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*Carrie

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heyy carrie,
i meant by judging him as in i might c him w/ his friend nd think tht hes funny or nice but i dont really kno him so i dont kno... u kno.... neway nd i feel like im stalking him :'( i mean i always think about him nd glance at him nd he cs me smtimes i feel horrible
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Ahh..now I understand. What I don't get, is why that could possibly make you feel horrible? If you like him, and he sees you look at him, why is that bad? If you're worried about judging him, get to know him a little better. Strike up conversation when he sees you looking. You never know, he may have been looking too...
*Carrie

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i REALLY like this guy almost love him, yea baisically, we were nvr on the same "team" in school but weve been in band 2gether 4 3 yrs now, ne way i keep staring at him and i think hes seen me doing this nd i dunno if he thinks tht im totally like crazy or mayb if he likes me 2 i wanna go out with him but we kindof kno each othr but not really, is it wrong to want to go out with him or am i just judging him, though i ikno him a bit nd really Like him? THANX
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First off:
"i REALLY like this guy"
And you ask if i's wrong to want to go out with him? Of course not! If you have feelings for him, nothing can be wrong about that. You asked if you were judging him...judging him by what? Looks? Reputation?
If you like him, take a shot, what's the worst thing that could happen?
Good luck!
*Carrie

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hi , im a 14 year old boy and im currently in love with a girl but i dont think she likes me ... I've asked her out several times but it never works out . she is my best freind and i dont want to ruin that ... I dont know what to do . can you help me ? i want to be with her so bad . i dream about her all the time


Thanks ....
Worthless

Ok, first off, I refuse to call you worthless. Your name can be Wonderful..got it? Good.
So:
Dear Wonderful,
I really have all the information I need. When you've asked her out, has //she// said 'No' or has it just not worked out? Because hon, if she's said no, then she probably doesn't like you. And I know that sucks, it happens to me all the time, but there's nothing you can do about it. She may come around eventually, or she may not, but if she doesn't you're just going to have to be content with being her best friend, letting her lean on you when she needs you. I'm sorry this isn't what you wanted to hear, but you need to remeber that you're absolutely wonderful, and that it's her loss if she doesn't realize that.
*Carrie

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I really think I love this guy.. but he doesn't go to my school and I haven't seen him in a year. I really miss him because I, deep down, have always loved him. I try to make plans, but he's always playin hockey. I REALLY need to see him.. what can I do?

P.S. =>more info: i'm 13 (so is he) im in 7th grade (so is he) he's totally hott, and sweet (so am i... ok i'm juss sweet, im like OK but he thinks im hott) and he lives near me (we're only one school district apart.

THANKS FOR YOUR TIME!

Try going to one of his hockey games. It shows 2 things.

1) That you are intetrested in his sport
2) That you are possibly interested in //him//

If that isn't possible, try going to his house (since he lives near you) and ask him to explain hockey to you. Even if you understand it, guys like it when they get to talk about something they enjoy.

Hope this helped you...please, tell me how it worked out!
*Carrie

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Hello all,
What does it mean when ur Gf of 2 1/2 years makes me decide all the time, gives me options, (eg) go to my house her house or out, then when i say, choose my house she will tell me she has no way to get here, it really pisses me off, because she should know what she wants and not make things difficult. what should i think from this? i hope that makes sence, i know it probly isnt that big of a deal to you but it is to me. Thanks

Hey,
From what I can gather, she wants the romance back. When she says she has no way to get there, she, in her mind, is waiting for you to be a gentleman and offer to pick her up and drive her there. Might I suggest you plan a very romantic evening for her? Maybe pick her up, open the door for her. Drive to a fancy dinner, pull out her chair. Pay for her dinner. Take her to a movie and buy her popcorn. That sort of thing will remind her that you are still capable of providing romance, and probably get her off your back.

Good Luck. Please inform me of how everything went!
*Carrie

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When I started Junior High, I noticed this guy and he seemed pretty cool. At first I kind of thought he was weird because of the way he looked (long hair,converse high-tops..etc) but then I got to know him and sort of developed a crush on him. By the end of 7th grade I became OBSESSED and one night with a box cutter, I just carved his name into my arm. He never noticed. It seemed like he had a crush on me too for a while, he would call me things like "cutie" and "sweetie" . The beginning of the year he seemed like he liked me still, and I hadn't told him about my scar. I needed to get it off my chest, so I told my friend who has him 6th period to tell him and she did. After school he looked scared and luckily he didn't see me. The next few days he would look at me and the stare at the ground. He supposedly said he "hated me" because I carved his name into my arm. It doesn't make sense, how could he change his feelings that quickly? Now he thinks I'm this weirdo. What should I do? I still have major feelings for him, even though I don't show it. Because I feel like I can't. Please help me.

Hey,
Wow, harsh. I don't really know how to say this, but carving his name into your arm is a form of self-mutilation. If you have been doing anything else like that you should really get help. There are hundreds of people out there who are willing to help you, and you should contact one of them.

It's good that you told him about it, it would have been worse if he had found out for himself. Try telling him that you are sorry if you weirded him out by doing what you did but that it was just an expression of your feelings.

Please, let me know how everything goes, and GOOD LUCK!
*Carrie
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ok so i'm 15 and i really like this guy and he liked me too, for a while, then he changed his mind about me, i still like him though and i want to have a relationship with him. How can i get him to like me again?

Hey,
Alright this may not be what you want to hear, but, if he "changed his mind" about you, is he really a trustworthy guy? I don't think so.

If that doesn't bother you, try just being a friend...you know, someone he can laugh with, but don't get too serious. Hopefully, this can gradually progress.

Good Luck...please fill me in on what happens!

*Carrie

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I am 19 years old and have been seeing a girl for 2 and a half years. We recently broke up over christmas but have still been seeing each other because we get on really well as friends. I put my cards on the table so to speak and told her how i feel that i still love her and i want her back. She replied im still in love with you but i dont want to be in a relationship at the moment. When we see each other i keep on saying to her that i will get her back and she agrees with me she says we need time apart. Which i am willing to do if it means i get another chance becasue i really do care about her so much. The only thing i am scared of is there is another lad on the scene whos she assures me they are not seeing each other and just friends which i beleve, but im scared that when we are having our time apart she ends up having feelings for this lad and i wont get her back at all. What is the best way to go about trying to get her back?

Hey,

I say, you choose you favorite blunt force weapon of choice and beat him until he swears to stay away for your ex.

Or, you could try trusting this woman that you apparently love when she says she loves you as well. And, if, by some chance she does end up with feelings for the other man, then at least the woman you love will be happy. Right?

Good luck, and I'll be rooting for you!

*Carrie

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