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14/f

OK...so i'll try and make this short...me && this guy named jonathan have liked eachother for about 1 month now. we would talk on myspace and call eachother sometimes. then two days ago we got into a stupid argument that was pointless but, it was VERYY minor. WE GOT OVER IT...so he was suppose to ask me out but, he didn't. and he posted a bulletin on myspace saying that he was taken and loving it. i thought he meant me,,but I found out yesterday he's back with his ex. He didn't even tell me..my best friend did.. and when i found out, i was CRUSHED.. i was in tears and i couldn't believe that i was actually going through this again.[this happened w/ another guy].. and my friend told me that even though he's back with his ex,,he still has feelings for me. AND I'M HIS #1 ON MYSPACE..if that even matters...

so my questions are:

should i still talk to him??!! ..what's the point he has a girlfriend now..right??!!..i'm not even sure if i still like him because it hurt me soo much..should i move on to someone else??!!..what should i do overall..??!!

THNX IN ADVANCE

first of all whatever advice i offer to give you, you can either take it or leave it, use your best judgement.

there is jumbleness of words inside my head, but i know what advice i want to give you-just the ideas i'm trying to convey into words.

this guy, jonathan, he's stupid for playing you like that. but thinking of this, how much does he mean to you? and he to you?

talking on myspace, is simply just that. myspace is myspace, it's like las vegas. but there's a point in time, if he really cares about you, enough to even go beyond words and say, "i like you, and i still have feelings for you" he needs to show it.

him getting a girlfriend after talking to you for a month and then leading you on, it's just pathetic and wrong. it's like a terrible nightmare that you want to wake up from. like someone stabbing your heart and breaking into a million pieces. but that feeling won't last long, and ur worth so much more.

i know what you're probably thinking, what do you know? and your probably right. because i don't know your situatuation and could never pretend to.

yes, you should still talk to him, to answer your question. don't give him the cold shoulder. the worst kind of punishment is solitary-and that's what the cold shoulder is.

i can't tell you what to do, but personally, moving on is the best you could do.

don't cry because it ended or what could have been, be happy that it happened. it's in the past now, and all you could do is that.

sometimes things in our past run over the ideas and relationships that could happen in the future.

so just keep your mind over. i know you'll get through this.

-the greenness


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almost 15/m
Ok so on friday I was dumped by someone I thought eas perfect for me...I thought things were going well...we were so happy together, but over the summer we have been busier, and thats is one of the reasons I believe...we still do talk and it hasnt seemed to lose passion or anything because I love her more than anything. We still did talk alot. She seemed perfect for me I loved every bit of her (I know....teen love is not real love and are just flings but ive been bf/gf with her for atleast 3months). I am just wondering if it is a bad (as in looked down upon) thing to try to win her back? Ive been trying to look at the bright side...but it doesnt work for long. I just need to get over it. I feel like I need to be a man and not cry. I am sick of crying. Idk how to get her back...or how to let go...she was the only one who could ever get me out of depression...and she restored faith in alot of things for me. I dont want to lose her....I am still lucky to be friends with her, but it just feels a bit awkward. please help!
~dp~

dear dp-

i don't know what to say to you, but jumbles of idea might help.

you can either take my advice or leave it, use your best judgement.

i know it's hard loosing a relationship, especially even if it's like losing a best friend. i understand that. sometimes i could wish how much it must hurt to feel that.

i can never understand what situation you are going through, but somehow all you can do is be friends with her. i'm not going to say "stop with your whining and be a man, men don't cry" but that's all crap, and it's all a lie. What does it even mean to cry? and why does it matter whether you cry or not, it's emotions, and it help to get through pain.


so does talking it out. if lack of communication is what broke you guys up, maybe you should build that up again.nd i know you said you guys talk a lot still, but maybe it's about nothing, maybe, instead of talking about nothing actually talk about somthing, and really listen to her, and respond, not just repeat what she's saying in a different way.

the akwardness will fade, trust me, it will just give it time...

-the greeness

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