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ok well i have a boyfriend and i really liked him in the beginning and we ended up having sex..now i mean i still like him but i feel like all thats keeping me with him is that we had sex so i feel like i have to keep going out with him now.. and hes really into me and i dont know what to do because it was my first time and im not sure if i should stay or what

you shouldnt feel like you have to stay with him just because you ahd sex. if you dont like him anymore, leave him. your not a trap or a slut or anything for having sex and then leaving. if there's no chemestry then you shouldnt lead him on.
hope i helped!!

-emily

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ok so i like this guy , and im not really sure if he likes me or not ..... he always says he does but hes a real joker and i cant really figure him out ..... and he might have a girlfriend but then again im not really sure. Help Me!!!!!!

umm ask him? lol all you have to say is have you ever wanted to be more than freinds? and if yes, then do you still? and then wooo hoo you know what he thinks. and you should figure out weather he has a girlfriend or not before you ask him.

-emily

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Me and my bf do it. but, i know he likes it and gets off, but i always feel like i will and never do. What is the matter and how do i fix this?

talk to him! tell him what YOU like. hell probably even get off on you enjoying yourself more than him ejoying himself.

change things up. try something new. something youve always wanted to do. the sky is the limit.

tell him what hes doing rught and guide him in the right direction. who knows what you like better than you ? most guys are clueless when it comes to what a women REALY wants in bed. so help him out!

hope i helped!
-emily

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there is this guy in 9th grade that i think is really hott..and im only in the 7th. and we kno each other..and talk and stuff..but just not that well, and he knos i think he is hott..but, he said wen im in 9th grade he'll think about goin out wit me. which is okay..that doesnt bother me..but im really starting to like him and i have a b/f..and my b/f always asks me if i like anyone else, and we are truthful to each other so i tell him i like the 9th grader..and hes like wat? hes barley in high school..so he acts weird about it or w/e wen i tell him..and i fell like i can only tell the 9th grader stuff..and not any of my friends..because they might take it weird..so..idk..im just confused..is this normal or w/e??- -sry it sounds so retarted..i rate..please help!

wellll the reason you probably feel you cant talk to anyone else but the freshman is because no one in your grade SERIOUSLY likes anyone out of there school. they may think that high schoolers are hott. but they never start to like them. i dont think anything will happen between yall until you reach highschool. because no highschooler goes out with middle schoolers... for now just be his freind. talk to him about things that you cant talk to your freinds about. i wouldnt talk to your boy friend about it b/c he is just going to get jealous. but then again, dont hide things from you bf. if he asks something about this 9th grader answer him.

hope i helped
-emily

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uh...whats the best way for me to shave my balls?

well being a girl, and since ive never shaved a guys balls, i dont know.. lol sorry

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Hi I'm 15 years old and I'm a female. For some reason I think my ex is ignoring me. I dunno if he's mad at me or what for not talking to him when he IMed me one day. I was really upset that day especially when I saw him flirting with a bunch of different girls. Why do I always feel hurt by him everytime I see him with another girl? We only went out for a week over a year ago. What can I do to make this feeling go away?

i know what you mean, i think that we always want the boy when we cant have him.. even though it sucks, all you can do to stop feeling like that is get over him and try and find a new guy for your self! you shouldnt have to sit around and watch him with a bunch of girls, make him realize how much he misses you too..

hope i helped- sorry im having a bad advice day...
-emily

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My boyfriend wants me to do more with him than just making out. I guess I'm kinda prude & clueless. What else is there to do besides having sex/oral?

well he can finger you, you can give him a hand job, he can feel you up, the sky is te limmit! lol have fun

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I like this guy. He's really cute and we are friends. we hang out sometimes out of school and talk online and stuff. When it comes to my feelings about him i can't really describe it. I've only told one friend about it and she said that i'm in love with him but i don't think that i'm IN LOVE with him. We flirt a lot but then theres this new kid at my school. We met at a football game for my local high school but he didn't remember me cuz i got my hair cut. He flirts with me too but i don't really think he likes me and i don't really either but today he tried to look up my skirt and that kind of weirded me out. please help me

for the first guy----i dont think that you are in love eitehr, you probably just like him alot! sooo GO FOR IT , you wont notice how much you lied him until you cant have him ----------------------------the second guy, i thhink yall are just flirts, like playful flirting , nothing serious and the whole looking up the skirt thing is just a guy thing , b/c all guys woulld have done that! i know some guys that they dont care if they think your hot or not, they would still try to look up your skirt!
HOPE I HELPLED
-em-

