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I'm Erin. This is my advice column. I'm suuuuuuuuuuper open, and I'm always here to answer and help you with your problems. Yeah, many people say I give out good advice and it works. So, here I am now, making one.Don't be afraid to ask.
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okay i'm going out with this guy and he's amazing but i now this other guy, which likes me, and i'm starting to like him! but the thing is, i really don't want to break up with my boyfriend now because he really likes me and it was just valentine's day and he got me a big present! but the other guy that isn't my bf is super superrr nice and he even asked me if i wasn't going out wtih my bf now, would i go out wtih him!? adn i'm just so confused pleaseeee help me erin. :D thank you.
well, yeahh.. DEFFF been in that situation, except mine was just a... TADDDD more complicated.
okay, well, i know that you totally dont want to hurt your boyfriends feelings, but forcing yourself to stay with someone isnt right. you do what you think is right. i cant tell you to break up with him, and i cant tell you NOT to break up with him.
but, you have to respect your own feelings... yes, you might hurt his along the way too, but think about how much it will hurt him when he finds out LATER from someone else that you like another guy... that would hurt him ALOTLOT more.
and if you do break up with your boyfriend, (think about it before you do, or dont break up with him), give time just for yourself. you can't just jump into a relationship with someone else RIGHT AFTER you broke up with your boyfriend. before you go out with another guy, make sure that your boyfriend is okay. yeah, he might not be too thrilled about you breaking up with him.. but give him some time. and until you know he is fine with you goign out with someone else, then do it.
think carefully about both guys.. whichever one you think will take care of you the most, or has taken care of you... and dont just think about the good things, think about the downside to both of the guys too.
come back if you need more help(:
erin.
so. ive been dating this guy for almost four months. and i really like him a lot. but sometimes i feel like we're just friends. now dont get me wrong, i dont want to be friends with him, oh no. but sometimes he treats me the same way he treats his friends that are girls. and im always worried that hes going to go back to his ex girlfriend. any advice how to get over the fear of him leaving me. even though he has assured me that he was never going back with her?
thanks (:
well if he has assured you, then trust him. and talk to him and tell him that you think he treats you like other girls, and just a friend, not a girlfriend. he should understand you, and if he doesnt, explain it to him. tell him that you love him as a boyfriend and that you want to be treated like a girlfriend. he should have respect with what you say if he is the good bouyfriend he is..
your welcome(:
erin.
yeah nvm im through with him
hes nothing but a waste of time
haha now a new problem
he says im mean and a backstabber for no apparent reason he thinks i told my friend not to let him play her wtf i didn't even say that. hes just making me really mad and i don't really care but idon't know how to handle this without making myself look stupid and hurting him to bad where he hates me for the rest of my life. i just want to be friends with him again. btw can you delete this after you get it..i think everyone knows who i am talkign abbout haha
okay, well just gice him time, and until he's raedy to talk about it... talk about it..
tell him the truth and what you told her, and even tell him to ask your friend...
and yes, i will delete it..
thanks,
erin.
heyy erin,
idk what to do. i tell everyone i don't like the guy but my heart is still going back to him. We used to do so much stuff together like hold hands and im not gonna say anymore incase they r reading lol. but he doesn't do that anymore which makes me want him morE..i guess..im confusing my self. but also my best ffriend likes him and i think he likes her. i told her to keep going on cause i don't care what happens between them. but now shes the one talking about him its not me anymore. i want him but i don't
well, respect your friend. she took over, what she thought you didnt like anymore, b/c you said you didnt.
and try to get over him, go to like school dances, or other get together and get to know other people.
hes the past, look forward to the future.
respect your friend, and if things dont go good between them, then be there for her.
thanks,
erin.
erin.
i htink i might be gay.
when im wiht my firends i feel different then when i used to. and i just dont see girls as my friends do.and i think i might have a crush on this one guy. and idk how my friends will take it if i tell them im gay and what will my parents think. please help erin.
-david
well, dont tell them until you are ready.
you might just be going through a stage or something, you know?
nothing is wrong with being gay, love is love.
no one can stop that.
but if you are unconfortable with telling people, then dont tell them until you are ready. but when you tell people at first, it might be a shocker, and yes... some people might over react, but eventually get over it.
there will ALWAYS be someone to talk to if you have no one else; me.
thanks,
erin.
My bf is 16 and his penis is bent or curved quite a lot hes insecure about it i told him not to worry its ok ive heard that its normal for it to bent or curved in some form is this true?
honestly? i have no idea.
maybe you should like, look it up on goohle or something.
hey girl heyy, :)
ive heard about your aadvice thing u have goin and so ive decided to seee if you could help me with my problem. okay well i like this boy rite he gvoes to a different school than i do but yett i like another one who goes to another different school. ones far and ones close but i like the guy whos far not as close if you get what im saying (like i mean location, far close) and ii also have a friend who mite relate to this problem too. and one leads me on and plays me and the other realll amazingv boy says im the 1 for himmm.. who should i go for and what should i tell one another if one asks me out and i say yes? i really need ur help and your great with this stuff because youve helped me before. Thanks again, :)
sighned in love and confused?! =]
okay. if i have told you this before, i cant tell you who to choose.. only help you.
