HI!! Im a 27 yr old single mom that actually loves to give advice. Im very honest and will be blunt, however I will not hurt anyones feelings. I believe people need to be told the truth about things in order to be successful in life, as suppose to the cliche "I will tell you what you want to hear". I actually had a strong desire to become a therapist to work with mentally ill and/or depressed patients, but never finished college due to my pregnancy. I recently broke my foot so I now have alot of time on my hands.
So if you need a honest answer or simply someone to talk to IM HERE!!!!!! XOXO
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How do I deal with a break up, I dont know if hes forgotten me I dont want to forget him because our break u wasn't abotu soemthing bad but I always text him and he responds as if he doesn't want to talk to me and i really dont know what to do . And I am also loosing two of my closest friends one of them is named Jenny she didn't like my boyfriend and they had gotten in an arguement and put me in the middle. Now she thinks I am talking smack about her and saying she was the reason why we had broken up but that is a stupid rumor . My other friend is named Alfredo he is upset withe me because he says I have betraded him I did I do admit I did and he has every right to be upset but I just want him back . (link)
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Dear Friendship, love life and betrayal,
I can't even imagine dealing with all 3 things at the same time. That's alot!!!!!!!
OK so your breakup: no he didn't forget you. I know it feels that way cause he's ignoring you and giving you the cold shoulder, but guys deal with break ups differently that girls. And honestly the texting might be making things worse. I went through a rough breakup one time and I couldn't go a day with out calling him or texting him and he would ignore me and it felt horrible cause we were together for 5 years. I really thought like he moved on, forgot me or something but later on I found through he's friend that he was taking the breakup really bad and didn't want to hear from me. I don't know the reason of the break up but it looks like some space might work in your favor. Don't texted him and see what happens, I can almost guarantee he will calling you sooner or later.
Ok now with Jenny, there's 2 things you can do, you can either ask her to sit with you face to face to put the rumors to rest or you can write her a letter (if she wont talk to you). It's better to meet face to face so that it's just the 2 of you with out any other outside influences and she can see you are being sincere. If she is a true friend patching things up shouldn't be hard. But what's important is that you make the move of reaching out to end that drama.
And with Alfredo, this might be you toughest path. Even tougher than the breakup cause you know you messed up here. Betrayal is one of the worst if not THE worst thing you can do. But it doesn't mean you can't recover from it. Your gonna have to give him time for it to kinda "sink in." This is a person you should write a heart filled apology letter too, personally hand it to him and tell him when he is ready you would like to talk. Tell him how sorry you are, and how much you value you friendship and that you understand he needs he's space and that you want him to give you another chance and a fresh start in a friendship.
Good Luck with everything and take it easy :)
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i have a problem i am going to have an affair with a married man and he doesnt want to ejaculate inside of me during intercourse why is this and why does it bother me so much (link)
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Well he probably doesn't want to ejaculate inside cause he obviously doesnt want you to get pregnant. Getting pregnant will be an extremely bad situation for him cause hes married and ties with another woman.
Its probably bothering you cause your a woman that is having an affair with a married man meaning hes not your man hes somebody elses. Sometimes women get involved with married men cause they like to feel power, like they can have whatever they want almost like an ego thing, and the men like it cause these types of women are vulnerable and they can have their cake and eat it too.
This is just my personal opinion, I dont know you could be in love with the guy I dont know. However, be careful as what you do and always stay safe and protected. you can inbox me whenever you need GOOD LUCK :)
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ok um this guy (just turned 16) and he really likes me(im 15 going on 16) and i dont really like him but i wanna be friends, but to him its either date me or noting else. the reason why i dont is cus we already dated and there was to much drama and the day after we broke up i asked him whats up? and he said fucking me!!! also he pretends to be my one of my friends just so he can talk to me (the friend was a guy who likes me too and hess my ex best friend)..so my question is do you got any ideas on how i can deal with this hes my friends cousin (link)
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I agree with NEVER2BEALONE. you are very young to be caught up in immature drama. Your teenage years will pass you by and it will be wasted on trying to figure out if you should be friends with someone that is telling you its all or nothing. Good Luck :)
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Can the boy feel pre-cum n can it make u pregnant? (link)
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I'm a girl so I'm not sure if a boy feels it. I assumption is yes. In any case YES you can get pregnant with just pre-cum and you should always wear a condom. The best way to enjoy sex to it's fullest is by protecting yourself. Safe sex and peace of mind is the best.
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Me and my ex gf were in a long distance relationship for like 5 months and we decided that it was to hard to keep a long distance relationship at our age, were only 17 and couldn't see each other in person, so like less than a week after we broke up she had sex with a another boy and she knew i wanted us to loose our virginity together but i guess she couldn't wait. so I started to think that she was talking to this boy for the longest and was secretly cheating on me, but i don't know for sure,but were just friends right now and she texts me everyday, so should i just ignore her and leave her alone or just be her friend cause i don't think i'll get back with her any time soon. (link)
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Wowww I can't express enough how incredibly mature you are for your age. Young love is very difficult to deal, it's even harder at a long distance. Do what your heart says. If you need time to yourself then take it. Do the fun things you get to do at 17, you don't want to be 27 like me and look back and think what a waste it was to stress her. If you can be friends in the future(which I think you will cause you are very mature and rational) then thats great. In the meantime your young date around. OH and don't lose your virginity to the first girl you date, it's special when done with true feelings.Good Luck and stay sweet!!!! (trust me that will be an advantage in the future)
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Ok, so I don't know what to make of this to be honest. My boyfriend of 8 months has been nothing but good to me, he bought me everything I ever need from books to jewellery, and swears he'd always protect me even if we weren't together.
Anyway, I know he has a violent streak in him, I've never seen it but his family knows and he told me some of the stories from his past, which didn't worry me too much because he's never once hurt me or anything. But last night he told me about his attitude to relationships when he was about 17, and most of these stories involved him treating his girlfriends like crap, dumping them after a day and using them to buy him shoes and give him money etc.
I don't know if it's possible to change from this attitude though, I mean, he's lovely to me, I give him freedom to go to parties and tell him he can chat up girls so long as he's clear that nothing happens, and he says that made him respect me more, but since he told me that I'm worried I'm just going to be another name in a list of people he humiliated and hurt.
Is that something I should let go because it's his past and he's changed? (link)
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Do you really believe he has changed?1st thing is just he buys you things that doesnt mean he will never snap and hurt you. You dont want to live with the somewhat fear cause now you know and its in the back of your mind, you sound very smart and level headed I say move on to a "safer" bf. Domestic violence is a scary thought even if he so far has treated you lovely.
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