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Q: I am 15 and a girl and of course I like this guy. Lets call him Bob. Bob is so sweet to me and the other day I was having a bad day and he just let me hug him and hug him and then we walked to this room we both had tutoring in with his arm around my waist and mine around his. I could swear that he likes me.

And once we fake went out (LOOONG STORY) and I want to ask him out and be like "Remember when we fake went out? well I was thinking we could do that again, but without the fake." Or to just ask him to dinner or something but not SUPER obvious. Something like "Do you play pool? I found this great little place where we could go that has the best food."

I dont know but I really like him and I love being his friend and he's my best guy friend but I just want something more.

Please any advice at all is welcome. Thank you for reading this! I'm sorry it's kind of long.

My Brilliant answer:

The way you say he acts around you, it's pretty obvious that he likes you. By saying the "without the fake" idea, he would be able to remember some good times about you two and be more likely to say yes. Plus, it's a really cute idea! Go for it! Good luck!

Q: okay, so i'm 14/m and she's 14/f and i really like her but i don't know where i should take her on our first date (if she'll go out with me) if you live in st. louis area, (or anyware) got any advice?

My brilliant answer:
You could always go to the movies or the mall and there are always like coffee shops/cafes that usually serve food too that you could take her. Somewhere near a park would be good too. If there are any carnivals going on near by that would be perfect. Also it might be good to go with a group to make things more casual, after all it is your first date. Good luck! Hope i helped!

Q: There is this guy, Zack I really like. He used to like me but now he doesnt. I dont know why he doesnt anymore. I didnt do anything wrong. We barely ever talk to eachother. I think he hates me but I really like him. What should I do?

My brilliant answer:
It sounds like to me, that you don't know him really, really well. You don't know for sure that he doesn't like you. He may like you and just may act a different way. Remember: All guys act differently. He may just be afraid that you don't like him and is building a barrier of pretend haterad, so that if you reject him, he will feel protected. This all may seem like a little much, but people do weird things when they are in love. I think you should talk to him. Flirt. A lot. Not too, too obvious, but just enough so that he knows for a fact. Have your friends talk to him and find out who he likes. Stuff like that should work. Good luck!

Q: My ex- boyfriend went out with one of my friends while he was going out with me. Now i'm going out with one of his friends becasue i really like him and i needed to get over my ex- boyfriend. Now that me and his friend go out his is mad at me.
Is that fair i mean he went out with her while he was going out with me and now that i go out with his friend he is mad at me is thta wrong or fair???

My brilliant answer:
Well, basically, your ex is jealous and wants you back. He is being a complete idiot, because he realizes he messed up and missed out. Now he's taking it all out on you and your boyfriend. You did nothing wrong. He's just a jerk. Hope I helped!

Q: i think at my age, i really want a boyfriend. but who? i know a relationship is special but i just can't wait. i kind of like my friend from ohio and he's coming during the summer. he's probably going to visit us for a few days. what should i do? i'm 15 and he's 16.

My brilliant answer:
Okay, before you do anything. You must know that your right about relationships being special and you may feel like you can't wait, but you might have to. There is no age where you need a boyfriend. It will happen when it happens. Now about this boy...if you really like him then you should begin to flirt with him. You can smile at him say little things like "cool" or "nice" or even just "hi" when you see him around or are talking to him. Laughing at his jokes (as long as they are harmless) is a good start too. Let him know that you are intrested in at least a friendship. Then you can work your way up to conversations about things in common and news and stuff like that. It will happen if you are patient and let things flow. Good luck!

Q: Im 16 and ive never really been kissed. I have..but not a full makeout session or nothing. All my friends are very experienced in that department..and it makes me feel like awkward when they talk about that stuff because i dont really know. Is it bad that im 16 and still havent "madeout" with a guy?

My brilliant answer:
No, it's not bad to not have madeout by the age of 15, 16, 17 or really any age. The great thing about a first kiss is that it's special and unexpected. Makeing it an expectation will lose it's magic. About your friends talking about kissing, maybe they are almost just as inexperienced as you and they are just trying to hide it by makeing stuff up. Maybe because they tried to force their kisses, your first kiss will be more meaningful and passionate than all of theirs' combined. Don't worry about it. It will happen and it will be magical.

Q: omg.....I LOVE SEX! especially with my new b/f...he's sooooo hot! anyway like ya i luv him, and a lot of the other guys i've been with (i've been around) and like so ya i was thinkin about like becoming a call girl...ya know, cuz like i luuuuuuv it soooo so so much...i know that's kinda weird, but i told my b/f and he said that that sounded fine and whatever makes me happy but then i was like is he a jack a** because he's willing to give me up like that? i'm real confused. help!

My brilliant answer:
WOW THERE! Slow down girl. You should become a call girl. Give up your boyfriend, because if your going to have that much sex and are just gonna tell him, then the reason why he's willing to give you up is because of that. He clearly doesn't want to go out with someone who goes throwing herself around everywhere. What's the point of going out with someone like that? It's not special then... Anyway, either stop having so much sex and throwing yourself around everywhere, or give up your boyfriend and become a call girl. You, personally, probably can't stop the sex, so honey, hate to tell you, but give up your boyfriend and become a call girl. It's the harsh truth.

Q: how do you talk to a guy when you dont know how old he is or what his name is. he looks like he might be older than me though but by like a year maybe two. im only 15 but im really really shy when it comes to guys. i only see the kid like once a week at our sister's soccer games but i mean were always there for an hour and a half but i cant get the nerve up enough to talk to him. what should i do? what should i say? what if i look stupid or he thinks im weird to be talking to him?helpp

My brilliant answer:
Try standing closer rather than farther away from him. If you work up the nerve to stand next to him, say "hi". Then you can start a conversation about what's right in front of you. The soccer game! It may not sound that exciting or romantic or anything but starting with babysteps is your best bet. Good luck!