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This is for a school project I'm doing and would appreciate totally honest answers. I just need to know peoples own opinions on dating outside your own race could you please tell me gender, age and your own race plus how you feel when you see different coloured men and women together.

Also if you do support or agree with inter racial relationships, which is your favourite combinations like white women with black men or asian women with white men, don't be shy :) I just need some honest opinions to finish off my research. thank you

i don't know if this is what you're looking for, but to me i feel like it's considered a bit different. my fiance and i are both asian; but, i'm korean (east asian) and he's laos (southeast asian). yea, we're the same race, but not many people know that it's actually very different for us. a lot of east asians (korean,japanese,chinese) don't like southeast asian people (thai, laos,viet, etc). east asians think southeast asians are "dirty, uncivilized" just because they're a 3rd world country and darker than us. yea, asian people are prejudice against they're own kind, who knew. either way, those are definitely not my beliefs. i love my fiance and he's perfect! it took my parents a little bit more time, but they love him now :) hope i helped

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19/F
(not sexually active; just to dismiss that)
So, my boyfriend & I are having our one-year anniversary next week :) The thing is, I'm broke :|
So, I guess I'm going DIY for this one. But I have NO clue what to do for him... I guess a hand-made card is a given, but I've made him 4 unique ones already for christmas, valentine's day, our six months, and his birthday. i've run out of creative ideas! so i guess first of all, does anyone have any ideas on like some kind of creative template for a card? I'll put my own spin on it, of course. But between a pop-up, a heart-shaped, a giant card, a collage, I can't think of any other cheesy cute creative thing I can do with a card. Maybe something with 365 incorporated into it...? I don't know.
Also, anything else I can make him? I know everyone says a frame with a picture of us or something, but we don't really have any...the few that we actually have he already used on a gift for me, so I'd rather not go with that. Any other ideas?
Finally... I want this in addition to e corny little mug. I have a small cheap DIY mug kit that I bought, but the paint it came with, I don't like the colors. I have a little pack of craft paints I wanted to use but I think they'll wash right off... is there anything I can use to seal it all? I was thinking nail polish top coat but I'm not sure it'll hold up..?

Any ideas at all will help! please & thank you :)

when my fiance and i had our one year anniversary, i didn't have much money either. i had kept old things from our first few dates (movie stubs, football game tickets, the receipt from our first restaurant, etc. things like that) and i grabbed some pics of us together and created a scrapbook :) if you can spare a few dollars, you can go to the dollar store and they have cute things for scrapbooks like stickers and etc. he loved it! hope i helped

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Hey guys, I was wondering how much time is normal to spend with your boyfriend. When me and my boyfriend first went out we spend almost everyday together. We do spend time together, but like every other day, like 3 to 4 times a week now. We been together 5 months. And I just want to hear from other people how much time is normal to spend with your boyfriend/girlfriend?

there's no "normal" amount of time to spend with your boyfriend. my fiance and i have been together for years and we live together so we see each other everday. but we both have school and work and we sometimes go out with our friends or we'll hang out all together with everyone. as long as it's not an obsession, or get in the way of you hanging out with friends or family, it's perfectly fine whatever time you spend with your significant other!

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Okay I currently have a boyfriend. Juts to make that clear. Last night I hung out wit one of my guy friends josh till like really late, n I ended up passign out on his bed and I woke up wrapped in my own blanket up wit him passed out 2.he woke up and grabbed some of the covers and right then his sister walked in. His sister goes to my school and everyone in the house assumes that we did something but nothing happened at all, I just fell asleep. I feel really guilty that I stayed the night considering I do have a boyfriend and I know he would be pissed if he found out. Did I do something wrong and should I feel guilty. It was like 4 in the morning when I passed out and I left at 8. I know I should have left but since nothing happened and we really stayed away from each other until he needed covers did I do something wrong and should I feel as guilty as I do

i personally don't think you did anything wrong. as long as you guys don't have feelings for each other and you guys didn't do anything that night, then why should it matter? my boyfriend doesn't like it when i spend the night at my guy friends' house either, but he knows that they're like my brothers and he trusts me. maybe one day you can talk to your bf about it! don't worry, you didn't do anything wrong, it was an honest mistake!

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I gave my boyfriend a blowjob and swallowed...then shortly after he left I used my spit to lubricate myself when materbating. Can I get pregnant ?

definitely not, you're fine. sperm isn't going to be swimming aroun in your mouth after you've swallowed it and even if that were true, the amount of sperm would be so low.

don't worry about it hun :)

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What do women want? because i have tried my best to please a woman that i really loved by all means, and what do i get? She cheats on me! But i really love her no matter what!

i'll be completely honest and jokes aside: us women have no clue what we want! it's as if women just want everything and it's very difficult to pinpoint exactly where we are coming from.

a woman is not going to all the time appreciate someone for what they're truly worth. as i can tell, you seem like a very sweet, genuine guy and if any woman (even if you love her) cheats on you, it isn't fair to you. you've put your time and effort into something that isn't being appreciated. there are many nice women out there who are willing to do anything to find a guy like you!

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Male, mid 20's.

I'm not going to bore with details. Over half a decade ago, I met my first love, who after barely a year, tore my heart out and broke my confidence in myself. I attempted to repair the bond to at least be friends, with horrible results.

I thought I was past it all, but recent I ended up seeing her again, and it reopened the old wounds. More than half a decade since it happened, and I'm still hurt when I am either reminded of the past, or placed in a situation where I re-encounter her.

I'm starting to worry that I'm not well in the mind. I mean, I should be over it. And yet, this scar on my heart keeps getting ripped open at the slightest chance involving anything that reminds me of the past. Why can't I stop feeling hurt by this?

there is nothing wrong with you, hun. it sounds to me you haven't had the chance to have some closure with her and it's always tough to get over your first love. you're reminded of the past because whenever you see her, you associate her with all the bad things that you've experienced which is completely normal. although it may be hard you have two choices:

1. as difficult as it is, try and maybe meet with her. somewhere casual, like getting coffee and just talk things out and why things didn't work out and why she felt the way she did. letting your emotions out will definitely help the healing process. after that, give it a few days or weeks and see how you feel. as soon as you feel well enough, go out and have some fun with friends!

or

2. just cut off all contact with her completely. assuming you already haven't, get rid of her emails, texts, phone number, anything she bought you or anything that reminds you of her, pictures, etc. it'll help the moving on process and who knows, you could start forgetting about her if she's not everywhere you go.

best wishes to you

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