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well there is this boy that lives up the street from me and i like him alot and i really want to get to know him... but i am not sure how tho... i want to meet him and get to really know him becuz he seems real nice and cool but i dont want to be obviouse that i am in to him. please help me!!

causually bump into him , like at a park or out side, if you and he share a freind, see if you all can go see a movie or go to the mall or something!!
GOOD LUCK
sorry im kinda having a bad advice day! lol
-em-

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this girl and I like each other... but i feel like shes losing intrest. what should i do?

do things that she is interested in........tell her shes GEORGOUS and not hot....maybe shes just as a new crush..... girls tend to chage thier minds alot.... but even if hat is true .... shes liked you before so she can liek you again!
hope i helped

SORRY IM HAVING A BAD ADVICE DAY !
good luck
love/advcie
-em-

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HELP! ive been dating my b/f for 2 weeks and valentines days coming up..i know 2 weeks isnt that long but ive dated him before for a LONG time.(2 years) so what can i get him.. i have no idea ..help!!! hes kinda skater plays guitar n drums..HELP please!

get him a LARGE gift card to Giutar Center or a music store.....and maybe some calone,.. GOOD LUCK
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*emily*

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Ok, I finally started crushing on this guy, lets call him Bob, like 3 months ago, or somehting like that. He and one of my guy friends got into a fight before that, so me and Bob never really talked. I didn't evn know who he was. Then..., I started noticing him, and realized his locker was like 8 aways from mine. I was really phsyced ... I mean I'm a freshmen, and I've had a ouple of crushes this year, but nothing serious, like more then 2 weeks until I started noticing Bob. I started to get all these butterflies. Finally, after two months, I got the courage to finally talk to him. I asked him to meet me in the library once and after that we started talking. That's when I reallly fell for him! =) And then we decidedto keep meeting after school at the library and stuff and I called my friend Alice, because I knew she USED to like him and she talked with him, so I thought maybe she could help a sista out. lol. Firstly, I asked if she liked him and she's like 'um, no, i don't think so ... ' and i explained the whole story and told fhger everything. She said she'd talk to him. So the next day, my friend Kyle calls me and says I saw Alice & Bob in the library on top of each other and flirting, so i was like wtf...?! And I called her, and she said she talked to him and he told her he didn't like me. SO I was like oh, ok, I mean what was I supposed to do? ANd she told me how HE *was all over* HER! And I was like, well are you guys gonna go out or what? And she's like no, he's too much, too fast. And the next day I asked him about her. He's like 'wtf, i hate her. what a jealous bitch. i'd choose you over her ANY day, he told me that like 21 times, lol. And he'slike she's just jealous, what a jealous hoe. So then, I just you know, went on with it and then I hear that he wrote here a not later on that say say said dont ever fucking o talk to me you fucking bitch i hate you dont look atme dont talk to me ... etc. so then she strats saying stiuff that the only reason I like BoB is cause she does, which SOO isn't true, cause I asked her in the first place. S me and her aren't talking and we USED to be best friends, so yeah. then here comes the problem, Monday, no school, Tuesday I saw Bob, and said HEY to him, i was shy, lol, and I havn't seen him since. I asked around, and I thought he had ACes(suspension!) but he didn't and I heard that he left to Siberia or somewhere (he's arabian) because its some arabic holiday. BTW, he'sonly 50% arabic. And i did notice that lots of Arabs were missing in school today, so I'm not sure if its that. then I also heard that he went to iraq or palestine or wherever for 2 years and he's coming back his junior year! i was like no, i seriously wanted to cry. then I heard, he moved/transfered. my one friend has class with him and she said he was moving or something bcz he returned his books and yturned in transfer papers so I'm not sure ... He was actually the first guy I've felt reall good about. I mean just when things were going good, things got screwed up. SO does anyone know if there *IS* an ARABIC HOLIDAY? and please I need help with all of this, I don't even know what to do. I'm like obsessed with the guy, I fell for him wasy too soon and he's just gone for sure now without a site. I'm still going to try to talk to his friends but I'm not sure. I just need some help, what to do about all of this. And I CAN'T moce on ... there is NO ONE else.! thanks for at least taking the time to read this!

