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Hi, ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and a few days ago his friend got on the phone calling me nasty names.

and i figured out my boyfriend got wasted and madeout with another girl.


i love him but i dont trust him.

i am misrable without him. should i give him another chance?

i agree with below about that it is your decision. but like said once a cheater always cheater. most of the time, some people change, but very few. if he called you names like that, he obviously isn't respecting you, and you deserve to be respected. put you first. and although it may be horrible to break up with him, give yourself a week of romance movies, and a tub of ben and jerrys and treating your self to a day at the spa, and you'll be just fine.

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Me and this guy have known each other for almost two years now, and we started out going out and broke up after a month, but just got alot closer. Anyway a year and a half later we are really close and we like each other. Anyway, there is something that is keeping him from me. SO there is this other guy that likes me and I had feelings for him but my feelings for this other guy that I love was keeping me from saying yes to him. So I asked him (the guy who I like) what he wanted, and he told me that he didnt want me to be with the other guy because he would miss me and he wouldn't know what he would do without being as close as we are now. I told him I needed to a reason to stay,And he said that he liked me but he wasn't ready to date me, because any relationship we would have would be serious and he didn't want a serious relationship. I asked him what he was ready for, and joking he said "some hoe on the street". I told him he wouldnt care about her, and he told me that was the point, he cared about me too much. He said because we are in high school breaking up would inevitable (he is one grade ahead of me) and he couldn't risk our friendship. I told him he made me happy and that I wanted to be with him, and he told me I made him happy but he couldn't give me the relationship he knows I dream about. What I need to know is if this is true, I'm not sure if this is an excuse or what makes guys not ready. And if he liked me how come he doesn't want a serious relationship. He says he cares about me. I told him I didn't really want a serious relationship but he said he didn't believe that because I get emotionally attached. At that moment we almost kissed (both of us have never kissed anyone before). But we were in his doorway to his room and I didn't want his parents to walk in on us, so I told him not now. When I texted him this morming I asked him if the feeling of kissing me had passed (because we are hanging out next weekend and I want to kiss him then) and he texted back that he told me yesterday that he wasn't ready to date me so it wouldn't be fair to me. Was that a rejection, I do want to kiss him, and I know he wants to kiss me. I just don't know what to make of this situation. And I need thorough advice on how to go about this. I love him, and I really think he loves me. HELP PLEASE!!!

he's scared. the pretty much same thing happened with my boyfriend and i. some guys feel like their giving up their freedom when they are this young. don't make him your top priority. pretend you have other interests, if he calls, keep it short. if he talks to girls, talk to guys. he'll get the point sooner or later, if he doesn't than he is a loser who really only does want a hoe. if he really cares about you as much as he says, he'll finally be committeed. but don't ruin your freedom over it. enjoy every moment.

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So the boy i have a thing for has left for vacation for four weeks.
I know that i should just go out and have fun because it's summer, but i can't really get him out of my mind.
If i flat out asked him if he liked me, he would be really weirded out and answer honestly of course, but it would just be hard because he's gone.
I do know that he kind of has a thing for this sophmore in college also (we're seniors in highschool) and i know she wouldn't like him, but he still has a little crush on her.
I don't know..

Honestly, I would tell him that you like him. I'd be like look, I'm into you. If don't ask him, you won't know. The worst he is going to say he doesn't like you. And then you know that he's not worth your time. Why should you ponder about a guy for four weeks when you aren't even dating him? Don't waste your time worrying. You need to have fun.

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