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Q: 15/male and ive never had a girlfriend and im worried that my penis is small there may be something wrong with me its about 5 inches long is that normal for my age? do girls care about penis size?

Your still young and your penis is still growing.
The average size at the beginning of puberty is 6 cm (2.4 inches) with adult size reached about 5 years later.
It's still growing so give it time and don't stress too much about it.

Yes some girls do care about penis size but others don't. Me and a lot of my friends don't care about penis size, they just care about the guys personality, so don't worry about that either.

I hope I helped.
-Kat

Q: im 15 female my boyfriend is also 15 weve been together just over 6 months hes really shy we make out but when i try to do more he gets nervous he doesnt seem to want to do more and he still shy about me seeing his penis he says its small i told him i love him i dont mind but hes still shy about his size i dont want to push him too much but how can i get him to be more confident?

You have to give your boyfriend time.
Maybe he's just not ready to do anything more than making out.
If he's not comfortable doing anything more, don't push him. When he's ready he will tell you himself.

In the meantime just try and make him more confident. Keep telling him you love him, just be there for him and maybe he will open up more and be more confident around you.

You could also talk to him about it. Just sit him down and tell him how you're feeling. Tell him you don't care how big his penis is, it really doesn't matter. All that matters is that you love him and you want to be with him.
If he still refuses to do anything more then just give him some time. Hopefully over time he'll grow to be more confident.

I hope I helped
xoxo
good luck

Q: i have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, and i was wondering, if you were going to get a present from your girlfriend, would you want a photoalbum?

Guys, please answer truthfuly. And girls, id like past experiences or stuff. Thank you so much. Im so nervous he wont like it =[

I think you should fill the album with photos of you two together.
Like if you two had certain days,
like if you went to a place and had lots of fun and you took photos then put those into the album so he can always remember the good times you had together,
but leave some of the spaces empty for when you have more of those fun days. If you get what I mean.

hope this helped
-kat

Q:
I have never had a boyfriend, nor have I felt the desire. I wanted to wait , until I was mature, ready. Last week, at a party, I met a guy. I just loved him, maybe not loved him, but wow.
I never like guys, but this was different. He had all the qualities, I really liked him.

My best friend, HAD a boyfriend at the time. They were going though a rocky patch.
A couple of days after , my best friend's relationship ended. She was PRETTY gutted. She said to me, I still love him. The guy I met invited her round (cos he did get to know her, as well) and he turned round and kissed her. She didnt stop it - obviously I know she was on the rebound - BUT she didn't even like him - I mean she was making little remarks about him during the party.

He said to her, that he really liked her. And now they are going out. WTF.
I am so hurt, I can't even breath. My friend doesnt know I've fallen for him, and now, they're happy together. I am so gutted, it hurts so bad, the first guy i like and I'm already been knocked down. I spoke to him and he was saying all this stuff about how happy they are and I had to sit there and smile.

& I have to be a best friend to her. I am not going to say I've fallen for him, when she's going out with him and she's on the rebound. But it hurts so bad because, well this is no jealousy issue she gets what she wants. I am second best against her(not as intelligent,pretty etc) that DOESNT bother me, because I know I am still a good person :) I am totally secure.
But she gets everything, and it's just lie YOU HAD A BOYFRIEND, why for once? Couldnt I get the guy? I've never felt this attraction, and now. It's over.

The whole gang go out together all the time, I have to sit there and be happy for them.
God, I''ve been crying. I never cry.

How do I get over this? I mean, what advice do you give me?

I Still wanna hang out with the gang - just because my best mate and him are there doesnt mean I should stop hanging out and dodging them. I should be happy for them, I should support her right no matter how much it hurts me, right?

oh my god i know EXACTLY how you feel. I have a best friend that always gets what she wants and always gets the guy. Its very annoying.

You said that just before her and "your guy" got together she told you that she was still in love with her ex.
Well she might just be using "your guy" to make her ex jealous. Or like you said he could just be the rebound guy.
Either way I don't think that their relationship sounds like it's going to last very long.
I think that you should talk to him, get to know him, secretly flirt with him, just kinda make him fall in love with you,
so if/when their relationship comes to and end, he'll have you. Just make sure your friend doesn't find out and make sure that you don't end up being the rebound girl.

If they don't end up breaking up then don't worry about it. There are plenty of other guys out there and I'm sure you'll meet the right one, one day.

hope i helped.
good luck,
-kat

Q: there is this guy i like but i dont know if he likes me, he somtimes has sweaty palms around me, he always gives me a hug, he jokes around with me like grabbing my side, i chatch him staring at me somtimes, he listens to me, he sometimes lets me listen to his ipod, and he asked out the last girl he liked (and got denied) so i dont know if he likes me but is hesitant, or doesnt like me.

Most of these signs mean that he's interested in you but you won't know for sure unless you ask. If you want to be a bit more sure that he likes you before you tell him how you feel, then flirt with him a bit and see how he reacts. If he flirts back then it's likely that he likes you back. If he sort of denies your flirting then it probably means he's not interested and just wants to be friends. Some guys can be really blind and won't notice that you're flirting with them, so if your guy is like that then you should tell him how you feel and hopefully he'll feel the same way. If he doesn't then don't worry because over time if you continue to flirt with him little bit by little bit and continue to be his friend then he might start to like you. But you shouldn't dwell on the same guy forever. If he shows no signs of progress in liking you then you should just move on.
Hope this helped
:)

Q: So, my best friend forever is a little opinionated, close minded, and loud. Picture Paris from Gilmore Girls, for example. She's a lot like that but a little more feisty, if you will.
My boyfriend is opinionated about peoples opinions. He made her cry today by bringing up a past relationship problem.
We were hanging out today, the three of us, and she's really trying to be his friend. She even gave him one of her birthday cupcakes! But she's probably given up by now.
He almost didn't kiss me goodbye after I walked him home.
I just feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place here.
he's my first real boyfriend, and we haven't fought so far--its been a month and a half.

Any ideas? :/

I know that at the moment you're probably happy that you have your first real boyfriend and you don't want to stuff things up with him, but he doesn't seem very nice. Your friend is trying to be nice to your boyfriend but he doesn't seem to be making any effort at all. I think that you should talk to him about this. Ask him why he is treating your friend this way. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and tell him how you feel. If things don't turn out well with your boyfriend then don't worry because, you're young and you'll have plenty of other boyfriends in the future. If you guys do break up, then you'll at least know that you have your BFF to help cheer you up.

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Hey everyone. My name is Katerina but people call me Kat. I am currently 16 years old. I know I'm young but I love to help people out and if you give me a chance I'm sure I can help you.
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