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Q: I've been dating this guy for 9 months, and he treats me like crap, we dated for 4 months before that and he cheated on me, i lost my virginity to him and we almost had a baby together, we lost it at 8 weeks.

Ive been friends with this guy Ricky since 8th grade, I'm now a senior in highschool, i like Ricky but i love my boyfriend even though he treats me like crap, he always sucks up to me and i get sucked back in I've tried to brake up with him in the past but he always tells me things will change and i seriously feel as though i CAN'T break up with him i don't know why, thats just how it feels.

Ricky and i have been wanting to hook up since we like met but we just never did. Last night he told me that he liked me and he always tells me that my boyfriend is a loser and treats me like crap and i can do better. I do like Ricky but when we were talking last night we both came up to a conclusion that until we got to know each other better we should just be friends with benefits, we don't want to get attached for the wrong reasons though. We both want to hook up, and its not like im a whore and do that a lot Ive never had sex with a guy and not be dating.. and Ive only had sex with 2 guys. He isn't a player either, he hasnt had a girlfriend or sex in over a year because he simply is waiting for someone he likes, he told me he does like me but we just want to take things slow (besides the sex part)

I'M NOT GOING TO CHEAT ON MY BOYFRIEND.
I'm actually not even sure if we are still dating at this point because i called him out and messages that i found on my computer about him wanting to hook up with other girls and he wanted them to send him nude pictures. I mean i think were still together but were kinda on like a brake? it's weird.


I need advice on how to break up with him i feel so attached to him even though he treats me bad, he never physically hurts me but mentally and emotionally he does and I've lived with him now for about 5 months i dont know why i can't leave him everyone is always yelling at me to brake up with him and nobody understands that this feeling i have, it's seriously like i can't do it..?
has anyone felt like this or no what im talking about? How do i break up with him? Should i give Ricky a chance? i just dont want to be hurt anymore?
You should read Dreamland by Sarah Dessen. That might help you.

Q: okay im 13 and i kinda like this boy, and he
says hes likes me. he even asked me to the movies
he tells me hes gonna call me, but doesnt, do i text
him to try to start a convo or does it seem like he
doesnt like me idk?
I say text him first. Calling may seem like a little to much at least from my opinion. But if you two are really into eachother, then i would call. But don't keep constantly calling and texting. That can get annoying to some people.
Hope I helped.

Lyssa
14/F

Q: 13/m
with girls i go out with i always am afraid to hold their hands or do anything like that and my girlfriend dumped me just today because of it i really liked her and she was really nice to me and i liked her alot
i guess she just got tired of me being like that
oh i am talking to her now she said it seemed like i ignored her so now i feel like rubbish because i made her feel that way
so does anyone have any tips for being less fridget and being able to show my feeling a bit better
Ok, so if i have this right, she broke up with you because you don't like to hold her hand? Well, thats just weird to me. I guess that means she's the type of girl who likes to have her hand held. So, shes not your type. She likes to be held and you aren't the type of guy to give her that. So find someone else! Someone who doesn't need the constant attention she needs.

Your young! You can find anyone else in the world. And maybe with your next girlfriend, you can try holding her hand every once in a while. But it doesn't have to be constant. The truth is, you can't always do exactly what every girl wants because every girl is different.

Lyssa 14/F

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