now, this guy that treats you like crap and stuff, then honestly? you really shouldnt date him or anything. if he is going to be a bad friend, imagne what kind of a boyfriend he will be. get what im saying?
and this other boy, saying that your the one for him... well do you feel the same way? and would you like too? if he would treat you with as much respect as he is being a friend, then go for him.
when the one you like more asks you out, then say yes if your ready. and how to tell the other boy, well he will probally figure out by maybe your profiel or other people talking.
but i good way to tell him that you have another boyfriend is just maybe telling him, hey me and blank are going out now... just say it natrually.
im going out with a guy from a different school, soo i know how hard it can be. the school my bf goes to is in holland sylvania, and if you would like to go see him, you shoudl probally tell your parents about him so you can go to his house and he can come to yours.
he location of the school raelly shouldnt matter unless he lives like 30 or more away from you, then that will be a problem seeing him over the weekends.
choose wisely,
im always here (:
erin.
this is me again about my gayness
and ur advice is really good
but i have one more question
what if my name was austin wasielewski
and i was maknig all of this up (:
hahahahaha
lmfao.
hahhha yeah, i was thinking abotu all of the austins i know, and i was like.. uhhhh he has andrea, nahh it couldnt be him.
lol,
and none of the austins i know are gay.
hahahhaa.
++its cold outside? hahaha.
nice.
good job austin (:
erin.
yea erin umm i wrote to ur yesterday
and i think ur advice is really good
but i told my dad
and he told my mom
and ummm for some reason i cant find the house key and im using my friends computer becuase my parents hate me now tht im super gay
they wont feed me either
please do respond as soon as possible
its cold outside
i doubt that your parents would just let you out in the cold for it.
wouldnt your friend know that you are doing this?
go to a police station and report neglect from your parents,
go to a homeless shelter.
GET HELP.
erin.
erin,
i think im obsessed with having hot shower sex with you.
and i know you enjoy it too, but i think we have a problem.
do you think we need help?
-you know who its from :D
lmao, yes i do know who it is....
haha i dont think we have a problem....
lmfao, anyone who read that...
ITS AN INSIDE JOKE.
ily abbey.
hahah
erin
So, i like two guys right now. The first guy I know for a fact likes me. I like him too and everything but he goes to a different school. Well i never get to see this boy, and like one day when i did see him at a dance..my heart started to race and i got a funny feeling in my stomach, and i choked on my words, he said Hi to and i just ran out the doors. Needless to say i'am very akward around him. Then there is this other guy. I've known him for a while. He liked me like sometime last yearr. and i never knew about it. So when i moved this summer, to his school we stared to talk. Over the summer he asked me out..and i said yes. that last about 1 day maybe. Well i used to like him and then he liked me, well now i really like him. And i'am not sure if he likes me. I told him that i liked him over the weekend, on a monday he kissed me. I dont know which one to choose.
Should i chose the one who i know i like and likes me but i never see, or the other one who i see during the week but i dont know if he even likes.
Erin you should do?!?!
I can't tell you who to choose, and who not to choose. that is allll up to you. but i CAN give you advice, yeahhh.
okay, welllllll. right now, i am going out with someone from a different school, and i knowo exactly what that is like. If you want to try to go out with him, you will have to make it NOT akward between you two. act yourself, dont try to impress him as much, and if it doesnt work out, then you know better next time. But the advantage of going out with someone goign to a different school, is that you dont see him everyday, and he doesnt bug you and annoy you 24/7. BUT you do talk to him everyday on the phone, hopefully.
to see if this boy REALLLY likes you, then have one of your friends, that is also one of this boys friend, ask him if he likes you enough to go out with you; or ask one of his friends, thats your friend if he likes you enough to go out with you. and if he does, then you could go out with him. disadvantages: you will see him everyday, probally, and yeah, you get to talk all the time, but hanging out over the weekend for a while, and pretty much seeing each other the WHOLE week for a long time, might get annoying. and it might not last that long.
but its different for all people.
im not going to say choose wisely, because thre is no wrong decision. its what your HEART, not ming, wants.
thanks,
erin.
I bet this is a gonna be a new one for you.
Ohk, So last year i went out with this guy like for ten months on and off,[mostly on]. Over the summer, we hungout, and we did something. NOT HUGE, but big enough. Somehow word got out, and my reputation is tottaly, TOTTALY ruined. Some Ironicly, it got tottaly reversed and we did EVERTHING. Now People come up to me and say, "slut, whore", or " i thought you were better than that". I have NO idea what to do to get my Reputaion back. HHHEEEELLLPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!
wooooooooow, yeah, soooo i havent been in the EXACT situation; butttttt it has happened to me before (people saying stuff like that about me, worse people from other schools i didnt even know.)
but all you have to do, it tell them that the rumor isnt true. tell them that you did 'something' just not that HUGE something.
eventually another thing will come along, people will forget about it, but just tell them the truth.
thanks,
erin.
