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well, i have a boyfriend, and he really likes me and i really like him...the thing is that one of my best friends really likes him (i found this out through one of my other friends, and that my friend that likes him said " i really wanna go out with him, but i dont wanna hurt her (me) feelings") im not supposed to know about this bbut now i do and it really bugs me because i have to pretend that i dont know and im really scared that my boyfriend will dump me for her...i really wanna be nice and considerate, but at the same time i just wanna be like "Back Off!" so im really confused as to what to do and im really stressed out from worrying and keeping it a secret. (oh yeah and its like really hard for me to talk to her face to face without feeling angry or like im gunna spill that i know) what can i do for this to die off and that my friend will stop liking my boyfriend?! its just really hard for me because i have has numerous boyfriends who have dumped me for my best friend...and i just dont want that to happen again....what do i do????

Forget Being Nice. SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND if she is doing all this.Tell her how you feel and if she doesnt lisen then tell her loud and clear to BACK OFF. She made me mad at her by just reading this.Like you said it YOUR BOYFRIEND,so she should not be acting like that.


And That Is not being selfish your NOT suppose to share boyfriend.

Dont just go up and yell at her though just tell her what it is.Say "Look ______(her name) i kno you like _____(your bf`s name) and I undrestand that but you need to back off him because i wold not do that to you so please stop because its realy bothering me"

If she still doesnt back off then tell her the MEAN way.But try the Nice way first.


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ok well there is this boy that i really like hes 18 and im 14. I saw him on hi5 and i have talked to him through msn and he is really sweet the thing is i want to ask him to be my boyfriend i know he will say yes. But i dont want to go behind my parents back and im scared they may find out they are strict and i know my sister will be disappointed as we have a really close relationship. What shall i do??
thanks a lot
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First Of all this MAN is WAYYYYY too old for you.He is 18 and your 14. He could go to jail for that. I was in the same kind of situation before and i told my mom. My mother kept telling me that all he wanted was sex. When it came down to meeting him.....my mom was right.

You say you saw him on hi5 and you talked on msn.Well sweetie thats call a predator Im not saying thats what he is but he might be.

Talk to him and tell him how old you are.If He already knows then he should know that he can go to jail.


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