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i changed schools in the middle of this yr and its a super small school. i really like my friends but they are very judgemental and all have money. i have no problems with them and like them a lot but my bf is not that attractive generally and doesnt have much monay at all. i want to bring him to the dance in a month or so but im afraid my friends will judge him. im seriously not trying to be stuck up or anything but i dont want them saying something mean...i hope you understand and please im def. bringing him to Prom and this is only Sadie's but its the only other dance and i want him to so...idk thanx so much! :]

Okay, I see what's wrong. Well, personally i think that if you really truly like him you'll bring him to the dance and just don't care what anyone has to say about it. If you really feel like you don't want to show your friends this guy, maybe it's time for you to find a new bf.

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I have a guy friend, let's call him Joe. Joe and me talk quite frequently, and we just started this thing where we walk to class together sometimes. I want to know how to flirt without going overboard. Keep in mind that I'm not going to change myself to match his interests, and I know the whole speech about being myself. I just need some simple, foolproof tips that he can pick up on. He's very shy, and isn't one of those guys that flirts with every girl.

We already talk between passing period in the hall, but today, I was walking to Art, and he actually went out of his way to walk with me. :) Also, I'm not asking to be his girlfriend [although it would be nice], I just want to get 'closer' to him.

Sounds like you're doing a great job to becoming great friends! I think it's a great thing that you want to get to know him more. I see where you're coming from with the whole flirting thing. If i were you, I would ease my way into the flirting. After talking to him more and more, you'll both continue to get to know one another more and thats obviously a pretty good start to any relationship. Now for the advice on easing in with the flirting... I think that just by smiling at him would be a good way to warm up the friendship bar. Have a good sense of humor. Stubborn in a girl is a major turn off. Laugh at his jokes (even if they're stupid) but don't over do it. HOWEVER, since he's a shy dude, triple check to make sure he's really comfortable with you before you make any serious moves that could improve or destroy a relationship. A good way to start is by talking to each other alone, not with your cliques around you. Another major turn off, besides being stubborn, is talking about how hot other guys are. It makes him feel unimportant and unappreciated. Try not to be too bossy. And, I know you've said you know all the be yourself crud, but like if you're too much of a tomboy all he'll really think of you is a friend.

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