Erin,
So i really like this guy, like A LOT, but he goes to a diffrent school and somtimes i feel like i annoy the crap outta him trying to get him to notice me. I want nothing more than to at least go on a date with him. HELPPP://
then ask him to go to the movies or to dinner or SOMETHING with you.
try not to make him notice you as much then, maybe he likes you and wants you to notice him and thinks the same thing..
play it cool, and act yourself. you never know how amazing someone might think you are when you act yourself.
thankssss (:
erin.
okay..so..me and this guy have had a thing since like 7th grade. and we dated this year, like on and off like 9 times. because of some problems. but i won't go into those. and we finally got through those, and we were really good. but i made a huge mistake and told this guy i liked him too when i didnt (well for like a day, but then i was like well i dont like you anymore), and hes like yeah we had a thing. and he told people. but we didnt. and now the guy that i actually really like..love, doesn't want to even like consider me anymore. and i don't know what to do about him, because i seriously care for him more than anyone else in the world, and i'd do anything to get him back. i've tried talking to him about it, but i don't know how to make him understand..any advice would be great. thanks. =/
okay, soooo yes, you made quite of a mistake; you can fix it partially up though.
first start of by telling the guy you USED to like, that he needs to stop telling people that you had a thing when you didnt, and stop lying about it.
second, talk to this boy, that you likelike alot, and tell him the truth. yes, the truth hurts, but its better if he knows it and your honest with him, tell him how you really feel about him.
if you two have been on and off for a while, and no on in between, he must really really like you back too.
he might not understand, but he might.
im sure that he has made mistakes with other girls too, maybe not the same, but he probally has.
and this was just your time to make one with another guy. but its not like you cheated on him or anything right?
tell him that, be nice, try not to yell.
and just tell him to think about that.
come back if you need more help.
(: erin.
dear erin
i am a guy
im 14 and
i just figured out i like men
alot
im supper gay
and i dont kno what to do
love
austin
austin, this could just be a 'stage' that you are going through, or it may not be.
if you feel like telling someone, then do it. it might be a shocker to some peopel at first, but your real friends should stick behind you throught his whole way and support you.
there is nothing wrong being gay.
but dont come out and tell people until you think you are ready.
come back if you need more help.
-erin.
i like this guy a lot.
and he likes me.
im so confused on what i should do.
hes gunna ask me out but for now he just wants to 'go on a date' to see how it goes you know? but like i never have time for a boyfriend. its hard because we never see each other and we go to different schools.
i dont know if im ready for another boyfriend and the commitment
help :D
okay, soo i get what you mean.
well go on the date, theres no harm in that.
i rarely have time for a boyfriend too, and trust me, i can relate to you on this one because MY boyfriend goes to a different school too.
hang with him on the weekends, like plan OVER THE WEEK to hang out ON THE WEEKEND. its alot easier to plan a few days before, rather than the day before.... truuuuuust me.
the commitment part; if your a big flirt: thats baaaadddd because you are bound to flirt with other guys when you have a boyfriend. DOOO NOT DO THAT.
the other school part; its convienent. you dont see him TOO much. seeing him over the weekend is enough for now. you will get annoyed by him if you see him EVERYDAY + over the weekend. the weekend is good enough.
take your time, if you dont think your ready, wait until you think you are. there is no time to rush. and if he likes you as much as he says, then he can DEFFINATLEY wait until you are ready.
hope i helped.
come back for more.
-erin.
Well im 12 years old and i really like this girl but i dont think she likes me do you have advice for me if so post it to tony_is_great@hotmail.com Thank You
okay.
well, if you want to know if she lieks you or not, then just ask her. theres no harm asking her.
and if its hard for you rto do it yourself, then ask a friend too.. like ask one of her friends to ask her since she is probally closer to her, than one of your friends... and if your not friends with any of her friends... then have one of your friends ask her.
if she likes you back, get to knwo her more and ask her out.
thanks.
erin
im madly in love with you what should i do? =)
tell me, and then be my friend (:
but please, do not rape me. hahah,
but im serious.
love, haha.
erin.
Hi Erin.
Okay so i had this boyfriend for like 12 days right.. AND Then yesterday he breaks up with me and my friend all went and asked him why he broke up with me and he said i dont no. && We asked his friend who i'm like bestfriends with and he asked collin (the ex) why and he said cuz he didnt like me anymore..
It doesnt make sense he is a grade above me and i see him alll the time in the hallways and we always gave hugs and i still love him what do i do?
okay, well since hes in the grade above you... that means hes probally just doing it to pass time, or just getting a girlfriend because it looks good on his image.. but try to get over him.. dont make him jealous.. just try to get over him, like try hanging out with other guys and stuff.
but rememeber, guys dont think of girls like girls think of guys.
thanks (:
erinnnn.
Hi this is a stupid question but Im attracted to skater rocker type boys and Im a black girl but whenever I ask them out they would say no the last guy said he is not attracted to black girls but now he is going out with a mixed raced girl whatis the difference and why dont they like black women?
well thats racist, and thats not a good thing to be. maybe they are embarrassed to go out with a black girl at this age, if they grow up, they will eventually find out that it doesnt matter what the person looks like on the outside, onluy inside matters. and its very immatuer to do that.
and your skin mgiht just be darker than the other girls. and its not fair.
thankss.
erin