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About six months ago, I went to this competition that a club of ours was having at school. There was a boy there, who I met from another state, and we decided that we were going to go out to dinner that night. He kept on begging for a kiss, but I really didn't want to give it to him. I was seeing someone at the time, however, this dinner wasn't exactly a date. It was the clubs who had gotten together. But, either way, he wanted me to kiss him, and i really did not want to. I thought that this is where the story would end. But, obviously, it did not stop there. We exchanged e-mails and kept writing back and forth to each other. I thought it was pretty cool, kind of like pen pals. Soon, the summer came, and I didn't hear so much from him, because he went to another country, etc. Anyway, my mother remembered his birthday. Don't ask me how, she just did. I could kill her! She told me she was going to send him a cake for his birthday. At first, I thought this was just a little cake saying happy birthday. I was like ok, because I didn't think that was a big deal and anyway, he lives alone in a boarding school, and I figured, he could use it to cheer up. But, my mother went a step beyond. Just a little too much! She ordered this custom-made rice-krispie cake with pictures of us from the competition. The loved it! From then on, he's assumed that I'm his girlfriend and has become really possessive. I can never tell him if another guy is calling me, or anything like that because he gets very angry. Well, thanks to my mother, again, we are going on a vacation with him this coming weekend. I don't mind the vacation so much, because God knows I really need it. But, I do not want to kiss this boy. My mother said that I better kiss him because he came all the way over here for a kiss, and she went through all this trouble, and paid so much money for the trip, and a kiss is not going to hurt. This having been said, let me just explain that I am madly in love with someone else and I don't want anything to stand in the way. I like this boy as a friend. I even think of him as my little brother, even though he's older than me. I can't see him like this. I can't kiss him! I can't kiss someone when my heart is in another place. It wouldn't be fair to me or to him, but I can't just tell him that at the beginning of the trip, because it is oing to ruin our vacation. He's been sending me texts saying "only __ more days till I can wetten my lips with yours." Yuck! I don't want to wetten my lips with anyone but the guy who I'm head over heals for, and that's just the way I am. There are people who can put up with just a peck if it's absolutely necessary, but I can't do it! I just can't! I need some help, please! I can't kiss him. He just turns me off so much. Sometimes, I see him on webcam, and he doesn't shave and I can't stand the thought of anybody who isn't the other guy to put their arms around me, or caress me. It really grosses me out, and I'd rather be alone than not be with the right person. I feel awful, but he's just not the right person. I just can't do this in a way that is mean, because we have already gone through all of this trouble, and he is so alone. Please help me! (link)
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It does sound like a really bad situation, and I wish I could give you a good idea but honestly I don't think theres a good way out of this. The only two options that come to mind would be to put it off as long as possible, right when he kisses you..stall and who cares if its obvious that you dont want to kiss him..maybe he'll get the picture and back off. And when you can't avoid it any longer, sit down with him and nicely explain to him what you just typed out..that this was all was a misunderstanding because of your mom.Option number 2 doesn't get much better but it would be to just tell him right at the start..it may ruin the vacation but then the only worry then will be to try to make the best out of it. Either way your just gonna have to come out and tell him the truth..after all you never did agree to going out with him or anything like that, and make sure you tell him that. Goodluck..I really hope I helped.
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my parents wont let me be in a house alone with my boyfriend so how am i ever going to do anything? if im never allowed to be home alone with him?
immm just under 16 by the way (link)
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it might take time but just have your parents gain your trust and once they trust you, they might let you be alone with him
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I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 months. We've had sex and he was my first but i def. wasnt his. I'm head over heels for this guy.. its just that feeling when he holds me or kisses me i've never felt this way before and i've caught myself almost sayin i love you twice now but i stop myself. Is it too early to say it? should i even say it? what if he doesnt feel the same way and he freaks out n thinks its getting too serious.. ahh help.
p.s. he has made little comments like when he picks on me he'll go ha you love me. (link)
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3 months may not seem like a long enough time but alot can happen in that short amount, and in my opinion i definatly think that if you have all those feelings about him that he has them for you too. He's probably having the same problems you are right now. Nexdt time your about to tell him you love him..definatly say it and I bet he says it right back.
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okay so i've never kissed a guy. i've been waiting for the right person. except, i think i found him and i don't know how i would kiss/makeout with him. i'm totally lost. any tips? (link)
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I know the feeling. Everyone gets in that position sooner or later. Like anyone else that has answered this question has said..and it comes naturally and when it happens you'll know what to do.
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