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Q: I am in love with this guy that I met at camp about two and a half weeks ago. I can tell him anything and he can tell me everything. We are not going out right now becasue he already has a girlfriend. He told me that he wants to go out with me but he's not sure because he doesnt want to have a long distance relashionship. We live in different townships...but we call and text each other every day. I really LOVE him. I would kill myself for him if I had to. but... what if it doesnt work out in the end?? I don't know what I would do.. He is my EVERYTHING!! Please help me out!! : )
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Eh, having a long distance relationship is Really tough. I was going to do it once... But I thought about it and decided against it. Only for the reasons of, Not being able to see her.. Which is the main reason they usually don't work out, but if your ok with that, and there can be trust issues because you have no clue what he does while hes away from you. Also.. You said he has a girlfriend... What if you end up dating and he does the same thing to you as hes doing to his current girlfriend.. Which is talking to another girl. Since you do know that he does it, how do you know you'll be able to trust him.
My point is, I don't think long distant relationships work out =(. I'm sorry.
I mean if you can get him to have a long distant relationship and you want to Try... Then do what you gotta do, but always remember there is a great possibility it might not work out how you planned it, which can cause more hurt later on as you get attached to him.
Thanks for coming to me for advice. I'm here if you need anything else or just wanna talk. =D
Best of Luck!
-AM
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Well, I have an Answer!!!
I LOVE YOU.......
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Q: ok my friend keeps saying he likes me and he is going out with my friend she is clueless on this whole ordeal and i really like the guy and this always happens to me and hes telling me to wait for him for like 5 more months but he is wanting to kiss me makeout with me hold hands etc. and i just dont no if i should tell the friend or not and should i tell him i loe him to cause i kinda do.
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I don't really see why he says "Wait 5 months" if he really cares about you, but ok.
I wouldn't make out with him or anything like that though since he is dating your friend.
That's a good way to lose a friend, if you get caught with her boyfriend or anyone finds out. The best thing to do would be to talk to him about it and ask Why he wants to wait 5 more months if he really does like you and want to be with you. This also could save your friendship with both of them, yes your friend might get mad that you all start dating... but theres a greater possibility she would get over it faster than you doing stuff with her BF.
You should talk to your "girl" friend about it though so maybe she will understand where your coming from so you could possibly stay friends through this.
Just DON'T go behind your friends back with this, it could ruin your friendship.
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Q: hallow there! my name z sef fom East africa. i have a girl, that i love from my heart, i mean i want her to marry me! bt, when i am talking to her, she says she doenst feel anything for me, she dislike me, she talks to me as normal as she talking to other men. since got her phone number, no day gone withoud heard her voice, bt if i get emergency, or i am sick' even one day. she never call me, or even text me' so, i wonder how bad will it be! and i didnt approach any other girl, since i first met her, my age is 18, hope you will take your time to answer me, if you reaaly need to help,ask me: Sef_1za@hotmail> hope to hear from you soon!! thanks
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Um, I don't really see the question in this?
However, if she doesn't have feelings for you, and it's been awhile then it's probably best to move on.
-AM
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Q: You gave me such great advice on this question: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=539679
That was a month ago but i still have the same problem!
I really have been thinking about what you said. About not ending things. The problem with this whole thing is that i want to be with him, i just know its not whats best for me right now. I cant enjoy my friends and my life when im thinking about him. So i dont know what to do because i like him so much, and i miss him but i know i shouldnt. And im happier without him. But im so happy with him. And im torn between the two. And i can get over him when hes gone but then ill run into him or hell call me in the middle of the night and it all goes down the drain. We wer talking until three last night! And we both log off at the same time and go straight to sleep so hes the last person i talk to and its driving me crazy! I have to get over him, and have him get over things also so that we dont go back to eachother. I told him al of this, and he sais he respects my decision but he dosent agree because he thinks its too much hurt for both of us. But he wont stop texting me! And its my fault for answering.
So do you think i should just stop answering?
If i dont hell just send me a really sweet text like "you looked so cute today" and i melt and then i have to answer!
Is he manipulating me or just trying too hard?
It dosent help that the whole world is trying to set us up!
Im in over my head and i just want to get out. I heard the easiest way out is in but im willing to take the hard way i just need some guidence. Help please! Thank you so so much! =)
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Hey there,
Have you told him "i want to be with him, i just know its not whats best for me right now. I cant enjoy my friends and my life when im thinking about him. So i dont know what to do because i like him so much"? If not then you should.
Don't let him talk you into doing something you don't want to do. Relationships are serious to alot of people. I know they are to me, and if your not looking for anything serious right now then just talk to him about it.
Tell him if he respects you and really does care he should give you the time and space you need.
If he still goes on, try not even reading the texts, just delete them incase he does say something sweet. It's hard to tell if he's manipultating you or trying to hard. I did the same thing to a girl once and just kept trying to push her into going out with me.
Happy to say... I don't do that anymore because it just pushes them farther away.
I'm sorry you're in this situation.
Best of Luck!
-Austin
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