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okay im sorta new at this and i really need help so anyone that can i need to know how farr is too far on a first date? (link)
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eh. it's the 21st century. things have changed.
but unless you both have morals, going slow on the first date is the way to go =]. like kissing.
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ive known this one girl for awhile and we have been talking on and off for a long time. we did stop talking for awhile and she had a boyfriend for bout 4 months andthey have been broken up for about 3 weeks. i stil have feelings for her but she doesnt want any relationships right now cuz she just ended one. what should i do? (link)
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well, i don't think she'll be needing a lot of "break" time between relationships. I think you should just straight up tell her how you feel. Make sure to add that you aren't "enforcing" anything [because technically, you're not. a BIG no-no would be to try to start a relationship with her when she's not ready or anything], you're just simply telling her how you feel about her. Tell her how long you've felt your feelings for her, then you'll know the truth: whether she likes you back, or not. she will most likely tell you how she feels about YOU, since you were so honest. :D I hope things work out for you both!
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well...yes i have talked to him and the thing is ..he just pushes me away...i've told him SOO many times i'm here for you just talk to me..and he wont...he'll even be at my house and we'll be fine and he'll just burst into tears and he still wont talk to me..i just dont kno what to do anymore it gets me so upset and angry and makes me feel like i'm doing something wrong :-/. (link)
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well.. before you do anything, just remember: YOU did nothing wrong. Now I'd just give him space. Let him deal with his own life for a while without you bothering, to see how things end up working out.
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okay..well me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 9 months now..and hes had a lot happen in his life lately (parents divorce and stuff)..but hes been takin' it out on me..and he'll promise me something and then break it saying he cant bc hes too upset..but he only says it when he doesnt feel like hanging out..and it really upsets me bc he lies a lot..should i break up with him or what?? i need HELP! (link)
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Did you ever talk to him about how you feel? No one is allowed to do that to you, no matter how "upset" they get. let him know that you don't like the way he treats you, even though you understand that he's going through some stuff. if he can't simply understand that [by saying "If you loved me you'd understand, blah blah blah, etc."] then I think it's time to find a better boyfriend.
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well im 15 and there is this guy ricky that ive liked for awhile & alot of people think he likes me 2, & the way he acts around me it seems like he does. but its been a few weeks since this whole thing started & nothing has happened.how could i talk to him about what his feelings are & if anything is going to happen without seeming like im pushin too hard? summer is days away & id like to figure out what is going to happen with us befor school is out. (link)
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maybe you should act like you like him too. Give him signals, give him compliments, and see how he responds: If he responds positively, then you can be more sure that he likes you back. If nothing goes on, then talk to him. Mention that you like him [hey, it won't hurt], and then once you confess that you like him, it automatically gives HIM the guts to confess he does too. If he doesn't, then at least know for SURE that he doesn't like you, rather than to be guessing your whole life about whether or not he ever liked you.
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about a week ago i was talking to this guy on the internet and he was asking me who i liked and i was like idk who do you like and he gave me all these clues that lead up to me then told me that it was me and then i told him that i like him. he is cute and makes me laugh (which i like) but on monday he went on this trip and my best friends bf waS there to. so of course they talked on the phone everynight then one day she told me that while they were talking he asked for my phone # but he hasn't called me yet, should i call him or just forget about him??? im am really confused (14) (link)
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Well, I don't see the harm in calling him [I don't know where people get that if you call a guy first, it makes you seem desperate?]. But yes, calling him is what I would personally do. I can tell you both like eachother, and he seems like a great guy, so if you truly WANT something to happen between the both of you, you have to break the ice [since it doesn't look like he's going to do it first.. he kinda seems shy?.. but there's NOTHING wrong with taking the first step] Then once you both start talking a lot more on the phone and stuff, it can help build a strong trust bond between the both of you. Bottom line: Go for it! You only live once. ;]
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Hey Alicia! well .... there's this guy that i like .. but my friend use to be REALLY obsessed with him and like him alot .. everyone else says that he likes me .. and he flirts with me alot he also trys to show off alot which is annoying! well he called one of my great guy friends and asked him if i was dating anyone(and i'm not) soo he asked me out... but i think that my friend still likes him ALOT ! the truth is .. we arent even really friends..we sorta grew apart..but i was just wondering if i should go out with this guy or not? i mean he's not even that great .. but i would be nice i guess to be with him ..
[ I'm 14 ] (link)
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Well, I think it all depends on how strong of a bond you have with your girl friend. I mean, if you're still best friends and all, then it wouldn't be right to go out with the guy. I'm not automatically saying that if you two grew more apart, then you should straight-away go out with the boy. I think the simple solution [or a way to make the solution] would be to talk to your friend and see if she still likes him as much as she used to. I know it's wrong to go out with someone your friend likes, but if she's over him. Then again, if he's not that great, then why risk the friendship? So in the end, communication with your friend, and realizing if he is worth it, is all that matters.
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ok, me and my ex broke up..and i want him back but he has a new gf now..and i dont think he wants me back..we went thro a lot..we are still good friends but i dont think he wants me back and ive tried to move on..i just cant...what should i do? (link)
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I know the usual answer would be to straight-out "move on". Well, I've been in the same exact situation, and I know saying that is easier than doing it. For a while, I couldn't go a day without thinking about him, or talking to him. But let me tell you, I just woke up one morning and he was no longer in my thoughts [also, I tried to think about all of his flaws, instead of how "perfect" he was to me.. this helped me realize how much he wasn't as GREAT as I portrayed him to be]. Once I got over all of that, we're still really good friends, so I think this will work out for you too.
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My friend wants to hook me up with this guy that I hardly even know! I know his name and that I am a few days older than him... but that is it. She asks me if I get to know him better of I would go out with him? I told her I don't know because I dont know him yet. She and her friend keep asking me if I think he is hot. I say "Umm sorta". What should I do?
PS he is my EX-Boyfriend's Best friend! (link)
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It seems like your "friends" are pressuring you to do too much. I think they should just, at least, give you more time to get to KNOW this guy, rather than to rush you in an undecided relationship with him. And second of all, they shouldn't care about how you feel about him. If you like him, then go for it :] but if not, then they shouldn't care.
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