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erm well what does it mean when someone says 'The best thing we ever had, we took it for granted' ? pleaseee need to know what he meant.. thanku !

it can also mean you don't know what you have until it's gone, you don't realize how good something was until it's over. if it's meant to refer to a relationship then you can apply it to that. it's the best relationship you ever had but you took it for granted and didn't realize how special it was until it was already over.

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16/f
ok ive never had a bf in my whole life and my friends are startin to pick on me and my mom is startin to worry about me never havin a bf. Is this normal cause im not sure ive just never met 'the one'. My friends go out with people all the time and try to hook me up with people i dont even know. Guys ask me out but i just dont have the heart to say yes. Is this normal, to be 16 and never have had a bf in whole life?
Please any advise will be very thankful!!

it's completely normal. i'm 19 and i have friends my age who have never had a boyfriend. you aren't expected to find "the one" at 16. you are still so young. i dated a boy my whole freshman year of high school and we talked about what it would be like if we got married. i don't even talk to him anymore. boys come and go and you probably won't find "the one" until you are in college, or even later. flirt with boys, go on dates, just have fun being a high schooler. if a guy you really like asks you out then say yes! but if not, then keep your options open.

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So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 6months now, we've been on 2 "breaks" because I felt like I couldn't deal with his ways. I'm 22 and he's 24, we're both in college, he just recently got a job 2 weeks ago because he needed to pay rent. Our first date he paid for dinner but after that we began taking turns and now it seems like in always the one paying for dinner, movie tickets, dates etc. One of the reasons we took a break was because he's a bum aka doesn't have a car, didn't have a job and has no money/ broke all the time. I felt shallow because I wanted to break up with him but he convinced me to take a break. Then a few weeks later we took another break because I just couldn't take it anymore! Instead of finding a job he would be at his apt playing video games all day!! I made a list of pros and cons of staying with him and I definitely had more cons but I was still with this guy!! Whyyyyy I can't tell you because I'm
not so sure myself! I consider him to be my first "real" relationship so maybe that's why I'm still with him? He says he loves me but I know I don't love him...yet or even at all, I don't know to be honest. Am I expecting too much from him? Should I finally break up with him? I mean the times we have together are good not great. I feel awful that I'm breaking up with him for this reason. Help!!

that is not a bad reason to break up with someone! can you see yourself with him in the future? if this is how he is acting now, imagine if you married him and had kids with him. if he wants to be with you he needs to change because it doesn't sound like you are happy with the way he is now. having a boyfriend shouldn't be such a burden on you and you shouldn't be paying for him all of the time unless you really love and care about him (which it doesn't sound like you do). if you really want to be with him you need to tell him he needs to get his life together because otherwise you two will not have a future. give him a few weeks and see if he is looking for a job, etc. and if he isn't then dump him. someone who doesn't care about his life and doesn't have goals won't care about your life and your goals either. good luck!

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