f
okay well i will like a guy and this girllets call her sarah ends up being thier boyfriend first.its really pissing me off.i am not like ugly.i am smart and really nice.why does she keep on doing this.how do i get the guy first.

It sounds like your friend is insecure. A good friend wouldn't go out with someone that you like. It's just the friendship law. There really isn't a definite way to get a guy first. You just have to find the right one that only has eyes for you. You shouldn't have to worry about getting a guy before your friend.

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13-f
well i really like this guy & i'm pretty sure he likes me back. but i'm not totaly sure. because he says that he wants me to give him a hug. so i'm really confused.i've heard that he likes everyone tho. so my question is, how do i show him that i like him? like give him a little hint. without flat-out sayin it?

thx!

Flirting might seem too obvious of advice but it really can be the best way to tell if someone likes you. The next time he tells you he wants you to give him a hug why don't you just tell him that he should hug you. Flirting styles really depend on the type of person but smiles are universal. Give him a special smile and maybe he'll realize what you mean.

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