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What do you say when a guy asks you out. I'm only thirteen, so things don't come naturally. Do you just say "yes"? But that sounds like when someone asks you to marry them!! I think too much about simple things. CAn someone help mee?!?! Don't call me dumb please because you're just stating the obvious!

I'll rate honestly.

What do you feel like saying?

Just be calm about it, and say ''yes'' or ''i'd like that''. If you really don't know what to say then just be like ''ok, that sounds like fun.''

Just don't freak out about the little things!

It will just get in the way later on in life.


Good luck!~bballsista2~

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ok there is this guy. i talk to him on the phone every night. i really like him and i know he likes me too cause he said it to me on the phone yesterday. i had a secret i wanted to tell him which was that i liked him. he was trying to get the secret out of me for days. and everytime he would always say "you only have one life to live, so live it to the best," cause he didnt want me to be afraid of telling him the secret. so i told him and hes like, "well i like you too...where do we go from here?" and i said i dont know and there was silence for about 4 seconds lol. then he kinda chnaged the subject and after a while his mom was yelling at him to get off so we had to hang up. i can't help thinking about that "one life to live" thing though. should i ask him out? the only problem is that he isn't really allowd to talk to girls. he told me that if his mom answered then to pretend that he had the wrong number or just pretend to be a guy lol. but if his dad answered then it was ok. so i dont really know what to do. does this mean he won't ask me out? i really really really like him and i really want to go out on a date with him. what do you think, should i ask him out or wait until he asks me?

wait till his mom is ok with the dating scene. So basically just wait for him to ask you.Because when he askes you it probably means hes worked it out with his mom. But if he doesn't just wait, if he really cares about you he will work hard to convince his parents he can date.

If he doesn't ask you out still be friends, because you both obviously care about each other. But in his case family probably comes first so you probably would want his parents to like you and not hate you because your going out with their son.;


good luck~bballsista2~

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(Sorry this is so long)

I have a crush on this guy, and I have for a while. Like...ever since school started. I was doing this psychic board thing (Kinda like an oija board) and usually I never believe those things, but it kept insisting that he liked me, too.

So I kinda went along with it still not believing it, and kinda watched what he did around me. I started talking to him online and he gets really nervous and doesn't know what to say and won't talk a lot. In school, he looks at me and stretches in the middle of class and he'll accidently touch my leg or my desk or something and pull back his hand, blush, and say: "Oh, I'm sorry." And I always laugh at my jokes, because if I don't he'll look back at me and then kinda bow his head.

Anyways, my friend has had a crush on the guy since she was in Preschool. She's in 8th grade with me now. She's really jealous because I keep telling her I think he likes me, and finally she told me how much she likes him, and how they used to be best friends but then he became popular and they grew apart.

So whenever I talk about him she gets really jealous and hurt and yells at me to stop talking. I'm afraid if I go out with the guy she'll have a nervous breakdown, or be afraid to hang out with me anymore.

So my two questions:
1. Do you think this guy likes me? If so, should I ask him out?
2. Do you think if he does like me, SHOULD I ask him out? Or should I be considerate of my friend? Because she said she's never going to actually ask him out, 'cause she knows he would say no, but she doesn't want me going out with him.

What should I do?

Thanks!!! ♥

I rate HIGH!

Well, I really would have never talked about him in front of your friend. That just makes her more jealous than before. And secondly i think that it would be good for him to ask you out that way if you say yes it would the fact that he came to you and not that you went to him because your friend might think that your trying to steal her thunder or her crush.

I really do think that if he does ask you you probably need to discuss it with your so called friend because if she cares about you at all as a friend then she would be happy for you and just move on.


Good luck to ya!

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okay this is kinda hard to explain, but anyways about a couple of months ago my dad made me move with him to a new area, new school, new everything. while i was at the new school i met a rly special guy he means the world to me and we have been going out now ever since i moved. Now my dad has decided he doesnt like it out here. So hes making me move back to my old school, old friends, which i dont want to move back. I hated it at my old school and just about everybody in the school. Now im going thru like hell....could anybody help me in anyway? oh yeah, i havent moved yet buts its going to be soon :/

Just try to keep in contact with him, if he loves u he will help u through all of this.

Try and talk to your dad about this whole moving thing and be nice about it and just like say, '' Dad i really like it out here, i have friends, a boyfriend who all care about here, and that i never had at our oher house.'' It might make him think a little more about your happiness here than back there.


Good luck

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Well, this guy,...i mean my friend, i've known him for...roughly 8 years,..and this year is the first year that i have seen him on like a daily basis. he sits behind me in our 2 longest classes they're back to back too, ((1 hr and 30 minutes each of the classes.)) and he plays with my hair cuz he sits behind me and i'm just like "oh my god.." in a playful way. and during pre algebra today he kept puttin his arm on my desk so it would hit mine, he was just jokin, and he's always makin me laugh. but, i dont know if he likes me or not, he has a girlfriend, and i dont think he wants to get into my pants we're only 13...

I really wouldn't get involved but maybe this will work out for u when and ''IF''they break up. I am ur age too so i no wht its like for guys to do that.

But now I'm not sayin to wish that they break up, just no that guys do do that so their gf's will be a ll over them so they don't have to worry about tending to the fire, they want the gf to do that


so be careful

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