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me and my boyfriend have been going out for just about 2 years (nearly there, in 2 months) but my dad always says, "it'll never last". We are both smart students, even though we're young, and we want to go to top universities in a years time (he is 17 and I am 16 - theres a 9 month gap and we are both in the same year at school). The thing is, its been almost two years and I feel its trivial for my dad to keep on saying this and so stubbornly denying that we could ever last. I don't feel like I'll ever break up with him (now I know that is what everyone says but I really have no desire to be with other guys, or experiment, or anything) we have both a great time with eachother as friends, help eachother out all the time, have the fair few petty arguments and also a great sex life (its legal from 16 here in the UK guys, so no lectures). Everyone says that 'love' at this stage in life, however, is not Love at all. I want to know a) if anyone here has been able to last since their teen years (I want to know if its possible! My parents never had a happy marriage and that scares me into thinking I'll always be as discontented with my relationships as they both were) and also b) if a long distance relationship (but seeing eachother at regular intervals) has ever, ever worked.
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a) I know a couple who has a kid now and they were high school sweethearts. So yeah, it can definitely work.
b) I tried a long-distance relationship once. It didn't work. But that wasn't because of the distance, I was groing apart with him before that.
I don't think these type of relationships work but who knows?
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so this guy asked me out like 2 months ago but i kindly said no because i didnt know him.i mean it was the first time i really talked to him ya know?
then i didnt seem him till about 2 weeks ago.he was flirting with me and stuff.well then when i walked by him he was like so whats up?and then when i replied he asked if i like him and i said well i dont know you really.so then he was like what you dont know me now?and i was like i never really got to know you but he didnt seem upset about it because he still flirted.well then i saw him last night and he was with some girl i believe was his girlfriend.and it kinda made me jealous i guess.it kinda made me think what if i really missed out ya know?now i dont know what i should do.i felt like i liked him last night when before i didnt feel it but between 2 weeks ago and last night i was thinkin like next time i see him if he asks me out again i was gonna say yes well know i feel im too late.am i just feeling this because he does have a girl now or what?i mean the only reason i turned him down was because i didnt know him all the well,he wasnt what i would date(appearence wise) and my friends opinion but when i thought about it he is a really great guy besides i never really see him but i was thinknin that would change if we dated ya knw?well i wanna thank you all before hand (link)
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I think you were right to decline him in the beginning. And i see that you weren't interested the second time, but that was crucial. Because being rejected twice is a blow to a guy's ego and clearly means you don't like him. I think you just liked the idea of having him as an option? You know? And then you see him in a new light. But it doesn't really mean you like him. I know what you're feeling, it's happened to me a million times. But trust me, it's not for real. It'll go away really quickly and you'll be happy you didn't waste your time because you guys were probably going to go nowhere if sparks didn't fly in the beginning.
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me and this guy went out about 2 months ago and we broke up. well a week later we got back together and we're going out now..whenever we talk he tells me he loves me and stuff like that...but at school he doesnt talk to me alot and doesnt sit with me and my friends at lunch. ive offered to sit with him and his friends but his friends always fill up the table before i can sit down. the first time we went out he got a girlfriend the next day..which now makes me wonder if hes using me.
so i was just wondering if yall think hes using me or not and what do you think is going on because im like at a lost right now. thanks for any help. (link)
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He is most DEFINITELY not fully into you. He's either using you to brag to his friends or for some other reason. The fact that you're on and off is a big signal that he's not serious. And then the fact that he got another girl right after breaking up with you means he isn't into you. He could even be two-timing you! Split with him because you deserve better!
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okay flirting is a way to tell someone they like that person right?
or do friends just play around and do that for fun?
my friend and i flirt like this.
she disagrees with what i say, and we go on saying no and yes. then whe i ignor her she pokes me.
we call each other names, push each other around.
she teases with me, when i try to get something from her she takes it away. she even leans on me whenever.ect
somethings i do with my friends like name calling and pushing.
but me and her do it all the time like little kids.
2nd question: do friends lean on each other just because or if they like them? (link)
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first ask yourself if this girl acts like this with a lot of other guys. if she's a natural flirt, this is nothing, you're just another guy. but if she doesn't...she either likes you (if she does like you, she ALSO talks to you seriously, not just plays around. like is she a close friend?) or not. if you and her aren't close, like you don't know a lot about her, then she doesn't like you like that.
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Alright. This is going to be extremley confusing. I'm in a relationship with this guy named *Tom*. We've been dating for 2 months. We only hold hands and cuddle. We don't make out or anything. Haven't even kissed. I kind of regard him as an older brother now.
Now there's this other guy, *mark*. we've been wanting to date for over 7 months, but couldn't because of different reasons. Now we want to go out together. We are fine to talk, cuddle, make out, and even do some physical stuff together. And I really care for him. Deeply.(BUT I HAVE NOT DONE ANY OF THIS WHILE I HAVE BEEN WITH *TOM*)
Now I recently, as in two days ago, met this guy named *Pat*. He's really sweet and fun to talk to, and he likes to treat me sweetly, kiss my hand, hug me, hold hands...but he knows i have a boyfriend. I feel so helpless. like it's not right to say no. He wants me to break with *tom and go with him, but I don't know...*mark* wants me to break with *tom* to go with him too..
I honestly don't know what to do.
I've gotten into a mess...
Please give me valuable advice....
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well, it looks like the flame is gone for *tom*, so the first thing you should say is "life has been really hectic for me these days and i don't think that things will go too far with us and i'm really sorry because i have no other way to say this." or something..your break-up speech and see about *mark* and *pat* and look at their PERSONALITY NOT LOOKS..guys consider girls shallow when they go otu with somebody for their looks. personally, pick a guy who is fun and wont bore you because you seem like a girl who gets bored easily and make sure they are GOOD guys, no potheads or nazi lovers or something. it's all true what angelfire said..
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ok there is this girl i like and shes dating my friend but i still like her since the sixth grade. Now she knows i still like her and im all messed up. what should i do? (link)
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she knows you like her? she didn't respond in any way? well, since i'm a girl, i know that she wouldn't like it very much if you interfered when she's in a relationship. wait, if they get serious, then you should try moving on. if she breaks up with him, try becoming closer friends with her and everything will progress. and try to act normal and nonchalant around her so she isn't reminded that you like her, it gives her a chance to try to like you back!
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is it bad to ask a guy out i mean does it hurt there self of steam?
thx candi (link)
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it depends on the guy
if it is a guy who is sort of insecure and not so MACHO if you know what i mean...it'll hurt their self esteem.
but if it's one of those JOCK guys then you shouldn't ask them out at all because THEY have to do the asking.
if it is a guy you've known for awhile or you are friends with..then he won't feel weird at all
i hope that helped!!
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