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Okay lets say you knew this girl was fourteen dating a sixteen year old boy, if you found out that she (she's now fifteen) let him finger her, gave him a hj and a bj, would you judge her?? they dated for seven months. I think you can see that I'm the girl... haha

I think you shouldn't care about people judging you, and if they did then it's their problem. So find friends who don't.

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Hey I'm a fifteen year old girl and my ex is a sixteen year old boy. Since we've broke up, he's always said he wants to try and be friends. But for the two months of being apart its been really hard. I still hurt when I see him, especially when he's around other girls. I don't want him back, I just feel hurt. But I've been a good girl, left him alone, tried to just get over it because I know our relationship was unhealthy and I'm never going back. He texted me though, outta nowhere and said "I don't know if I can be friends with you if your friends are such bitches" and I told him "they just don't like you because they've seen how much you've hurt me..." but then he said "well I don't know if I can deal with being friends with you either. I mean, when we were dating the only time I felt like I liked you was when we were hooking up..." and I mean, I knew that was true but he'd never actually said it before and so I exploded on him. I said lots of mean things and he did too but needless to say we didn't end up on a good note... Now I don't know what to do... I don't want things to stay this bad but I also don't wanna deal with him. He's not gonna apologize, and I'm tired of being the one always going back to him and saying sorry. I just... don't know what I'm supposed to do... Please help!

First off honey dear, this "boy" does not deserve you. Second, this child needs to learn some manners and respect his ex girlfriend. I don't know the details of what went wrong in your relationship or you're break up but I guess he wasn't the best boyfriend ever. You just need to stop talking to him for a while and let things cool down between yall and next time yall talk let him know that things HAVE TO BE CIVIL. And it is not cool of him to say he only liked you when yall hooked up even if it was obvious, because that is one of those things you keep to yourself. This little boy, who seems to have a huge ego, needs to learn when to hold his fingers when he is texting. But I know how it is hard to get over a guy after you break up, I alway have that feeling with my exes even if we broke up a long time ago, because they were yours once, and you can't stand thinking of them being someone else's. I think it is that way with a lot of girls, almost all of them. But I think this guy is sooo not right for you so it's good that you don't like him like that. I just think that you need to tell him you don't deserve his rude comments after you take time away from him.

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What are some ways I can show my boyfriend I love him and care about him. Please no cutesy romantic stuff because he won't like that. And preferably nothing involving calling him or texting him.

Well you seriously just have to tell him how you feel. It doesn't have to be romantic or anything. Just whenever you are with him tell him you care about him and just hanging with him shows that you care about him. And don't call him or text him saying you care or love him, that is so impersonal and doesn't show your feelings at all.

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It's been two months since my boyfriend and I broke up but I'm still hurting. He treated me like shit while we were dating, hurt me so many ways, and yet when I got to bed every night the only thing I can think about was the way he held me and kissed me and I miss being loved like that. He didn't love me for me, he admitted that, but we had such a physical connection that that's what has hurt so much to lose. He pressured me into going farther than I wanted to physically and it made me sooo attached to him that when he cut it off, it made it twenty times harder than it should have because I know I was too young to deal with those kind of physical connections. We dated for seven months, he was sixteen and I was fourteen, but I'm fifteen now. I just don't know what to do. I'm sick of missing someone who didn't care about me. I just want to be held by him again, but only by him and I don't know why... Please some one help, I hate this hurt.

Clearly this guy wasn't good for you. You may always miss him, but you need to find someone who loves you and cares about you for you. It probably will be hard for you to stop comparing other guys to him or to always wonder about him, but he doesn't deserve you. You realize that he hurt you and treated you like shit so you should realize that even if he does come back to you one day, he would just be using you. And if he shouldn't pressure you into doing stuff you aren't comfortable with, if he truly cared he would have waited. You just need to find someone who cares about you and is a good friend.

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