wow ...well im not sure about the holiday thing but maybe you should get his number and call him ...s.ee whta going on .......as for your friend....talk to her...tell her how you felt about him and how even if he was all over her she should have not let him be! girls are weird about that ...maybe she still liked him and didnt want to tell you b/c she didnt want HER to keep YOU from liking him./////idk hope things work ou
GOOD LUCK
love/advice
*emily
((sorry im having a bad advice day))

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i now kno why Nsync* made that song
God Must Have Spent a Little More Time on You
because you are beautiful



so wuts a guy gotta do to get a date
15male btw

lol....i guess IM me? sourlime11

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wow okay ... very wierd situation.. help! i like my x-boyfriends friends. and when i see him my x-boyfriends there sometimes and i just feel so wierd.. not to mention i still love my x!! but he doesnt want a relationship with me b/c e dont go to the same school. So i dont know if i should continue a relationship with this guy or get over both him and my x? HELP

it depends...if you REALLY like your x..then keep him close and then you will always have a chance...the other guy you could still be with if you like him....i know its weird liking two guys and one more than the other (ive been there) but you just have to go with what you think is best...if things are too akward w/ your bf around your x then maybe you should wait a while to see what you really want...GOOD LUCK
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*emily*

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Ok...So, what do I do if my boyfriend of like 2 years has a crush on my step-mom? My dad married her like 2 years ago,and dont get me wrong, I like her but shes like 25 and she dresses really slutty. Please I need your help.

first of all...set your boyfriend stright..he dosnt have a chance w/ her b/c shes marrie and hes with you !!!
as for the step mom i would talk to your dad...may be for christmas buy her less sluty clothes...maybe you should even sit your step mom down and tell her that you think that she should wear clothes a little less "reveling"
say that some of you friends have said thins and it embaresses you. GOOD LUCK
(sorry im having a bad advice day...) MERRY CHRISTMAS
love/advice
*emily*

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Hi! ok i'm a 13/f who's in a rut. i need help please! k here's my question: i like this guy but i don't know if he likes me back. he's nice to me but i don't know if he's being nice to be nice or b/c he likes me. i've dropped small hints, but i can't tell if he gets them or not. he's super cute and really nice and smart. please help me out! *THANK YOU SO MUCH, btw you give awesome advice!*

first of all..thanks for the complements!!

as for the guy thing......dont forget you should be looking for hints too.....maybe ask "who do you like" and then laugh like it was a joke or something....maybe he will answer truthfully........guys can act wierd around girls they like.......ask some of your friends if you think he likes you .....if it is meant to be then it will happen.......even if he dosnt liek you now....he could later......so keep close even if you think things are hopeless!!
GOOD LUCK
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*emily*

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Okay i dated a guy for a couple of months and loved him like crazy! But he didnt go to my school. I mean ithought about him 24/7! And then i had one of those wierd moments where i thought i liked someone else so i broke up with him. and now i relize hes like the only one i wanna be with! and i still LOVE HIM SO MUCH!help!

if he like dyou before then he could like you again...tell him thatyou think that breaking up with him was a mistake.....if thats how you really feel. and if he wants to get back to gether he will. dont bring it up to much tho..then things will get akward! GOOD LUCK
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*emily*

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Okay well i really like this one guy. But EVERYYY time i go up to him in 4th pd. he run's to my best friend. or the girl that comes in from the office to hand the pink slip's out and everything. and this chick is waaayy prettier then me.. Everyone say's he likes me "sorta" too. buttt it doesnt seem like it. how should i get his atten-tee--ionn?!!?

drop SMALL hints...all you can do is be yourself and hope he likes you...dont go up to him too much and try really hard for his attention...guys find that annoying sometimes. GOODLUCK
love/advice
*emily*
(sorry im having a bad advice day)

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There is this really hott guy at my school and I really like but he only likes me as a friend what should I do, should I give him hints that I like him and maybe he will change his mind about me or what?

you should give him SMALL hints....try not to be really obvious tho...but then again..you dont want to runin your friendship...so be sure that things woulndt get wierd if yall went out and then broke up. GOOD LUCK
love/adviece
*emily*

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what should i do if theres a hot guy and u like him but he goes to a different school should i act on these feelings?
hahaha jk lol

im confused... do i like him ...or do you like him...and was this a joke question?? lol
*emily*
(write again and help me understand)

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